Have you gone through a bit of depression right before the baby is born?

Question

I'm at 34 weeks, and almost there, but I find myself just wanting this pregnancy to be over with. It is my first one, and before I got pregnant my husband and I were not having kids...5 years later here I am about to deliver our first.

My husband is very supportive, and I don't know how I would have made it this far without him. But every day I look down and there is a stretch mark that's grown (what seems like) another inch. It makes me wish that it would be November already so I could deliver.

I feel horrible for feeling so selfish, and I was wondering if there are any other women that have gone through, or are going through the same things I am now.

Answer 1

That's called PRE-partum depression, and there have been articles written about it, including one in the New York Times
http://www.nytimes.com/2001/08/14/health/womenshealth/14CHIL.html?ex=1160193600&en=d32af0172874f242&ei=5070

August 14, 2001
Childbirth: Prepartum Depression Also an Issue
By JOHN O'NEIL

Despite concern about postpartum depression, in reality, more British women are depressed during pregnancy than after giving birth, according to a study published last week in The British Medical Journal. The study, conducted by researchers at the University of Bristol, suggested that some of the vigilance now used to catch cases of postpartum depression should be directed at the previous nine months as well.

More than 9,000 pregnant women in Avon were given questionnaires meant to highlight depressive symptoms. The number of women who qualified as depressed was 11.8 percent at eight weeks in the pregnancy. The figure peaked at 13.5 percent at 32 weeks, then fell to 9.1 percent at eight weeks after delivery and to 8.1 percent after eight months.

Dr. Jonathan Evans, the lead author, said the emotional state of pregnant women should not be ignored, especially since the mother's mental state might affect the child. He also said counseling should be considered, especially in light of problems with antidepressant drugs in pregnancy.

Google web search for pre-partum depression
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&as_qdr=all&q=allintitle%3A++%22pre-partum+depression%22&btnG=Search

Google web search for prepartum depression (no hyphen):
http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&lr=&as_qdr=all&q=allintitle%3A++%22prepartum+depression%22&btnG=Search

Answer 2

its normal to feel depressed.. its called the baby blues :0 a lot of women get them for exactly the same reasons you are.. its not selfish at all.. you have had a baby inside of you kicking, and it gets exaugsting... I mean 9 months is a long time to lung around a big belly, and no woman wants stretch marks on our cute little butts, so yea that can get depressing too.. but ya know what.. november is really right around the corner and your in the home stretch ( i wish I was so lucky Im only 3 months ). If your depression is getting worse everyday you would need to call your Dr. about it so it doesn't progress...

Answer 3

Actually honey, I had a wee bit of post partum right after all of my births. It lasted for a couple of weeks. I was never depressed or feeling melancholy beforehand, just a bit of trepidition about if all would go well. You will be okay. It is probably raging whore-moans. Opps! Did I say that? LOL! Just kidding.

You will be just fine. Congratulations. By the way, after bathing with soap, pour baby oil on, rinse a teeny bit so you don't feel so greasy, and pat dry everyday when you are ready to get out of the shower or tub and keep using baby oil for the rest of your life.

Mommy? Stretch marks do not make a mother ugly. They bear witness to the fact that you have given a brand new little person life. Be proud of those stretch marks and yes, (in a wee little voice) you can diminish them with baby oil. Okay? Hugs, Sheri Your man better love you regardless if he is a good man. Nobody else matters. :)((((Sheri))))

Answer 4

I'm only 28 weeks with my 3rd I WANT my body back. He gets under my ribs I'm getting new stretch marks i pee 3 to 4 times a night. YOUR NORMAL The last few weeks and months get hard on your body. I can't shave without it being a hassle. IT WILL BE AMAZING WHEN YOU SEE THE BABY you do forget the discomforts it is SO WORTH IT in the end good luck every mom goes Thur this. I got a little bit of baby blues after the baby came 1st week it's hard not getting any sleep it gets better.

Answer 5

Is your child in any other case a whole-time period, healthful infant? If so, I'm a little bit confused through the over-response to what looks to be natural, mild jaundice. Generally, phases below 18-20 are NOT of predicament in a healthful infant. I might propose getting a moment opinion approximately the healing. I'd additionally propose preventing the components dietary supplements. If he is nursing good and most commonly, then he does not want them. (And four oz of components after each and every feeding is a HUGE quantity for a infant. He must be nursing approximately each and every two hours ... so he is getting forty oz+ of components in step with day? (Breastmilk is greater than components in clearing the bilirubin, when you consider that it is laxative. OTOH, a few infants do have a few moderate jaundice that's concerning breastfeeding itself ... however is absolutely innocent and benign.)

Answer 6

I had panic attacks. My husband was all excited and happy and here I am laying in bed crying and freaking out cause I'm due in two weeks! My family and friends talked me down though. A few days passed...I went shopping and bought baby clothes, picked a home coming outfit and then became excited. I still was ready to have her already and wouldn't you know it, she was a week and a half late!! It's okay to be selfish when you're pregnant I learned. You have to be because you're body is going through A LOT!

Answer 7

It's a hormonal and emotional time for you. It's hard to lose control of your own body. I'm having my third in Dec, and stretch marks are part of it. I used to worry about them, and didn't want my husband to be grossed out by them, but it doesn't bother him at all. because he knows how they got there.

Don't worry, after you hold that precious baby in your arms, you'll forget about those marks. For a while anyway. You might also try keeping your tummy buttered with some sort of stretch mark cream.

Answer 8

I know exactly what you are going through. I'm at full term right now, and all I want to do is hold my baby. Last night I started feeling real contractions and then they were gone this morning. I cried most of the morning. All I have to do though, is remember that the baby won't be in there forever, and he'll come out when he is ready.

Answer 9

go get yourself some cocobutter. You will stop the stretch marks, they sell it in fat sticks like chapstick. I had more than one child, and have no stretch marks.

It smells good and might make you happy.
I would put it on several times a day.

babys are beautiful, they make you forget all about how hard the pregnancy was.

Answer 10

I used to feel that way but then i delivered 12 weeks too early watching my tiny baby fight for his life made me realize just how precious pregnancy is hang in there!!