what should I do ????

Question

I am married but , I am in love with another man, whom Ive known
for atleast five years, and he really cares for me too alot.., what should I do , but theres is one problem , I still love my husband....

Answer 1

You will look into your own heart and find the answer...Things are not always as cut and dried as some people would like them to be...Yes you can be in love with 2 people at once...but U can only be committed to one person at a time...Right now your committment is to your husband...in the other relationship you are not fullly committed to him nor he to you....but as long as U R comfortable with it no one has a right to judge you.........

Answer 2

I don't believe you. It is possible to love more than one person - you love your mom, your dad, your kids, your friends - but that's not romantic love. That total commitment to one person can only be felt for one person.

Think about your husband and ask yourself this question. How would I feel if I had to spend the rest of my life with this man (and no other man)?

Now think about your "other man". Ask yourself, how would I feel if I had to spend the rest of my life with this man (and no other man)?

One of those answers should have made you feel all warm and fuzzy. That's the guy you should be married to.

If neither of them made you feel warm and fuzzy, then maybe you shouldn't be married at all, because you haven't met the right man yet.

Of course, if you have kids, then it's a different ball game. Whether you stay married or not has a lot to do with them, and you need to see a marriage counsellor to sort this out. Go on your own at first, so you can be honest about this other relationship with the counsellor.

Answer 3

you should gain some mental maturity. Every married person at some point might find someone else more appealing then the one they married. If your a moral person with a good head on your shoulders YOU KNOW YOU DON'T ACT ON IT. You don't even think of acting on it!. The grass is not always greener. What you do is build more on your marriage put the extra lust energy into your husband. If your unable to act mature you start sleeping with the dude screw over your husband and go on Jerry springer join the type of trash.

Answer 4

I would suggest you stop doing whatever it is your doing with this other man and get back to whats real and right at home.

You won't, but in the long run, it would be best, unless your husband is abusive or absent most of the time.

Even then, You should end one thing before starting another. Otherwise your just a liar and a cheat.

Now it's your call.

Answer 5

If you don't have kids yet, then maybe u shouldn't be married yet either. Still love and in love? You didn't say the other man loves you. Your husband married you. What did the other guy do for you? I think that says alot.

Answer 6

IF you loved your husband you wouldn't be in love with another man. Either end your "friendship" with this other man and focus on your marriage or divorce your husband and jump into bed with this other man. But don't expect much because I can guarantee you that this other man is just as human as your husband is and has faults as well.

Answer 7

that a girl! have your cake an ice cream both....why not? just ask him for a open relationship. then he can fall in love or have his playmate on the side too.

Answer 8

you are telling lie.
you can't love 2 person at a time.
think yourself carefully, watch which side is more havy with your love.
then go where you think more weight.

Answer 9

Girl stay with your husband, and ask GOD to forgive you.

Answer 10

Have an affiar. What? Thats what she wanted to hear.