Okay... can someone teach me how to go up to a random cute guy & talk to him with confidence, and not worry about whether he is attracted to me or not?
Here's my problem: On *some* days I think I'm pretty, but I never know if guys think so too. And beauty is subjective, so you never know what others are thinking. I find it's easier for me to be confident if I feel like a guy is thinking I'm pretty... but sometimes I don't feel that they do. I'm not one of those definitely-gorgeous-at- all-times girls, and i'm not flat out ugly. So it's hard to know what other people see...
Yes, I know I'm going to get a bunch of answers that say "be yourself" and "go with your personality" and all that. Well, I do have a great personality, and I know it. But what I'm thinking about right now is the beauty part, b/c that's important too.
Also, what are some appropriate or inappropriate places to do this?
Thank you!
2006-10-05 10:53:31 · 4 answers · asked by melon_rose 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Pretend that you feel beautiful even if you don't feel like it. If you act that way people see you in that way. Works on everyone men, women are attracted to you, police, teachers, co-workers treat you better. Sometimes someone will not think you are pretty. Are you attracted to everyone? Just pretend you don't care, even if you do. Works every time, promise!
2006-10-05 11:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tamm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like you said, beauty is subjective! I'm short and overweight, but I've still found plenty of guys who are attracted to me. I know boys in highschool are more focused on looks, in which case try just smiling at them first and see if they smile back. But as men get older, they realize the whole inner beauty thing, and if a girl is pretty on the outside but has nothing to talk about, they will pass her by... may try to sleep with her first, but will not stay in a relationship with her. Guys are really attracted to girls who are confident, and funny, and who have as little emotional baggage as possible.
Either way, just walk up and introduce yourself. Ask for the time, or for directions. If you can see that you have something in common, like he's wearing a Red Sox hat and you're a huge Red Sox fan, then bring it up (don't fake it though, if you have no idea who Big Papie is, he'll know you're lying).
There's plenty of places to meet guys, it could happen anywhere; school, library, mall, movie theatre, restaurant, bus stop, just walking down the street.
2006-10-05 18:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder. You might be attractive to one person and not to another. Beauty comes from within not out although it does help. It can be appropriate anywhere but also you don't want to go to the ballet and walk up to just any guy.
It sounds like you just want to tease and get a good laugh.
2006-10-05 18:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by steve s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself nahh don't be yourself..you will screw your chances up =)
2006-10-05 18:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Aycilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋