opinions on sex before marriage please??

Question

sex before marriage? surely its better to attempt complete together ness before you promise to spend the rest of your life together kinda like try b4 u buy ? or should you hold off marry and maybe find out you just dont "fit" right what do you think

Answer 1

I don't blame people for waiting but I personally couldn't do it!
I like your idea of "Try before you buy"
I think that the idea of keeping hold of your virginity for the man/woman that you are going to marry went out the window with staying married for the rest of your life!
Good Question Girly... Thumbs Up for you!

Answer 2

You're likely to get a bunch of answers telling you it's a "sin" to have sex before marriage...try to ignore those and think about it from your own point of view.

Personally, I would never get married (and didn't!) without having sex first. I have had girlfriends in the past who, while great girls, I just wasn't "physically compatible" with. Those relationships ended amicably, and usually mutually -- we both knew we just weren't clicking physically. Would you really want to spend the rest of your life with somebody you didn't like being physically intimate with? More than likely, if you married somebody and then found out you weren't good together in bed, you'd wind up either divorcing or being miserable for your whole life.
On the other hand, when the girl who's now my wife (for 15 years) and I had sex, it was terrific. Outstanding. We knew this was going to work, and it has. Much better to know than be surprised after getting married!
Just take appropriate precautions against pregnancy and STDs...otherwise there's no harm in "trying out," and a lot of benefit.

Answer 3

Here is another question for you,if you have sex with the man of your dreams and he comes up short do you not marry him?If you take into account how much time you spend during a marriage in bed vs how much time you spend doing everything else,to base a relationship on how someone performs in bed vs how they treat you all of the other time is not a good idea.So to answer your question,it's up to you,if you have sex before marriage it isn't going to make a difference on how your marriage is going to turn out.So do what you want , just remember sex does not make a marriage,love does.

Answer 4

Sex is so open and socially accepted these days now one really seems to care about that any more. However, there is more to marriage than sex. Sure sex is a big part of the machine that makes it work, but, keep in mind emotions, attitudes, differences in living styles and habits. My opinion is if you want to make it special and blessed then wait. God blesses those who hold true to good old fashion commitment. If you over commit then its likely, like you said "try before you buy" could wind up on the not buying side...

Answer 5

Not only do I believe in sex before marriage, I believe that living together should be mandatory for at least a year. Our laws should include some sort of "mostly married" state during which time you can call it quits without having to go through the whole nasty divorce thing.

Answer 6

Your telling me that if you were so deeply and passionately in love with a guy that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him, share a mortgage, raise children, argue over money, get sick together, and laugh at inside jokes that are 20 years old, you would reject him on the sex not being up to par?

That's so incredibly shallow.

My husband and I waited, and yes, at first our intimate relationship was a little awkward, but it was still so exciting because it was something we were discovering together. And now, a few years later, with some open conversation, and some practice, it's amazing. I can't imagine what life would have been like if I had given my husband up based on the first couple of tries.

best wishes in your relationships.

Answer 7

there is no right or wrong answer. every couple is different. it depends on your religion or values, and it also depends on your relationship. if you and your significant other feel that it's the right time, then go for it. but if you are unsure, then wait until marriage.

it sounds weird saying this, but sex is a big part of a relationship and a big part of marriage. i am a newly wed, so i am learning this right now. when the sex life is not good, the relationship tends not to be good. so sometimes it's best to work out the issues before marriage.

i lived with my now husband for 2 years before we got married and i'm so glad that i did. we've grown so much, that by the time we were married, we knew how to deal with things.

Answer 8

I think it is OK to have sex before marriage , because then you have the opportunity to learn the doe's and don'ts of what each other prefers from one another as far as what they want in the bedroom., kitchen or the back of your truck. This way by the time marriage takes place, you both will already know how to perform for each other in the most positive ways and to know that you have pleased your partner to the fullest.

Answer 9

I don't look down on people who decide to wait but in most cases I believe it's best to have sex before marriage because it is a very intense presence in our lives, and in our relationships. It is in some ways the highest level of intimacy between two people and I feel it's important to experience that before you decide to commit to someone for the rest of your lives. I do feel, however, that it's best to wait until you're in love to have sex. You don't have to but I think the experience will be so much more fulfilling, fun, and pleasurable.

Answer 10

You will get almost an equal number of those that favor sex before marriage and those that propose waiting.

This really isn't up to those people if you are trying to find out for yourself.

This decision depends on your values and beliefs (religious and personal).

I don't see the harm in it especially if safe sex is being practiced.