I dont know what my problem is! but it seems that no matter how much I like someone and we go out, I end up losing interest or "stop" loving them after just a couple months. I dont know why though because Im so into romance and falling in love. I want to be in a serious long term relationship but for some reason I just get bored, wut can I do about this?
2006-10-05 11:34:16 · 25 answers · asked by LADii DiMPLEZ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because you're fickle and you like the feel of new things and new people in your life. When we have something new in our lives that makes us happy, our body excretes dopamine which makes us feel good. When we get used to something, the body stops excreting dopamine. For some people, the rush caused by dopamine excretion is worth more to them than the relationships themselves. This is true for people who have addictive personalities. You need to try to break out of this cycle or you will have it all of your life. And no guy is going to chase a 50 year old unmarried woman, so eventually your stream of new guys is going to dry up and you'll be alone.
2006-10-05 11:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
try dating a different type of guy than what you're used to. I'm not sure if this is the problem but maybe you should try to liven things up too, don't rely on them to entertain. get some ideas on how to bring exciting stuff into the relationship. just remember it's a 2-way street and you could help with keeping things interesting.
2006-10-05 11:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by lynne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are probably too young to be in a 'permanent' relationship and it seems to me you're doing exactly what you need to do at this time.
So date around and enjoy yourself and know that being infatuated and liking someone isn't love. You are 'into romance and falling in love" - not being and living in love. You may have friends who are getting married; do you really believe all these marriages will last?
Be wise. Have fun.
2006-10-05 11:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you probably just haven't found the right 1 yet. I used to have this problem myself, but I finally found someone I truly love. Have you ever considered trying a lesbian relationship? I'm with a man now, but I took a little break from them for a while and it helped a lot.
2006-10-05 11:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by kristen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes staying with a guy after the shine has gone out of a relationship is very hard. when we first start going out, we tend to overlook a lot of the qualities about someone that may cause us to see them as a real person.
What I'm saying is that you might like someone that is a jerk or just totally incompatable with you for a few months before realizing it.
Maybe you just haven't met the right one yet.
2006-10-05 11:36:44 · answer #5 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant try to fall in love it just happens
i was the same way and when i started dating my current boyfriend i was so scared that iw as going to lose intrest and 'toss him to the side' bc i really liked him and didnt want to do that. but then i realized that im in love with him and thats why the others didnt cut it because they were not him. weve been togetther almost a year and it still seems like it did the first month or so. butterflies, giggles, fluttering hearts. its wonderful
good luck youll find him sometime. just dont search, happen upon him♥
2006-10-05 11:43:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jordan Alexis 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem. You are into love and romance. Not the person you are supposed to be in love with. You are not in love with the person but rather with the idea of being in love. Try actually getting to know someone before dating them. It might actually help.
2006-10-05 11:41:25 · answer #7 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for a long serious relationship, just enjoy the guys but do not think long term.
2006-10-05 11:37:29 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its because they are not the right person for you and you have the common sense to see it. That's what dating is all about. Finding out. You spend a life time with your partner. Never settle for second best. You will only regret it.
2006-10-05 11:39:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be that you are confusing love with lust.. you lust after guys when you first meet them, but when the excitement over the novelty of a new guys wears off you lose interest.. love, on the other hand, is a committment and a conscious decision.. you make up your mind you are going to love someone and then you keep on loving them regardless of how long you've been with them..
2006-10-05 11:38:33 · answer #10 · answered by Byakuya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋