i was hurt really really badly by my 2 best friends, so many times, so many ways, and every time i tried to get out of the drama and the lies and the anger and backstabbing they'd do more... for 4 months it dragged on and on... i can't really handle this kind of thing (being rejected and trashed and thrown away by 2 of the closest people in my life for no reason, and i am a highly sensitive person too, like ULTRA sensitive, and they knew it way before this all happend btw....) and for the first few days i couldn't even get out of bed it was so bad... it's been almost 5 months now and finally the cruelty stopped, but they never said sorry or tried to repair anything, just left me and rubbed it in my face, and i know i should forgive and forget because i'd be so much happier, and i just want this hurt to go away:'( so everything is just eating me up and i don't know what to do!!!!!! so my question is: has anyone else learned a way to move on, forgive and forget, and be happy again?
2006-10-05 10:46:40 · 6 answers · asked by heather. just heather. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You know, happiness begins inside.....
The sad thing about life is that the people that hurt you the most are often the ones that are the closest to you. I know that your friends have hurt your feelings, but I want you to realize that you have survived. These things happen in life to make us stronger. It will probably happen again, and you know what?? When it does you are going to look back on this moment and you are going to remember that you got over it. And you are going to remember that you bounced back. Forgive them, because they are human and they are idiots and they are NOT worth the time and energy that it would take to keep hating them. Do not forget the lesson that you have learned from this experience and be happy with yourself. Because you are a very beautiful person, inside and out.
2006-10-05 10:47:56 · answer #1 · answered by Shanigirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to get over drama and stuff that "friends" do to you. I'd know because I'm experiencing it too sometimes. The way to move on is to just realize that some people never grow up and will forever stay immature and greedy. It seems as if these people aren't good friends to you and it's time for you to do stuff that makes you happy or relieved. I recommend journaling, it's helped me so much. It's helped me turn my life around in someways and always relaxes me. I also think you should use all of your energy of anger and feeling betrayed by getting active. Sign up for karate or something you've always wanted to try.
Sometimes you may get the feelings of what they did to you back, but just remember you didn't do anything-they did. And seriously: Don't forget how valuable you are. Meet new people-meet people who build you up and that will help you be happy.
Good luck. And I hope I helped.
2006-10-05 18:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something like this when I was a junior in high school. It went on till almost graduation and I had a very hard time. I was depressed for most of that time and didn't even want to get out of bed. All I can say is what seems bad now has no meaning in your life later. I know that probably doesn't help but after you graduate life is so very different. Such childish things go on while you are in school. Sounds like you are just more mature then them. Move on make new friends!!!!
2006-10-05 17:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by copswife93 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come and go. Some people are just mean. I'm sensitive like you. Only time will heal your pain. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 17:49:07 · answer #4 · answered by Need Help! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch them i no it may hurt but if u get good griends 2 hang out w/ i think u will miss them
2006-10-05 17:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by maryy206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they behave like this, then ... sorry to bring you the cruel reality ... they are NOT your friends ...
2006-10-05 17:52:44 · answer #6 · answered by John C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋