How much of yourself would you give? What would you give up to be with the love of your life? ...to have that incredible feeling of being the center of someones world for even a brief time?
2006-10-05 11:19:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're missing the point. Love isn't about giving, it's about sharing. I didn't give my wife my heart. I share it with her. It's still my heart. Give your body to someone? No. You share it; for a night, for a lifetime, whatever you choose. But it's still your body. The choice to share or not is yours. The choice to continue to share or not is also yours.
I have hopes, dreams and goals. I didn't give those up for my lady. I fulfilled them with her; shared them with her, as she did with me. As in all things, hopes and dreams change. Many I tossed aside for others I found more valuable. New things became possible that were impossible before. Goals that were once attractive are no longer of interest. I didn't give them up; I traded up.
I haven't given her the best years of my life. I've shared the best years of my life with her. In return, she has "given" me nothing... but shared everything. Am I less of a man, or she less of a woman, because we have given up so much to be together? No. We are each more than twice as much, because we both kept everything we are, and received all that and more from the other.
Where do I draw the line? At the beginning. "Give" nothing. Share everything.
In order to achieve wealth, you must give up poverty. To gain knowledge, give up ignorance. To be an adult, cease to be a child. There is value even in being poor; advantages to being ignorant, and reasons to act childishly. But the value of these things pales in comparison to the value of what replaces them.
What would I give up to be with the one I love? To find true joy and contentment? I'd give up longing, and loneliness, and all the things I would otherwise have without her.
2006-10-05 11:56:54 · answer #1 · answered by antirion 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give as much of yourself until it either compromises your self respect or integrity. Love is wonderful and great, but you cannot sell youself for love without losing the love and becoming bitter. It is better for you and the other person for you to know your lines and keep to them- they will respect you more.
If you are talking about things like a job that takes a lot of thought. Love doesn't pay the bills. It is like Maslow's Hierarchy of needs- in order to reach the top of the needs list basic needs need to be met. One can't be in love when your more concerned about bills.
2006-10-05 11:29:30 · answer #2 · answered by gizbit76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give up everything. I am with the love of my life and I wouldn't trade that for anything. I grew up living in Hell. Then I married a very abusive man. Then I met my knight in shining armor and we have now been together 13 years. I am the center of his world and he is mine, with our three children. We may not have riches but we have it all!
2006-10-05 11:26:51 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming you mean that this great love will treat me like a Queen right? then I would do almost anything. I have given my everything to people all my life and not gotten half back yet. I would love to have a man shower me with love and affection. devote time to me and do things I like to do. Not just expect me to do what they want to do. I would love to have someone that would like to talk to me AND listen to me as well. If you find that kind of man ho;d on for dear life Girls you have a gem there.
2006-10-05 11:45:03 · answer #4 · answered by anne04char 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give my love 110% of me. The love of my life wouldn't have me give anything up in my life, just as I wouldn't want him to give anything up for me. Being in love is making it work, no matter what you two do. It's not having to give up anything, but incorporating anything and everything in both our lives.
2006-10-05 11:22:13 · answer #5 · answered by marypaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just go with the flow... I don't know what the "love of my life" means, cuz I've had several... And yes, there are risks and sacrifices, love's a risky business. One thing I would not sacrifice would be my self-respect - but I've never been asked to do so.
2006-10-05 11:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Love is something that you work at forever, its no brief time thing. You walk on hot coals for them, as they do for you. You don't give up. You mutually surrender
2006-10-05 11:28:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's just it, in love you shouldn't have to give up anything at least not your ambitous or dreams, being in love is not about that, it's about compromising, honesty, and strengh. And It ain't always about giving either. Before you love him love yourself.
2006-10-05 11:25:21 · answer #8 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You draw the line when you use common sense.
2006-10-05 11:25:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mother of three 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never give so much of yourself that you don't have anything left for you.
2006-10-05 11:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋