Why do kids bully?

Question

each other. Dont they get it ...

Monkyman..that is a clever analogy, I may use it...with your permission of course.

Answer 1

I think some kids bully because they are insecure and need to feel better about themselves by subordinating others who are smaller than they are. Other kids might bully because that's how they are treated at home and they think that's how they should treat others. Finally, others might do so because they can't find anything else that they're good at and bullying is the one thing that makes them feel like they can excel above their peers.

Then again, I'm a physicist and not a behavioral psychologist so these are all guesses.

Answer 2

I am by no means a psychologist, however bullies really are cowards and are using their physical or mental strength to control others because they feel out of control in themselves or at home. It's hard to realise that the offender often needs more help than the victim, certainly in the early stages. To realise the complex human mind is impossible otherwise we'd all have the answers, yet bullying, physical or mental, is an abuse that extends through the ages and is ultimately about trying to make the buly feel more in control by putting others down, or feel more powerful/strong by seeing others weak...very oddly it's a strange juxtaposition of situations as it is really the bully who is weak or feels so.

In short I would say to anyone facing bullying or with a child or loved one in this position, look logically at the situation and what has been said or done...have a look at the bully's situation, maybe they don't have the great trainers as the victim because their parents are poor or maybe they get beaten at home so they lash out at school. In the adult work place it's an extension of these things...or just wielding the power stick as the bully is really deeply insecure about some other aspect in their lives. It's no excuse but I believe it's an explanation. I would say try to treat problems with love and understanding not revenge and hate if at all possible.

Answer 3

Kids bully because it is an animal instinct based upon the reaction of the victim. (e.g.) When lions attack a herd of Antelope they scatter and the Lions give chase eventually catching the weakest or smallest member. If they come across a large, or more stubborn animal willing to stand its ground, they tend to back off and look for easier prey. As children grow and learn wrong from right and how to behave properly, their behaviour becomes more adjusted to fit better into our so called "civilised" society.

Answer 4

Part of being a kid and growing is testing how the world and people react when you do certain things or carry out certain behaviour.

Children's sense of right and wrong tends to be based on fear of punishment rather than concern for others and a sense of empathy. This is something adults develop. Children can be lovely, but basically self centred.

And unfortunately, there is something within children, and within all human beings, which takes pleasure in having power over others.

Answer 5

Bullies, kids or adults, are pathetic, insecure, inferior people, who wish to feel in control, they do not know how to relate to people in a normal civilised way. They have difficulties with communication, emotions, and expressing themselves, very sad human beings.
however a certain amount of bullying by children is just a normal part of growing up and they usually learn the error of their ways.!!

Answer 6

Well there are 2 answers to that 1. they might just think its fun and they like to feed off of weak people or 2. they have problems at home or they just have a problem that bothers them and gets them angry so they take it out on other people as an anger and stress reliever and they like the attention

Answer 7

Some kids bully because they have been the victim of bullying, they may have anger toward someone bigger than them and don't feel safe expressing that anger, so they bully someone smaller or different. Maybe the person feel inferior.

Answer 8

Bullies are insecure and bully people who threaten them. Alternatively, they bully because they have very low self-esteem and need to make themselves feel superior by putting other people down. What goes around comes around...

Answer 9

No they don't get it, they are kids. Maybe they are venting because of troubles at home, not everyone has good parents.
Maybe they are competitive, maybe they are jealous. Young kids don't know how to handle their emotions in a healthy way. It is something you learna s you go.

Answer 10

sometimes it is because their parents do not teach them any better, other times it is because they are insecure. Its a psycological thing, and there is no way of knowing why one kid bullys because the answere could be different for other children