i hate it being such a pushover how do u change? (yes i can spell thts just how u talk online)?

Question

even my younger yes i said younger treats me lyk dirt i always listen to him but he never listens to me even when i try. and my family never belives(every1 lyks my brother better than me cuz he's more social i think but it's not tht i care bout its how no one belives me...the only person who sees him for what he really is is my cuz and she moved back...she's also the only one who saw that my dad is such an ***). my brother the most but pretty much every1 if they need to. we;ll people my age i'm 14. it wud be wrong if adults did it to me. (not that my dad isn't an mean *** emotionally abusive conrtol freak and i feel trapt everytime he's around cuz even if i try to leave when i'm 18 he's scare the ****** **** out of me when he gets mad he even scares adults but that isn't the point). i hate being treated lyk **** wut do i do? it drives me crazy (oh and if u cud answer my question titled skool sux tht wud help too (u'd have to do it on here though cuz tht ones closed to new answers).

Answer 1

If you really feel that your home life is that horrible, then I suggest you try talking with a guidance counselor or an adult that you trust (a pastor or youth conselor). These people will be able to help you and guide you through your hard times. They can also be a person you can call in your time of need. It is best if you are a girl that you speak with a female conselor and if you are a boy that you speak with a male conselor. Your school should have a conselor that is experienced with dealing with issues like your home life and your school struggles. These people are there to help you, so let them.

In response to your School Sucks question, remember that high school friends arent everything. Once you graduate, you probably will never speak to most of the people in your HS except for at your reunions (if you go), so don't stress about it if you dont have friends there. Try making friends outside of school instead. Go to a youth center or a church group to find people who will accept you for who you are and to have a really great time doing organized activities with other people your age.

Also, remember that it is more important that you like yourself than that other people like you. If you like yourself and who you are then you will have confidence and develop your own unique personality. Consequently, people will like you. People always like unique and confident people, so try cultivating some confidence and see what happens.

Good luck!

Answer 2

First of all, I think you should be in counseling. Your attitude seems pretty bad to me. You know, it's true that you must give respect in order to get respect. Try to sit down and have a heart-to-heart with your dad about the things that are bothering you(even the younger brother). Is there a mom around. They are usually pretty understanding. Last, but not least, you could clean up your vocabulary a little. That's some mouth you've got for a 14-year-old!!!