Suppose that you are the parent in the following two scenarios.?

Question

Based on the various approaches to child rearing, give some questions you might ask yourself and describe how you might effectively handle each situation.
At the playground, your five-year-old shoves another child and takes away his/her toy.
You discover that your ten-year-old has taken $3.00 in coins from the jar where you keep spare change and hidden the money in his/her drawer.

Answer 1

Make the 5 yr old say he's sorry to the child, then he goes to his room and can't play.
Have the 10 year old open the drawer and ask where he got the money. He will cr*p and might try to lie, but parents know when kids are lying.
No favorite activities for 2 days -- ground him. Then move the change jar to your room where he can't get to it.

Answer 2

The 5 year old, I would speak to him firmly but calmly and tell him to apologize and give the toy back. I would take the child home and talk to him about his unacceptable behavior of pushing his friend to get what he wants and that this is not how we share.
The 10 year old...well, I am opposed to invading kids' privacy unless absolutely necessary, and at the age of ten my kid would definitely be putting his own clothes away. If I caught him in the act of taking money out of the jar without asking, I would let him know that it's not his money to take, and ask what he needs it for. I would tell him to put the money back where it goes and let him know that if he needs money for something he has to earn it, through chores or some other way.

Answer 3

You tell your 5 yr. old nicely , that ''we don't shove people" ; tell him to return the toy and say he is sorry . If possible try to get the kids to shake hands . Discuss it again later at home and use the example that he /she would not like it if somebody did the same to him ; and that it is wrong to hit ;push or take something from another person .
As for the 10 yr. old . , tell them you know they took the money and to return it to the jar . Then explain why taking something that does not belong to them is wrong . Let them know if they need money for something important they can always come to you ; but that stealing is unacceptable . I would let both children know they are loved despite the wrong they have done , and send the 10 yr. old to his room after dinner with no TV or video games .
Sometimes , when kids are treated with too much agression , they act it out .

Answer 4

Remove the child from the situation and give the other child his/her toy back. Explain to your child how you can't just shove people and take things away from them because in the real worl, they would get their butt kicked.

Explain to your child how stealing is not appropriate nor is it acceptable to steal from anyone for any reason. Punish the child by grounding him/her for three days and withholding something that is valuable to him/her. Make your child work off the money he/she took and make them give you the money back or whatever they purchased with the money.

Answer 5

if my child shoves a child and takes away the toy - i will take the toy away from both children and find an object they can both play with togeteher - OR remove my child from the playground and give the toy back to the other child

if my child stole$, i would have him do chores around the home to work for the $ he stole

Answer 6

Since you ask for questions, not answers, here are some suggestions.
I would ask myself: Why did he do it?
How do I show him his behavior is not acceptable in a way that it does not harm his ego/emotional development?
Is there something I'm not aware of that makes him behave this way?

Taking money:
Again, why?
Does he feel deprived?
Does he feel he is not loved?
Is he jealous of a sibling/friend?
Is he angry with me/us for some reason?
Is he trying to get our attention?
Do we put too much value on money?
Think about how you can explain that you do not want to hide money because that would show distrust.