How do I stay away from Psycho mother in law. We have 4 kids and hubby is very dependant on his parents! HELP!
2006-10-05 10:50:49 · 19 answers · asked by Need Help! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i can def. relate. My MIL is not the easiest person to get along with. The other entries were getting close to hitting the nail on the head. 1 - stand your ground. Talk calmly to your hubby about your feelings. Try not to be accusatory because it will turn him off to listening. Ask him how he feels when she hurts your feelings or butts into what is going on in your household. Tell him it's important to you that you're household is independent of ALL help- even from your own parents....this message may help him to 'see the light'. Tell him that he doesn't need to rely on them that he is a strong man and should be able to handle things on this own - a little ego boost! Most importantly remember that this is your house too and you have a say in how it's ran and what happens in it. 2. Can you move??? Is that possible? I live five house away from my in-laws and I pray for the day when we can purchase some land and build a home away from this street! 3. Last but not least- confront her TOGETHER. If she is hurtful. nosey whatever it is- get hubby on board and get him to be an equal conversational participant in a confronting conversation with his mother. It might need to come to that but you need to present a unified front. Good luck
2006-10-05 11:16:06 · answer #1 · answered by breezyb23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET AWAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially if your hubby doesn't support you as far as his mother butting into everything. You have to remember....Men put their Mother's on such a pedestal, they sometimes forget about the other woman in their life. You need to sit down with your hubby and tell him how you are feeling and if he isn't willing to back you up then you need to move on, as hard as that may be. If you don't you will be miserable the rest of your life.
2006-10-05 10:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write to Dr. Phil and see if he will help. I have seen him do a few shows on this. Just kidding but his website might have some answers dealing with these types of things. Go to:
www.drphil.com
My heart goes out to you. Not easy when you have a mother-in-law that is crazy.
2006-10-05 10:54:00 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to grow up !!!
His life is with you and your children .
It's great when he loves his parents , but they should stay out of your marriage .
You can talk to him about it , tell him that you understand his relationship with his mother and respect that , but he should always take your side , no matter what .
You can talk to her too .
I had to live with a cou-cou , mother in law for many years , until our marriage finally ended in a divorce ( I had three kids ) .
His Mom was always right ...I was always wrong !!!
Is that what he wants to happen .....a divorce , because you can't take it anymore .
Tell him that !!
It might make him think things over .
2006-10-05 11:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is up to your husband to set the guidelines for his mother. If you have 4 kids and he is still dependent on her, something is seriously wrong. You have married a mama's boy. Your argument should be with him, not her. He needs to be a man and stand up to his mother.
2006-10-05 11:01:26 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop depending on her and she won't know all your business. Worked for me. And the best part, though we've been divorced for years, last month she was up to old tricks. Then a few days ago, she dropped dead. KARMA!
2006-10-05 10:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honnestly,the best thing i can say is to ask urself hows this really affecting you,when you decided to date ur man,you havent decided to accept that toxic relationship with the inlaws, ive been there,we had my mother and sister in law gang up the family against us, she had us over to kick us out because we didnt agree with her,and it was all in gods name,she got her sister to threated us.(mothers sister) u never wanna ask ur bf to choose,but at the same time you deserve respect,and ur man needs to man up,its not easy to do , but if u tried everything like we did, u gotta save ur family, a toxic family will affect ur kids!! Goodluck
2015-01-04 18:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by rebecca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prob shouldnt have got married to a mammys boy. i broke up with a guy becuz his whole family was a bunch of interfearing idiots. stand up for urself and rule ur own family life. set borders ur the hen of the house. she didnt carry ur kids for 9 months did she? what the hell gives her the rite to have any say in ur family life??dont be bullied
2006-10-05 10:55:37 · answer #8 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband him and the kids can go but you arent going back over there until your mother in law gets over her problem she has with you because remember you married him not his parents
2006-10-05 11:01:51 · answer #9 · answered by aleym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby to grow a set!
2006-10-05 10:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋