I really dont mean to offend if this question does offend anyone, but i just want to know if a homosexual has a sexchange does that make him a hetrosexual for being a woman and liking men or does he remain homosexual and vice versa, would the man he went out with who knew he had a sexchange be hetrosexual or homosexual, does that make sense?
2006-10-05 10:28:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hello- I'm a real MtF (male to female) transexual, and I can clear up some misconceptions-
If a male identifies himself as a man and is attracted to other men, then that person is gay. Usually, they have no desire to get a sex change because, as a man, they enjoy being a man and don't want to rid themselves of their male genitals.
Now, a person that is physically male that is attracted to males, but is actually transsexual might think that they were gay because they didn't know the difference between being gay and transsexual. Later, they would discover that they were not gay, after all, but transsexual.
A transsexual is a person who is physically of one sex, but internally of the opposite sex- (a woman in a male body). They might be attracted to males, and as a female internally, would be considered straight. This person would be interested only in straight or bisexual males, gay males being a turn-off.
Some gay men feel ashamed to be gay and wish to legitimize their sexual feelings and might seek a sex change, but since they are male inside, they will regret the operation. A MtF (male to female) transsexual would feel relief to get rid of the penis attached to them, not regret.
Since a MtF transsexual is really female inside, it is incorrect to refer to them as men or males. So, in that light, a MtF transsexual is, for all intents and purposes, a woman.
A man that the transsexual dated would most likely be hetero- or bisexual, but not gay. The relationship is just like that of any other male-female relationship, regardless how the transsexual started out in life.
Some people refuse to acknowledge the inner, female status of the transsexual and willfully refer to her as "he", or "him". Many, if not most transsexuals feel this is insulting and demeaning. I am not sayng that I am accusing you of this- you asked a sincere question, stated it intelligently, and I felt you deserved a sincere, intelligent answer.
I hope this helps. ;)
2006-10-05 11:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by mageapprentice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mageapprentice's answer is about as complete as you can get.
As a transgender person and bisexual, I was for many years confused about both my sexual identity and gender identity.
If I should ever transition, which at my age is unlikely, I would still be bisexual, and would still enjoy relations both with men and women.
Sexual orientation does not usually change with srs. What does sometimes happen though is that when a transitioning person starts taking hormones she suddenly finds herself attracted to men, whereas hitherto she was hetero. This is currently happening to a friend of mine and she finds it very confusing.
In point of fact most M to Fs initially have a straight sexual orientation. Many of them continue to prefer women after the transition. Usually this is not such a big problem because female sexuality is not so directed towards the sexual act. Jan Morris for example (now 80) still lives with the woman she married as a man. Many transitions would not be successful without the support of the spouse. And to be blunt sexuality is not the driving force behind the desire to change birth sex. M to Fs undergo reassignment because they desperately need to be treated as women.
2006-10-05 13:17:58 · answer #2 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No idea
The only transexual I have known was straight before he decided to start cross dressing, as in he had on infrequent isolated occasions had intercourse with girls, but as far as I can ascertain he had no homosexual liaisons prior to the gender reassignment, but has a "Boyfriend " now a replica vaginal entrance has been created. However he is well over 6 feet with huge hands and feet so the "Boyfriend" can hardly assume he/she/it was born female. More John Cleese in a dress Monty Python style than Hayley from Coronation Street.
I am a straight very conservative boring chap and it was pure fluke this chap lived in our village and worked in a Toyshop my son and I visit which gives me a detatched curiosity in this subject.
Mind you he had to move 100 miles away when he became she, and the family felt they had to leave as well,
2006-10-05 14:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by "Call me Dave" 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it just depends on how you want to look at it regarding the labels that society lands us with. When I look at someone like Nadia from Big Brother UK 5, I don't really see her as a transsexual man, just as a woman. So in that case I would just label her as a straight woman as opposed to a gay transsexual man.. that starts to get a bit confusing!
About the issue of the transsexual person's partner, I would say that their sexuality would still be the same. They would be attracted to the person because they look, act and in most ways are a woman.
2006-10-05 10:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by Marc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that is where the "T" comes in when we are referred to as GLBT community. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and TRANSGENDER. Someone who has a sexchange is Transgender.
It was a perfectly acceptable question and not offensive at all.
2006-10-05 10:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The truth is that not all men who get sex changes were homosexual to begin with. I know a shemale (he hasn't gotten a sex-change, just exterior stuff) who likes women. Since he considers himself a woman, he also considers himself a lesbian. Hey, whatever. That's fine by me.
2006-10-05 11:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolute sense, it exposes how ridiculous labels are when applied to humans- there are many equations arguable, many valid dependant on the prejudice of the arbiter.
2006-10-05 10:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by hog b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question. I beleive that who ever has a sex change remains what he/she was at birth, no matter the intricacy of the sugery.
2006-10-05 15:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. Sorry I don't know the answer though. I would guess though that since he is no longer a man he isn't gay.
2006-10-05 10:31:12 · answer #9 · answered by Pop D 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
His sexual orientation will probably change. That is to say, he will continue to prefer men over women. I doubt this can be affected by anything as small as plastic surgery.
2006-10-05 10:30:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋