My husband & I are closer w/ my family but can't afford to fly back east for the holiday. We have been invited by 2 people, locally, to seperate Thanksgiving celebrations. We were 1st asked by our best friend whose family has really taken us in & made us a part of there family, no questions asked. We even call her mother, 'ma'.
About a month later, we were later asked by my husbands aunt, who is the only person in his family that we do have a relationship with & care for dearly. We don't see her often, because as I said, his family is not very close, but when we do see her, its always a nice time.
We don't know what to do. We told our friend who intially invited us yes because we thought no one in his family would (they usually don't &his parents never called me back) but urg...
Also, both are celebrating the holiday at about the same time &since we are not the only ones invited to the holiday feast we don't feel right asking them to change the time just for us.
What would you do?
2006-10-05 10:32:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anne Marie 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
Honor your promise with your friends. You gave them an answer of, "Yes". The next day go and see your Aunt.
Keep your character in tact.
Happy Thanksgiving. Gobble, gobble.
2006-10-05 11:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Martin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is coming from someone who was not close to their family at all:
Take a rain check on the friends friends will be there all the time they are the people you spend most of your time with. Go with the aunt, you never know how long she will have to live (not saying she is going to die soon) but you will cherish the memories of your family when they are gone, friends you have memories with wheter its a holiday or not. And if they are true friends they will understand you breaking the invitation. There is still 2 months to thansgiving, its not like they have already purchased the turkey.
2006-10-05 11:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by Larry A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did already accept someone's invitation so that would be a good decision to go with. If you really want to celebrate the holiday with family then respectfully decline the friend's invitation and then go with the closest family members that have invited you and your husband. Either way, enjoy the holiday.
2006-10-06 10:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by eileen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husbands aunt is the only one in the family but has others to entertain she will understand.....but I am not saying do not spend time with her at all ...... spend the night/day before with her.... bring something special to have with tea (nice scones, simple pastry) help her with dinner for the next day...make time for her she is family.....spend Thanksgivings with you second family (which a lot of us have) then after a nice day stop by your aunts again to see how her day was ...... and tell her how much you care and love her......remember your aunt is family and the only one that seems to care don't pass her up.....make time for her
2006-10-05 10:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truth is a strange thing...it is always the easy way out. Tell your friends the situation, they will understand, go to the Aunt's house, she may need the company..afterwards, go to your friends house and finish the day with drinks and dessert. No one will really be offended, and you get the best of both worlds. The aunt may be very lonely. OR...perhaps your friends could invite her to come with you...that is the best out..unless, of course, Aunt is not single. good luck
2006-10-07 15:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you bring the aunt to the friends' house? If not, I think you should go to the friends' house since you accepted first. Maybe you can see the aunt on Friday, Saturday or Sunday after Thanksgiving.
2006-10-06 03:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from all of that stress and put yourself in the only win-win situation and celebrate it alone with your husband. Make a turkey dinner ahead of time and put it in the refrigerator. Go to a hotel and spend the night and eat out. Make it fun, romantic occasion, one that you'll remember. Then the next day celebrate your Thanksgiving at home with your pre-cooked food.
2006-10-05 10:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think i would see if the friend wouldn't mind if we went to the Aunt's house, considering if the family is not close, i would assume that she doesn't have many ties other than you guys. also, your friends probably have family coming already. maybe u can ask if it's ok to come by before or after dinner w/ the aunt?
good luck~
2006-10-05 10:36:19 · answer #8 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could go to your best friends as planned - and then after visiting and dinner - stop by his aunt's house and bring a dessert!
I am sure she'd be glad to see you and spend time with you -even if it's not for dinner.
2006-10-08 01:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Kare♥Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your "Ma" if you can bring your aunt. Most people love to share the holidays with others. Then you can be with all who matter most to you.
2006-10-08 18:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by tamara.knsley@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋