you thought her child might be autistic. I'm not 100% certain (as I'm not a doctor) but she certainly exhibits alot of symptoms. My friend is a bit like a "stepford wife" and my not take well to her child not being perfect...she may lash out at me. We are pretty good friends and have known each other our whole lives. Should I say something, or just wait for someone else to mention it??
2006-10-05 12:00:52 · 15 answers · asked by Trixie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
What if you were her? What if it were your kid that was autistic? Put your self in her shoes.
But, in my opinion, I wouldn't tell her. She might lash out at you, and that might hurt your friendship. And you wouldn't be able to do anything about her child; she wouldn't beleive you and you destroyed your friendship. Is it worth it?
Also, make sure you are there when she does find out. She will need a good friend that will be there for her. Don't tell her you knew, especailly while she is upset, she might say, why didn't you tell me? or something off sided like that.
Just before you do anything, think about how what you will say and how she might react. it can't hurt.
Good luck. remember? is it worth losing a friend
Oh, and if it bugs you to death, you could find a magizene with an article with symptoms of autism in it and plan a you and her time alone, and both of you flip through the pages and she might think "does he have this"
but, i would say, say nothing
well, once agian (lol) Just be careful of what you say!
2006-10-05 12:07:19 · answer #1 · answered by Horse Lover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a touchy subject.....i am over 40 years of age...But fortunately, i did not have a child that was autistic....but it is best for you to "STAY OUT OF THEIR BUSINESS"...WHY?.. because, she could get very mad and lash out at YOU!!! plus LIKE YOU SAID YOU ARE NOT A DOCTOR...and she may tell you that!!! You are friends now....but i would tread on water lightly...LET THE DOCTOR TELL HER....not a friend...she will go through all the stages: denial, anger, grief, and finally acceptance...or if she cannot accept it..she will have to put him/her in a home...That is the reality of it...But mum is the word!!! it is safer...really! and that is a tragedy no one wants...
2006-10-05 12:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it worth losing a friend over? i think you should say nothing and just be there for her when someone else says something or she finds out from a dr. I know you want to tell her because you feel it will help the child but if she is truely like that then you could be risking losing a life long friend.....
2006-10-05 12:05:17 · answer #3 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to me with my mom and my little brother I never said anything cause my mom would automatically make up excuses for him from the beginning. By the time he was 5 she was calling me saying he had autism and mild retardation. I love my mom amd my brother so I just calmly stated then that I had known all along. You should just wait the drs. will see it soon enough.
2006-10-05 12:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely say something. She may not be happy when you first tell her, but if you choose not to her child will ultimately be the one to suffer. The child should be checked out by a doctor as soon as possible. The sooner he/she is diagnosed, the sooner they can be treated to help it.
2006-10-05 12:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not say anthing. I am sure she takes the baby to the doctor who would know. It will cause too much stress between you and her and really what is the benefit of you giving an uneducated opinion.
2006-10-05 12:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by skipymcgoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that your friend is going to get mad at you for telling her that,you need to let her know that you need to talk to her about something that you are very concerned about,and tell her what you are about to tell her,she should not get mad at you for telling her.If she is your friend,she would not get mad at you at all for trying to let her know something that is important and something she need to go get checked out.If I were you I would sit down and talk to her about it and if she was to get mad,I would let her be mad cause if that is your friend she would get over it and keep on being your friend no matter what.But you can also decide rather or not to tell her,by thinking if that was you,How would you feel if she was to tell you something like.Also,if you still decide to tell her,you need to think about what you are going to say and how you are going to tell it to her.Then pray and ask the LORD to guide you through that situation.Remember everyone is different,everyone is not the same.Just because you would not get mad at her for telling you something like that,dose not mean she wont get mad.In case it is true about her child,be their for her as much as you can,cause that is what friends do for one another.If she gets mad just give her some time to get over it.Good luck and GOD Bless.
2006-10-05 12:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.pierre3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it unless she aks you for your opinion. that is a very touchy subj for a mother. noone wants their child to have special needs and if she doesn't see a doctor will soon tell her at one of the child's many visits. stay out of it unless you are asked it will only create problems. take care and good luck
2006-10-05 12:03:52 · answer #8 · answered by TNW22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha. permit him have faith what he needs. yet, in the olden days, human beings would placed on those extensive-unfold neclace form issues that had the entire hebrew alphabet with a stone next to it, and whilst they talked to God he would respond by letting flashes of sunshine mirror off the stone so as that it might spell issues. thats what i bear in suggestions besides. thats from the bible. dont do something to disillusioned your pal besides. non secular debates can get rather undesirable. who's many times going on with? consistent with probability he does have a telephone that shall we him confer with God. and yet or you could tak to him is thru prayer. buuuttttt, in case you had to communicate to God, why would there be telephone wires?! and that i dont think of heaven is honestly interior the universe. God doesnt want telephone wires! He can do something! i admire him plenty. love, alice.
2016-12-26 10:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but on this one I would mind my own business. If it is that noticable the school she attends will contact the mother, and then she won't be pissed at you, thinking you are looking down on her children
2006-10-05 12:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by brunette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋