Im bored out of my mind with my current significant other. We have been together for a while and he wants to get married. I'm not sure about this because i have interest in other men. I would love to settle down and start a family, but if i can't stay faithful i don't see the use in marriage. He's really a great guy and i hate to hurt him by just walking out. However, i don't feel marriage is the solution either. What's a girl to do?
2006-10-05 09:57:53 · 4 answers · asked by Cherrycrime 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him now - it won't get any better later. If you want to settle down, that's fine, but you don't have to do it with him. There are other men out there. Accept the risk of possibly never settling down for the possibility of meeting someone who's right for you.
Imagine yourself with him 3 years from now. Just as bored, possibly cheating on him, possibly feeling guilty about it, possibly hurting him.... Possibly bringing children to this mess. Willpower is a pile of bull** btw, when it comes to this kind of things. You deserve to be happy, girl, not just sort of happy.
2006-10-05 10:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well first of all every single person on this entire planet has gotten bored with there spouse its natural so this is what you do go out more and do new things try things you have wanted to do forever
and its not his fault if you feel like cheating that's just another way of blaming someone else for your problems if you are not a faithful person then you need to let him find someone that would want to be faithful. and trust me if he is as great as you say he is but he is just a little boring then he will be snatched up really quick
and have you ever thought that you are bored with you own life and not him
if you are happy with yourself then you wouldn't mind a guy that is a little boring
but i think you are gonna through away a great guy and then realize that when its to late
2006-10-05 10:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you get married you need to learn the difference between love and infatuation.
Infatuation (or the constant feeling of thrill) does and should fade away, love only continues to grow, it's much more intense, but at the same time, much quieter.
I don't know if you really love this guy or not, but I do know that if you spend your whole life seeking infatuation, you will never be satisfied with anyone.
good luck!
2006-10-05 10:32:46 · answer #3 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you do not feel you can be faithful and are bored with your current guy, then you need to move on. At least you see it and are willing to admit it. Just be sure to tell him and go. You obviously will not be happy where you are now, so set him free and get on with your life...
2006-10-05 10:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋