its been 5 years since me and my boyfriend broke up, i loved him so much but not anymore.
ever since that happened i couldnt fall in love again, i've been single for 5 years now.
i began to think its not gonna happen ever, as deep inside me i keep comparing anyone who asks me out to my exbf and i find they are not, i feel so weak.
2006-10-05 11:37:02 · 17 answers · asked by Yasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
actually i went out with some guys, i give chances, but everytime i feel something is wrong.
2006-10-05 11:53:07 · update #1
there must be some reason the two of you broke up, faults of his you couldnt stand etc.
take off your rose tinted specs because if you think about it logically, you cant have been perfect together or the 2 of you wouldnt have split up.
you only get one life and 5 years is a hell of a long time to mourn someone. its also a long time to build this perfect image of him that no one else, let alone him could live up to.
maybe you're scared of being hurt again and using his "perfection" as an excuse not to get attached to anyone.
without wanting to sound like trisha, i'd seek help, because i'd bet you're just using him as an excuse not to get too deep into another relationship
2006-10-05 11:46:25 · answer #1 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not weak honey, just lonely. You obviously felt secure with him and trusted him deeply at some point, that's all. It's not so much that you are looking for someone like him, just a someone that gives you that comfort again. You can do it, believe in yourself that you are strong and have the very qualities you are looking for and love will come and find you. Good luck, be happy.
2006-10-05 11:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It usually happens when we loved someone so much. We keep comparing every guy with him. Maybe because we are still stuck on that guy. Or maybe cause really didnt appear someone better than him. Dont worry abt it cause when something needs to happen it will happen. So, someday you will find someone when you are not expecting anymore. If you keep thinking that you feel weak you will be weak. Remember: our mind is our commander.
I think is better you enjoy life now and dont think abt to replace him. If you keep busy with something that you like suddenly "the guy" will appear.
But, just one question: Did you already think to come back with your ex-bf? How is he living his life now? You didnt told if he already forgot you or not.
I hope to have helped you!
Good luck! :)
2006-10-05 14:20:57 · answer #3 · answered by Taz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there will never be anyone that will ever fill his shoes but you can find some one to take his place in your life and in your heart you need to stop looking back at the past and move on in life if you spend all your time dwelling in the past then you will never be able to more on and be happy it may sound harsh but dwelling in your past makes you a weak pwerson as it shows that you cant get on with your life just forget about him and move forward in life or do you actually want to remain living in the past you and your ex are history the sooner you acept that the better your new life will be best of luck
2006-10-05 23:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by Denver 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple - don't compare anyone to your ex!
Everyone is different, everyone has good points and bad points, everyone is their own person - just go out, find someone you like being with and enjoy whatever the future brings!!
2006-10-05 11:53:45 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's over, and u cant get it back ,then better try to be more among pple,new friends and many many events. try to take advantage of ur situation now. well do u really need to be attached to someone now? enjoy it !!!!!! but if there was love and he also feels the same why not to talk?
2006-10-05 12:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by sonya_p007 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from what is called "Tough S H I T Syndrome" If you had done more to keep him your life would not be over. Go to church and cry over it with all the religious nutters on here xx God Bless
2006-10-05 11:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
got the same problem but its only been a year for me, i think we have to realise why we broke up with them and were they really that great !!! im trying to think hes only round the next corner and im sure one day he will be. keep smiling
2006-10-05 11:43:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just think past it i have been single for about 3 yrs and im just ready now to get into another relationship i was scarred by my last relationship . all i can say is it takes time.
2006-10-05 11:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by scorpion_gurl88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop comparing other people to him - for starters you don't want anyone else like him because they will dump you for no reason - right?
2006-10-05 11:40:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋