All kinds of advice is welcome.
2006-10-05 11:49:53 · 20 answers · asked by bluerain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Never go to bed angry at each other, and always communicate!!!!!! Congratulations!
2006-10-05 11:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first month is the worst month... in terms of figuring each other out. Lots of little things that you used to think were "cute"... are going to become annoying.
If you've already been living together, it will still happen, because this is "the real thing"... and you might feel kind of "stuck" sometimes.
Just remember that the newness wears off, you aren't passionate about them EVERY day, and life can be a hastle. Your partner is not there to make you happy. You have to decide to be happy, and you both have to compromise.
Sometimes it will seem like you're giving 100% and he's giving zilch. Other times, he might feel that way about you, too. It will be that way.
Once you've been through everything there is, and done all that together, a sort of peaceful calm sets in, and you won't argue about hardly anything any more. That's totally worth waiting and working for.
Sex really does get better when you both know what the other one wants without wondering or asking. Don't be afraid to show & tell... otherwise, you won't learn those important things about how to satisfy one another.
If you're lucky enough to have kids, they will totally drive you crazy. Some day you will be glad they are leaving, so your nest can be empty again. But when you look at their little faces... and you see glimpses of one another in those eyes and smiles... your love gels.
Work at it.
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2006-10-05 18:58:39 · answer #2 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be best friends, try to create an atmosphere where you can tell each other anything without fear of being looked down on. Keep the small stuff small, many waste way too many nights fighting over the little things, you dont have to agree on everything you just have to respect the others opinion. Marriage is a partnership not a competition, sometimes winning a fight is a case of winning the battle but losing the war. Keep the sex life going. Good luck
2006-10-05 19:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK you know when they say the 1st yr is the honeymoon stage, yea right! that's a big fat lie! You two will be getting to know each other and finding out things you never knew so it will be a little rough, but it will smooth out, don't take everything he says and make it out of a mountain, remember he is a man, and he will think like one, so don't drive yourself crazy over it. If you have trust, faith, friendship, understand, communication it will all work out. Also do not going around telling people your business especially your family members keep your business between you and your hubby. Good Luck
2006-10-05 19:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 1.5 years and barely with my husband for 3 years.
1) Men need their space. When they get home from a stressful day give him some time to Veg out.
2) When we complain to men, they give us advise that we usually don't really want...we like to just vent. They tell us everything is fine...it is very annoying but be patient.
3) He needs to feel attractive and wanted.
4) It is okay to still be selfish from time-to-time. Call your friends, go shopping, don't lock yourself up in the house with your hubby
5)Money - most important. You need to sit down and seriously talk about money, plans, budget, goals, etc.
2006-10-05 18:54:45 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the most important things that I have learned since being married for 4 years is to choose your "battles" wisely. Don't argue over the dumb s hit! And don't go to bed angry with your spouse. Congratulations to you both. Peace.
2006-10-05 19:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats, and good luck! Don't listen to the nay-sayers, marriage is a wonderful thing. Appreciate and accept each other - this would be the best advice I could give you.
2006-10-05 19:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your soon to be spouse to sign a contract that says that you are going to get sex of some kind at least 3 times a week and 1 on the weekend.. pray hard... give 100% everyday...
2006-10-05 18:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by 57chevy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. learn to compromise
2. try not to argue ( i always walk out to get some fresh air if i know it's going to lead to an argument)
3. have atlaeast one meal together, no rush.
4. take atleast 2 week long vaction with your spouse (just you two, no friends or family)
2006-10-05 20:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Trans Atlantic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go through with it unless you respect and share his values and consider him your best and dearest friend.
Expect the relationship to change after the wedding. It will. Some good and wonderful--some painful and challenging.
There are three people in a marriage: you/him/God
2006-10-05 18:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by MARGA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust and compromise respect your spouse, communicate with him/her, spend time alone (not sexually), and most of all love them for who they are. celebrate love, never fight about an issue over 24 hours old and don't ever take the other person for granted.
Congratulations to you both!!!
2006-10-05 19:33:13 · answer #11 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋