HELP!!!!! ok i`m lost i need to know what to do i`am scarred and lost theres this boy at my collage and he asked me out on a date and the bad part about it is i have a boyfriend and i don`t whant to hurret his filling and the uther thang is my and my boyfriend is suppose to be gitting married in like 1 month and its like you just say no to him b/c hes nice and ugly but then cute and i`m geting married and if i tell my boyfriend that he will call the wedding off so by the way i`m 19 last year of collage and please help me and don`t just say tell him no please help
2006-10-05 10:38:08 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd love to help you sweety, but you're writing is really bad for someone in college - assuming that's what you mean by "collage" (collection of pictures).
Are you scarred or scared?
How do you hurret someone's filling? Did you mean "hurt his feelings?"
Oh boy, I don't know how you got in how you're it's being paid for, but it's definitely going to waste.
2006-10-05 10:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by l_marie_allen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to learn to spell first !! My grandchildren are 8 and 9 and they spell better than you. Maybe you should consider more college before getting married or does your fiance spell like you? Come to think about it , it is very possible this nice but ugly person asking you out has more wits than you or your fiance and most likely can spell better to help you through life because with your spelling you are backing up not going forward.You say this is your last year of college but according to your spelling you never got through kindergarden. What is scarred, gitting, hurret, uther and thank?You do not even use correct puncuations...like capital letters.You need some serious help with your education before you get married.All the college in the world will not help your marrage with this type spelling. May you be blessed and forget marrage until you learn to spell.A good education will take you far in life but a shaky marrage and incorrect spelling will only hinder you.
2006-10-05 11:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Catherine D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok u need 2 do a lot of reflecting on this one because hon u r so stressed on your whole entire life. U r 19 & just finishing school. Now think r u truly happy with what u chose in life? Your career choice & the man U r getting married 2. Do you c yourself with him 4 the rest of your life or do u feel that u still need 2 enjoy your own life? When u really want 2 get married nothing makes u panic the only panic there is is if everything will be good in the details. If u don't think all of these emotins r just wedding gitters then u have 2 say sorry but I'm not ready 2 share my life with u in marriage yet. If the man isn't right 4 u u have 2 be honest with him about it. My story is somewhat like yours I got engaged 6 months after we were dating. I thought I loved him but all of a sudden nothing felt right I thought the feeling would pass & that everything will end up right. Close 2 our 3rd yr (dating) anniversary I saw a guy that I haven't seen in 5yrs & I was so lost in his eyes but I knew I was engaged. I felt exactly like u. But one day i sat down & thought of where my life was going & I made a list of what I really wanted. With that list I thought about if the person I was with fufilled that list of things I wanted. Well it resulted that he did not complete my list so I was honest 2 my fiance about it & after I did I felt better cuz now I do have what I always wanted & I'm also happy with my new man & we've been 2gether 4 almost a yr.
2006-10-05 10:57:53 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly chick if you are asking this question, obviously you are not ready to be married. You are still young, you don't know really what you want yet in life. And in less than a month away? It sounds very rushed to me. It seems like your boyfriends afraid to lose you and I think he's right. You should be exploring your options right now, dating other people. Don't get me wrong, you can still see the guy your seeing now but not exclusively. Theres so many other people out there that are perfect for you and it seems like your just settling. Let your fiance down gently he'll understand and realize in the long run you probably helped him. Who knows maybe you will end up together but now is too soon. Hope I helped hun. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 10:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by bcch89 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to get married. If you still want to date others, it is a sign that you need more time. Tell your bf when there are others around, perhaps your parents. Tell him that it is better to break it off now than to go through a divorce. He will be doing the right thing for both of you if he calls off the wedding. You have no idea of what it means to be married.
2006-10-05 10:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this other guy is well worth you jeapordizing your wedding plans... then go for it, I did and I don't have any regrets... I left my fiancee for my boyfriend now, and I'm happier than happy can be. I only tell you, because my boyfriend now is well worth every penny of it... The only difference is that I called off the wedding 10 months before... so it can't beat 1 month before.
I honestly think you're way to young. I'm 24 and I thought I was too young... I can only imagine being 19. good luck
2006-10-05 10:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by precious1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh. My. God. What?
Obviously, if you are getting married in a month, you shouldn't be going out on dates with other guys. Also, if your fiance is willing to call the wedding off over a guy asking you out, maybe you should think long and hard about whether or not you should be getting married. And for future reference, spell checking is a real virtue.
2006-10-05 10:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by yumyum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds easy but tell the guy NO! if you really love your FIANCE then you should not be considering to be dating another guy. I am also 19 and have a bf of 2 years. if you have doubts then postpone the wedding until you really feel like he is "the one" so what if you hurt this new guys feelings. you have a loving fiance who cares about you, you dont need to worry about this other guy. he can always find another girl...
congrats on getting married though. i hope things work out
but tell him NO! let your bf know though that a guy asked you out but you turned him down. otherwise you will feel guilty about it. its good to get things liek that off of your chest. and he will not call off the wedding cause you didnt do anything wrong. you didnt go out with the guy and keep it from your bf, that would really be a reason to call off the wedding. just remember to communicate with eachother! no secrets or lies! =)
2006-10-05 10:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call off the wedding. You are obviously not mature enough to handle a real relationship. Tell the X groom everything. He'll probably thank you for it. By the way, stay in college and learn to S P E L L !
2006-10-05 10:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by grrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why can't you tell the boy who asked you out "sorry i think your nice and thank you for asking me out but I'm getting married soon and were happy"?? its not that hard. i think there is no need 2 tell your boyfriend you did nothing wrong! and if you wanna go out with the guy tell your boyfriend that you are still young (which you really are) to get married and you need a little time to see whats out there. good luck girl just breathe you will be OK!
2006-10-05 10:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by finenazfuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged, then you shouldn't be thinking about going on a date with another guy. However, if you really don't love your fiance, then you should call the wedding off yourself. If you're not sure what to do, then you are not ready to get married. Make up your mind, but you HAVE to be totally fair with the man that loves you and don't string him along if your not head over heels in love with him.
2006-10-05 10:43:46 · answer #11 · answered by reddog19982000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋