Okay, we've been married for almost 10 months. He's never had any oral stimulation (with anyone) if you know what I mean. I flat out asked him if he wanted me to be doing that, and he just said having sex the "old fashioned" way is fine by him. So here's my question. He seems shy about it, but I can't image he wouldn't enjoy it. We are going on a romantic getaway this weekend. Should I just do it without giving any warning or is that disrespectful? I suspect he's just being shy about it. What do you think?
2006-10-05 11:33:14 · 58 answers · asked by tsk tsk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He can't miss what he never had so that is why he says "old fashioned" is fine with him. He is your hubby and if you think he is being shy, you are probably right. Girl, I say give it to him real coy like. You know, ease into it. I am sure he won't be disappointed if you do it right. I have never heard of any man complaining that oral stimulation is "disrespectful"...lol...Hell, he might like it so much, you will get sick of it! He is your man. It is your job to please him. Show him something new. He's kinda like your "virgin" on this one. Whip it on him and don't be shy about it!! Go for it!! Have fun on your romantic getaway. Key word: romantic! Peace.
2006-10-05 11:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sweetie, you must have a really young one! The question is not, should you do it, but
why haven't you done it yet. You will both be very uncomfortable the first time or two, but you must!
Have you ever looked at the statistics for infidelity among married people these days. Keep your husband happy and make sure that he returns the favor. One day it will happen for him regardless if you do it or not. If it is someone else than he will be hooked and then you"ve lost your man.
Whatever you do, do not talk to him about this subject again. Every time it comes up he will become less responsive and shy. No one wants good old fashion love making all the time. Give it to him once and he will be putty in your hands. Relationships are about give and take, you give him oral pleasure, he gives you a new house, or something to that effect.
2006-10-05 11:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by thirty's not so bad! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tsk I here you there my wife was the same I asked her if oral was on the cards but she never actually gave me a flat out no
I don't like that , so I took it on my self whilst in the throws of heavy petting I said I want to do this for you if you find it disgusting or just plain uncomfortable stop me Ill be only to happy to consummate our love the old fashioned way . She was tense about it to say the least but once The pleasure started now she is hooked . Talk to him while you are making out ask him but don't push the situation after all you can try another time . But I'm sure he will get over his shyness if you let him know that its something you enjoy and he will also
2006-10-05 11:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by slick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think a person should ALWAYS ASK 1ST he may not want you to do go down on him as a surprise if he's never had it. I think it sounds weird he has not let you or ask you sounds like he has body image issues or is sexually very immature. Dose he give you oral? i would start with that. Watch a porn together get him educated about this. I don't know he just sounds to young to marry if he has this as a issue. Maybe i was just less sheltered.
2006-10-05 11:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men would not turn it down. Start off slow and undress him making it known that you are willing to go down. Kneel, undo his pants, lower them and then slowly start doing it. If he pushes you away try to press a bit (just incase he is shy) but if he is insistant then back off and start in on the "old fashioned" way. being completely seductive.
Remember that once you start you may not be able to stop. If he really likes it he may want and expect it more so if you really don't like giving it then it is better you leave it as it is.
2006-10-05 11:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by vancie121 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons for his decision. Some guys are afraid the sensation will cause eruption and they won't be able to recover effectively to have intercourse.
Tell him you've never done it before, but you dreamt about with him. another way is while he's sleeping.
Maybe he has a performance complex and doing you makes him last longer. There are so many possibilities.
I can tell you this. when I was young , it wasn't my first preference because I was a performance freak , but as one gets older , the more the need.
Do it while sleeping, Good luck
2006-10-05 11:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. The old fashioned way gets boring after a while. Sex is important in a relationship. Keep the flame going in the bedroom or where ever you choose to do it. Be spontaneous. Its not disrespectful.
2006-10-05 11:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that before you go ahead with it, tease him about (in a good seductive way), let him know what might be coming. (ha ha, what do u know, a pun!) Be gentle and feminine for sure when ur going down on him. PlayTalk to him while ur working ur way down. That way you'll relieve some of his shyness. Make sure its ur best performance since this is his first time! But then be prepared....he may enjoy it sooo much he will want it all the time! Good Lick!
2006-10-05 11:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by dreamlander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he is either shy or the one in a billion guy who is not interested in it. Just do it! Gee I can not belive this! Most men want it so bad and most women hate it. Now we have a woman who wants to give and has been married for TEN MONTHS to a man who has never had it and won't admit that he wants it! Sorry, not making fun. It is just VERY unusual.
2006-10-05 18:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe You need to talk about it with him before. tall him he should not be shy with his wife. Does he do that for you? Tell him you feel he will like it and it is something you really would like to introduce him to. Maybe start with all lights out. Then if he is OK then ask him to turn them on and watch you. But I think you should take the time to talk first. Good luck
2006-10-05 12:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋