I need some advice before I go to work tomorrow?

Question

I started a new job 2 weeks ago and I need advice on a difficult situation. How can I be more assertive to a collegue who gives me a hard time at every mistake I make? Here's the situation; once I was given responsibility for the whole shift (including other staff, office and client's money). Everyone at work is given this responsibility atleast once a week but my collegues and boss were understanding towards me and accepted that I would make mistakes being new to the job. But there was 1 collegue who although told me "not to worry" about the position and that " I would be fine" started being really bossy towards me the next day when she was counting the money cos she said there was money missing and I got so stressed that I was n't able to do the job properly. Other collegues who thought she was being too harsh on me later spoke to her and 1 collegue told me she is always like this towards new people and that I just need to be more assertive but how can I speak to her in a civil way?

No nycgrl, she is n't above me but she probably feels she is because she started working there only a month after the company began.

Also, I did n't mention that I don't want to be rude or swear at her firstly, because I would n't like to be treated like that by another collegue and secondly, because she can report it to the manager and I think there are protection laws for swearing in a work environment.

I would like to just approach her in an assertive and civil manner so I can maintain a professional relationship with her. I want to avoid us becoming enemies because I like this job and I wish to stay here for a while and I would feel really bad if the tension between us grew stronger.

Answer 1

What exactly do you mean?
A) You did make mistakes, but it was inevitable because you are new?
or
B) You made no mistakes and this woman is giving you a hard time because she wants everyone to think you did?

If A) Just learn from the experience and put up with her scolding. As you learn the ropes, you won't make anymore mistakes and she'll get off your back. If she doesn't, then the time to confront her will be after you have proved yourself to be a capable employee.

If B) Without losing your temper, tell her you weren't aware of any mistake on your part. Ask HER to run you through the procedure again, even though it may make you feel small having to do that. If possible, do this within earshot of others. Either way; if she refuses or tutors you, if she blames you again, you won't look bad. She will.

Answer 2

don't speak to her unless it has to do with work for one thing, don't let it become personal- maybe she's just a *****. I wouldn't say anything to her.... yet, but if it keeps up write her a letter and say that her harrasing you and bossing you is causing a hostile work environment and if she doesn't quit, you will take it to the boss. I'll bet she backs down in a hurry. Document everything too,if the boss doesn't know about it, it'll be easier if you have documentation and proof. document the who, what, why and where. write down witnesses, dates, times, what was said, etc. be specific and if it comes to it, you'll have documentation enough for a law suit against the company if the boss knows about it and lets it continue, or documentation will help him decide if she's worth the trouble of keeping her on.

Answer 3

She might be doing this to test how strong you really are in this job. Do Not give up, you can get through this all you need is some patience. If you have a question or have something to tell her go and tell her professionally and very nice, show her you can do this. I really hope this works and good luck. Through God anything is Possible. God Bless You

Answer 4

I would say to this person "Hey, I know I made some mistakes (make yourself responsible) but I am brand new to this position and I am trying my best to be the competent person this company hired. Anyone new to this job could easily make the same mistakes. I would appreciate it if you would be more understanding. Thank you"

Hope that helps! Good luck! :)

Answer 5

what's the purpose of telling him you want him if he would not recognize who you're, do you assume him to be recommendations-reader and make a flow that way, act like an man or woman and ask him to bypass have espresso or some thing, and in case you do not opt for to ask him out than only tell him you imagine he's a funky guy and also you'll opt for to get to carry close him better. good success

Answer 6

Don't worry about it,just concentrate on,task that is at hand. for the more you worry about her, it's going to get rough,besides your new,and with time experience will come,so listen yes,bout do what you do best. as the others said she like that to new employee's,all the time. I understand I've experience it before,and over came,it's just and obstacle in the way of success for you. think of it that way.

Answer 7

Be nice to her regardless and if she gets worse tell her to back off. There's no harm in that. She should understand and get over it. What she's perfect? No one is tell her to relax and take her anger out on someone who cares.

Answer 8

My first question is, is this person above you? If she isn't then all you have to tell her that you don't report to her. say it nicely, and if it doesn't work, then just escalate it to your boss.

Answer 9

Tell her straight up what is going on. She will bully you as long as you let her. You must stand up for yourself.

Answer 10

tell her to get the f**k off ur back or you'll kick her @ss