Can you give me a non-religious answer as in to why sex is wrong? Tell me what you think.?

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Needs answers by this weekend

I need an answer because I want to defend my point of view and make it stronger over why people should wait in having sex.

WRONG IN THE SENSE THAT YOU DO SO BEFORE MARRIAGE. OF COARSE, SEX IS A NATURAL THING, BUT IT IS NOT TO BE TAKEN IN EXCESS AS LIKE EATING TO MUCH AND CAUSING YOU HEALTH PROBLEMS OR SLEEPING TOO MUCH AND DOING NOTHING IN YOUR LIFE.

Answer 1

The world has made sex into this thing that it really is not. Sure it gives pleasure, but there is so much more to it. Taking the physical pleasure whenever it comes our way can take away from the ultimate pleasure that could be if we just let sex be what it is meant to be... the most intimate bond two people can ever experience with one another. Just how intimate can that bond be if it has been shared with bookoo other people?

Answer 2

I think there really is nothing wrong with sex. Except. . .

I have found over the years that there is chemistry with a few people and not with most.

I believe that this chemistry is how my basic and most holy part of me, call it the soul, call it my genes. Does it matter? Does that part care what I call it? Anyway, it is that part of me that knows what is best for me and for the human race that ignites the chemistry. That person has just the right combination of genes for my combination.

The only place where I go wrong is where I have sex with those I don't have the chemistry with, just to have sex. Is that religiious? I think it is spiritual and personal. Microscopic and Macrocopic. Infinite and insignificant.

Should I preach to others about this? I don't think so. We shall all have to discover this.

Could I follow my preaching? Not yet. I don't have the radar down yet. But someday I will get it down. In the pat I have not had the patience to wait. And, sometimes the person with the chemistry is married or otherwise unavailable, so it is not socially acceptable to seek that person. Sometimes that person is not tuned in or is too self-judging or even religious to see what is happening.

So, in closing, it is not 'wrong' to have sex per se. But to me it is wrong to wast genetic material in a situation where the right combination (for me) will not result. Even though that sounds like something a Nazi would say, I don't mean it that way. I will fight for mine and yours right to choose, not have the choice made by others.

And, of course, as some of you have pointed out, forced sex is wrong. But then that is not really about sex but about power and control.

Answer 3

Non religious would be: You can get STDs from having sex. (herpes, AIDS/HIV, syphillis, etc). You dont really know who has these STDs unless they tell you and they have been tested by a doctor recently (most people arent tested. You have to specifically ask to be tested for AIDS and sign a form).
Also you could get pregnant. Imagine how your life would be if you got pregnant. What would you do? How would you handle that? Would your BF stand by you if you had a baby or would he dump you? Would he probably be a bad father? Then dont have sex with him.
Always use condoms and get birth control pills if you really plan on having sex. You can get pills from your doctor and the doctor can't tell your parents. Or you can go to "Planned parenthood" they are located all around the US and they can give out birth control.
It is better to have sex with a guy that you have been in a relationship for a while and really know him and love him and he loves you back. Also women usually become emotionally attached to a man once they have sex with them because it is a very emotional thing. Not all women are like that but most are, myself included. And men (pretty much all men) dont feel a real emotional connection to a woman once they sleep with them. They can have sex with one woman and the very next day have sex with another woman and not feel bad at all for doing that. Not all men, but most. If a guy has slept with many women already then he is probably one of those guys.
Wait until you are older, in college say 18+. I waited until i was almost 22. Not because I am religious. I waited because I knew that I would probably feel a connection to a guy after sex and I wanted to be with a guy that I knew was worth it. A guy that really cared about me. And i am glad I waited because I think back to when I was 17 - 20 and I wasn't ready then, I realize now. So if you are under 18 then you probably arent ready either. Sex is a lot of pressure, worrying about STDs, getting pregnant, worrying about your parents catching you, worring if he will dump you afterwards or tell his friends all about it, etc. And a guy who really cares/loves you WILL NOT dump you if you dont have sex with him and wait. The guys who dont care will dump you or cheat on you and then you will be glad you didn't sleep with them.

Answer 4

Well, I don't think sex is absolutly wrong. If you are in an abusive situation, being forced to have sex, or having sex against your will..then yeah it's wrong. Also, if you're in a relationship and you or your boyfriend have sex with someone else..then I think that's wrong as well. I mean why would you even bother being with someone if you're going to go out and sleep with someone else. I hope that was what you might have been looking for. If not, I'm sorry.

Answer 5

Un religiously if we try to see the wrong side of it,I find it wrong in the following ways.1).If you have children and you dont want more.2)If there is any risk of disease.If the partner has got veneral desease.3)Excess of every thing is wrong as if you even eat more than you need, you will be ill.In case of excess sex,energy loss will be there which can affect badly on your health on heart and nerves.

Answer 6

I know this because I have lived it. I am 39 years old and never once have been married, why? The age old expression why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, answers it. If I had my last relationship to do over again, I would have never went to bed with him, that is all our relationship amounted to sex, don't get me wrong the sex was great but why would he marry me, all he had to do was come over and get what he wanted.

Answer 7

I look at sex as a pretty big deal. I kind of feel like I've given a piece of my soul away when I do it. I know that I'm the type of person who thinks it should be given out of love. I don't think its a strictly physical act. I also love myself to hold out for the deserving!

Answer 8

Sex in itself is not wrong. Religious people like myself believes that it's wrong "before marriage". Anyways the only non-religious answer is, promiscuity is wrong cause it makes you more vulnerable to STDs.

Answer 9

It is wrong for people like you as there is a chance of breeding. Jesus H Christ look at the avatar..no one will want to have sex with you so you think we should all abstain!!! Wait for all the letters of support from the fat/ugly/rperessed/plain/holy Joes..God Bless You

Answer 10

because when your just a teenager (or a kid i guess....) and when your a teenager, you obviously have alot to do. and if you get pregnant, then you will have a baby. even if your a boy, you will be HELPING having that baby and you will have to help take care of it. even if you get an abcence (i think thats what its called. its when you get surgery to get rid of the baby before its born.) then your killing a baby life! and if you give it to the adoption center, it might not ever get a familly. and if you raise it yourself, it wont get the attention it needs. and the boys will pay the consiquenses too.