Is it considered cheating on your wife if....?

Question

a female friend disrobes, and you pleasure yourself to her, but there's never any touching? Is that really any different than po rn?

look at it this way: its like porn you could never get in photo or digital media b/c the girl wont (for good reason) video or photograph herself, but it is mastur bat ing to a nude girl just like in a por nog raphic pic.

i wouldnt mind if she did the reverse, and please, no responses from anyone who is so immature and insecure as to cconsider wathcing porn "cheating"

To those who actually answered this, thank you. Note that I haven't done this, nor would I actually think for one second that it wouldn't constitute cheating in my wife's mind. I'm just seeing what everyone's opinion is.

For those of you (and there are many) who sit at your keyboards passing f*cking judgment on me and everyone else, please understand that no one cares whether or not you approve of us or our activities. I asked a simple question. Yet, a whole mess of you passed judgment on me on the basis of the silly, time wasting questions I post here. You ought to be ashamed of yourselves. If you don't approve of someone, their activities, or their lifestyle, shut up and move on.

Answer 1

oooooo this is a toughie for me..

I define cheating as physically inserting, licking, touching, tasteing another person in such a way that brings sexual satisfaction of some sort to either person.

but... you are doing this to yourself.... how is this different that watching a stripper and then doing yourself? hmmmmmmmm

I know I'll get lambasted for this but I'll say no. its not cheating because you didn't touch her.

however... the fact that she was there in person, nakid and was obviously getting off on what you were doing as well... hmmmmm

no.. still no one has touched anything but themselves.. just like in phone sex (if you believe the person on the other end of the phone).

Now... thats not to say a trust has been broken - that trust being that you will not get nakid or have someone else nakid in the same room with you during sexual activity - between you and your wife and she would have a right to be angry over that. I believe that generally when you are married it is an acceptable expectation that the only person that would get to see you sexually gratify yourself would be her and no one else.

so.... cheating? no...
breaking of a trust? yes...

Answer 2

You already know that's wrong or you wouldn't be asking the question. It's different because with porn, you will NEVER meet that person, this naked chick was actually in the room with you. I have a great idea. Ask your wife if she considers it cheating. Then hope you have a good buddy to help you pack and move your sh*t.

Answer 3

Would you consider it cheating if your wife watched a man 'friend' disrobe while she pleasured herself to him? I'm thinking NOT!?!

Porn is anonymous. Porn is in full control of those who choose what/when/how to watch it.

Adding a person-in-the-flesh to your masturbation pleasure is indeed an unacceptable practice unless you've been given the priro go ahead by your wife.

Answer 4

dude all your questions are about sex, cheating, wanting your wife to cheat with someone else while you watch, porn, the size of your johnson, or *SHOCK* video games.

Why don't you grow up and be a man? Learn how to be a loving husband instead of a sexually obsessed immature JERK. You've done something STUPID with a female friend - which is cheat on a woman who you should be grateful took on your stupid ***. I hope she leaves you.

Answer 5

yes, to me porn is cheating, looking at someone else and wanting her is cheating. You wanted her plain and simple, I applaud you for not doing it, but you are a horrible man to even want someone else. That action just leads to more. Why can't you just be satisfied with your wife. Wanting, loving or physically touching someone else is cheating and your wife deserves better than you. If you can't be happy with her, let her go and do your dirty deeds by yourself when there is noone to hurt or crush in the process.

Answer 6

I believe it's cheating because it's a woman other than your wife. I wouldn't consider porn cheating that's just stupid! But as far as you physically being in the same room with a woman for that purpose is just wrong! I wouldn't do it and would be pissed if my fiance' did the same!!

Answer 7

If I were to find out that my husband is doing it I'd be furious. I don't know what you wanna call it - cheating or not. Ask your wife how would she feel about it if you were to do it, then you'll know for sure.

Also, think how would you feel if you were to find out that your wife is doing it for someone else, he's pleasing himself and so on while you're sitting home watching TV and wondering where is she and why is she not with you now.

Answer 8

A friend disrobes? (friend being the key word). I think it would eventually lead to something more...and yes, I would consider it cheating. At strip clubs, if you have the cash, you can get the same thing, but that person is not a "friend". There is a fine line here.

Answer 9

THATS NOT PORN THATS A PART OF SEX BUT IT IS STILL A FORM OF CHEATING U COULD HAVE ASKED UR WIFE 2 DISROBE AND U COULD HAVE GOT OFF LOOKING AT HER CAUSE THE NEXT TIME THERE WILL B TOUCHING1

Answer 10

I think it is! The fact that your naked and gaining pleasure from a female friend on purpose is wrong in a marriage. The difference between this and porn is that porn is on a television screen and they're actors! You are living it, it's a realism. And please surely if your allowing this, you find this women sexually attractive and wouldn't turn down the offer of more. Defiantly cheating!