I mean you don't see this person face to face, and someone could lie to you completely and you would never know it. Are we falling in love with an idea of someone or the actual person? Your thoughts upon this is well appreciated.
2006-10-05
10:08:57
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By the way, in case you are wondering, I'm not dating off the net, was just wondering as a lot of people seem to be doing this. Was wondering about the moral and social ramifications of this, have we become such a society as to actually want relationships in which we never meet the person that we are involved with?
2006-10-05
10:21:11 ·
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Love, as an emotion is very powerful as well as magical. The magic however, does not transcend through the Internet.
Chalk it up to infatuation (which can still be just as dangerous).
One has absolutely no idea with whom they are communicating. It could a woman or man, a child, a predator, a rapist or a serial killer. Their job is to say the things that you want to hear, and yours is suppose to be that you're stupid and eventually let them devour you.
I would not advise it under any circumstance. All one has to be is beautiful from the inside and they can have more than Their share of romance.
NIX on the Internet for love!
My concern though, is the youth who fall prey. If an adult chose to make such a gamble, they are responsible for his or her self. We, society as a whole though, should make it our primary effort to keep these predators away from our children.
2006-10-05 10:28:50
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answered by Robere 5
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Not wrong. And happens a lot now. But yes, you need to be careful.
Some upsides of it, are there are lots of ways to chat with a LOT of people with similar interests in a relaxing setting. It should actually be safer, as you can chat with people a long time before meeting them, and weed out some real jerks never even have met them. But then that means if you do fall for someone, to keep your wits about you.
Some downsides, it is way easier to lie. And the lies can fly from all directions. Are they lying to you? Did you lie to them? And just as important - Are you lying to yourself. Many people fall in love over the Internet as a fantasy away from their tough real life.
2006-10-05 10:12:48
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answered by Ned Knows 6
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Sometimes it is hard to meet people. Falling in love with the idea of falling is love is more like your situation. You cannot know someone from the internet, even if you have been talking for a long time. Even if you have been talkin gon the phone. It is not the same as being together.
2006-10-05 10:14:40
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answered by Snuffy Smith 5
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Well you won't actually know until you physically meet and spend some time together. I did and we are happily married. so for us t worked great. The secret is that neither of you is desperate and are completely honest during the initial Internet discussions. If so you will find that you know more about each other than 99% of those which meet and get married under conventional methods.
2006-10-05 10:13:21
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answered by dano 4
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Well, it's not neseccarilly wrong, but it's not too right either. I mean love is love, but when it comes to not knowing who they are or what they look like, that could be a problem. Try to stick to being friends and meeting each other first if you meet someone off the net. Just be careful.
2006-10-05 10:11:41
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answered by animegirl769z 2
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Wrong, I don't think so.
Could lie, sure, apparentely that happens.
Falling in love with "what we know from the person" I suppose. Some bits missing, others more "present".
So, possibly that would be the same thing as when falling in love with the idea you get of someone when you meet them (in non cyber life, do you like the person or the representation you have of him/her?)
ok, all this may be too philosophical...?
anyway, yap, internet has some limits
but think of our grand-parents (I take mine as an example), what did they know of each other before committing? (I want to say that they also were big gaps in their knowledge of the individual)
(but I do not think many people fall in love over internet)
2006-10-05 11:09:01
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answered by Claire 4
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How can you classify it as "love". don't toss that word around like everyone under the moon deserves it. It takes a very very long time to truely and completely "love" someone. Chances are the relationship will peek "over the net"
2006-10-05 10:11:53
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answered by loyal 2
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My uncle is getting married next month to a woman he met and fell in love with over the internet. Of course they know eachother in person now. My answer is there is nothing wrong with it. Even someone you meet in person can be a lier remember.
2006-10-05 10:11:22
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answered by kash182_99 1
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I think the ideal of someone is always a lot stronger than actual contact with them. It is odd to the self to realize that you may be falling in love with a lie or a nonexistant face. But ideals are pretty much what drive human beings. Ideals of how you want your life, how you want to look, how you want to be percieved, who you think would be your constant, etc.
2006-10-05 10:14:54
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answered by marcellayett 2
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One of my best friends met a guy from England online. They're married and living in Britain. It seems to have worked out beautifully. They chatted for 9 months or so before they ever met. So it certainly can work. I expect the precentages are low however. Just take your time.
2006-10-05 10:12:21
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answered by Gene Rocks! 5
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