I am pregnant (7 weeks) and he has asked me to marry him. I do not want to and am for raising the baby alone, and with family. What can I do legal that can keep him away? What is in store in the courts for this? I have much proof of his mental instability. I am in Texas.
2006-10-05 10:01:20 · 18 answers · asked by KelBean 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
by my fiance
2006-10-05 10:01:36 · update #1
It can be very hard to leave someone who is mentally abusive towards you. Look online and find some womens support network in your area, you will find women who are willing to help you out of a bad situation. good luck.
2006-10-05 10:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Sky 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am very sorry about the abuse you have experienced. My advice is that if you do not want to get married than don't. One, you are too young. Secondly, many people marry for the sake of the child, but a bad relationship is worse on a child than having only one parent.
You say you have proff of his instability. If you do and it's not just what people will say to a judge like past restraining orders and such, then get an attorney and you should be able to keep him away from the both of you. Also; there are places that provide "free" legal advice. Most attorneys will see you the first time for no charge. Just explain to them on the phone what your situation is. Hope this helps.
2006-10-05 17:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by phoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well to start off you tell him you want him to stay away from you. If he doesn't comply you go to a court and petition for a restraining order (you may have to prove he is a threat to you).
After the baby is born is a different story. It will be much more difficult to keep him away. First off you will have to petition for sole custody of your child. You will also have to prove to the court system that he is a threat to your baby in order to have his rights as a father taken away (which is not easy)!
You can expect many years in long court battles and expensive legal bills.
Unless you can really prove to the court system he is an unstable father you will lose your case. Your chances for susses are minimal.
2006-10-05 17:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by Nick P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I live in Texas too and I'm pretty sure you can, for now, put a restraining order on him. Yes, its going to be a big headache cause I'm sure you'll have to fill out alot of paperwork, talk with alot of people and get a lawyer. Try doing it under the table and not let him know what your doing, otherwise who knows what he'll do to you and your unborn baby. Since you are pregant I'm sure it will be much easier to get a restraining order against him to protect your unborn child. If you feel you are in real danger, then move away and dont let anyone know where you've moved, it possible.
Good luck and I hope it all works out.
2006-10-05 17:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by jrm_jab 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't marry the fool, you and I both know you can do SO MUCH better than him. I'm so sorry he did all that to you. I say you should do everything in your power to keep your child away from the jerk. Just show what proof you have to any attorney who would be willing to help you get away from your former fiance. Good Luck.
2006-10-05 17:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ex fiancee. I hope. Legally you can get a court order of protection. Call your local chapter of battered women to receive help now. Tell them the whole story. They will help you. They have counseling services to help you to reach a point to never find yourself in this predicament again. Well worth the time and effort I promise you. Good luck. You are only 17 and deserve a real life. You wont have it if you stay with a abusive man. Take it from someone who stayed for 18years. That is longer than you have been alive. It don't get better, it gets worse, you get older, and he has fun. Stop it now. Please.
2006-10-05 17:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This does seem to be a very tricky situation. If the father really is mentally instable you really should seek professional counciling before deciding to take the pregnancy to term. You should get this counciling quickly, do not listen to us non professionals go get some real medical/social professional advice.
2006-10-05 17:11:58 · answer #7 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to the police in your town and ask to talk to an officer and explain the situation. If you feel threatened then there is no point in going on with this person. You could also try social services, pick up the phone and give them a call. I wish the best to you and your child. Good Luck
2006-10-05 17:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by jerry4_fun 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him with your baby. Only if I had somewhere to go. He may abuse your baby and that isn't good. I'm not trying to be rude but I had a boyfriend like that once. I went to the police and all they said was we are busy right now. You should of never gotten yourself into this mess. I said well arent you going to do something. And the lady goes No but you will and leave him. And I said thank you. She said and you'll be doing us all a favor by leaving.
2006-10-05 17:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by texasrangersprincess45 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to weigh what should do about the unborn child, just don't use him/her as a pawn. there are plenty of single parents in todays society. if you can handle it and you have the support, go for it. if he on the other hand is abusive now, 9 times out of 10 he will be even more abusive and obsessive when the baby is born. you may want to go ahead now and seek your options for types of restraining orders and or info on ways for him to give up his parental rights (under what circumstances)
2006-10-05 17:13:33 · answer #10 · answered by Say It Again M'am 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need a restraining order. Go to the DA's office pronto and ask to see the domestic violence specialist. Chances are, they have a well-established procedure. It's not like this is very rare or anything.
Whatever you do, don't marry him just because you are pregnant. You and I both know you would regret that.
2006-10-05 17:09:41 · answer #11 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋