Together for 16 years and three kids - then he starts cheating. The other one woman gets pregnant. I'm getting a divorce but it's not enough. How best to hurt him back?
2006-10-05 10:04:01 · 26 answers · asked by lalenalanielle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know what, this isn't the answer you want, but don't try to get back at him. You will hurt yourself in the process. If he can throw away 16 years chances are there aren't many things you can do that will hurt him.
Sorry for what you are going through, lift your head up and be strong. It may actually surprise him that you can carry on life without him. That may be your best "revenge" of all.
2006-10-05 10:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by DownAndOut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said "kids" so I caution you about hurting him back. I know how bad you must be hurting right now, but think of the children. If you do not strike back and you take the high road, you will come out on top and looking like the hero. If you look to hurt him, then he can make it look like he was justified in what he did. It becomes a vicious cycle and the kids lose most of all. She is pregnant by him, so it will be obvious that he was cheating on you to your children, he will lose the respect, not you.
As bad as you want to inflict pain and damage on him, don't go there, that is my best advice. Besides, it will not make you feel better in the long run, you are better than that...Let me know how you do...
2006-10-05 10:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm sorry this has happened to you,I know it hurts,I watched and stood by my Mom when this happened to her,helped her with the bills etc.and I'm telling you for real,theres nothing you can do that will fill the void and suffering your feeling,only time will dull the pain,getting even will not do anything but create more pain for you and your kids,I would suggest you sit down with your children and explain without showing anger or pointing a finger to their Dad of how you feel and use this as an example of what happens when you break a commitment to your vows. Their Dad whom if he hasnt realized yet will soon understand he's created his own hell(and he may not feel it now..but he will)and guilt will eventually torment him late at night,you dont need to help him with that, it'll do it all by itself......stay strong
2006-10-05 10:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by stygianwolfe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best revenge is to act like a bigger person and not let him see you cry or be upset, which I know you are. He will come back to you one day begging and that will be your revenge because by then you would have moved on and you will be a stronger woman. Take care of your three children, they need to be your priority right now. Good luck to you sweetie.
2006-10-05 10:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make him jealous. Go out, have a good time, meet new people, get yourself a makeover. Be careful not to drag your kids in it, but whatever you can do to make him see that you are not only better than the girl he cheated with, you are much better without him. Make him feel stupid he let such a good woman get away for a skank.
2006-10-05 10:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Belly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma, he'll get his. Now he is stuck w/someone who he probably wanted a one night stand with & no strings attached...ha. Divorce is hard enough but you will feel liberated. Just show him that you have more class & make it easier for the kids sake....they will figure things out on their own in time & with out any of your doing...don't bad mouth him or put him down to your kids...they'll figure things out eventually & respect you more.
2006-10-05 10:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by pattysez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is pregnant you better HURRY up and get child support before she gets it first. Kick him out and go to attorney general and get temporary child support. Hurry fast so yours comes first.
First take care of that. Revenge is trickier. Some things I did, was get him in trouble at work for things he was doing behind his boss' back. Had his van repo'd since it was in my name. And I filed for divorce obviously. Had some fun with it for a bit. But you won't heal until you let the hate for him go.
2006-10-05 10:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man I hope my ex never sees this, but I posted lost dog signs with his picture on them all over town. explained in detail his cheating ways and how he needed to be neutered. Since he had 3 girls including me at the same time, he still don't know which one did it. Ah, it was priceless
2006-10-05 10:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Don't!!!! Believe Me, You Will Not Feel Any Better! I know I've gotten back at a man and I still cried for a week because it still hurt horribly!
2006-10-05 10:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by EriksSweetheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say his pockets (money, property, etc.), but the longer your in court the more money you will have to pay the lawyer. Hopefully your soon to be ex won't be a jackass and try and fight what you deserve...HALF!!! I speak from experience, from when my mom divorced my dad for similar reasons.
2006-10-05 10:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by sleeper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋