My husband and I have never been ones to see eye to eye in the bedroom. I like things more rough - not too rough... biting, exploritive play, maybe a little bit of pain...
He on the other hand he is very lovey, and likes love making.
I have done what I can to be romantic, I have lit candles and experimented with scenarios with him and bent to what he wants, but he isn't comfortable with taking the lead in any way.
I am getting very frusterated with it all, and finding that after 6 years of marriage, that I am just not happy in this area. I love my husband, but I am getting EXTREMELY bored with our sex life!
Any ideas?
2006-10-05 09:50:38 · 20 answers · asked by Willalee 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And yes... I have told him. We are very open about our sexual conversations...
2006-10-05 09:56:19 · update #1
Get him all hard and excited, get him all worked up and then tell him if he wants it, he is going to have to take it. Ask him if he thinks he is bad enough to get it if you are not willing to just give it up all nice and gentle. Get a little sassy with him...If he stops trying, calm back down and act like you are going to do it his way, get him all worked up again, and tell him, no way, we have been doing it nice and easy for six years, now if you want it, you have to come get it little boy... Don't get too insulting or demeaning, but push his pride button a little...tell him you do want it, you want it real bad, but he has to come get it. When he tries, don't make it too easy, but do not make it impossible...See how that works...good luck...
2006-10-05 10:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how comfortable you are in the sexual scene with your husband or vise versa, but being that you are married, there should be no hold backs with you. Just come out and tell him what you want while you and him are in the middle of it....LOL....I am serious, my husband was on the stand-offish side when we met and I had to break him in.....there is nothing more sexy than dirty talk while you are making love, and if you think for a minute, I am sure you can come up with some nice nasty things to tell him.......good luck honey............and remember, be free in the bedroom.......tell him to explore.
2006-10-05 16:58:20 · answer #2 · answered by dixiegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this. Maybe he has a childood memory or an event happened in the past that makes him want to be more respectful to the females' body. Urge him on in the bed while he's doing you. Just get on top and ride him like you want to. Or wait til he's sleep and tie him up as to where he can't stop you then do him wild and he'll see what he's been missing for 6 years.
2006-10-05 16:57:36 · answer #3 · answered by Sharice M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in order for a married couple to be happy thwey have to be happy with that spector of their life so maybe you should let him know that you sometimes want a change of scenery and you want things to be a little different. A marriage is fifty fifty so you od what the other partner wants sometimes. So just like you bent your back backwards for him he has to do the same for you regardless of how he feels. He should want to make you happy anyway.
2006-10-05 16:54:53 · answer #4 · answered by BabyDoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an informative sex book with different ideas and positions. One that explains the best way to turn each other on and read it together.
2006-10-05 16:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by shakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get in the heat of things and ask him to spank you. Talk dirty to him tell him you are sl&t and want to be phucked like the sl&t you are... take it in the butt. suck and swallow. If you initiate he may well follow your lead. Dress up in a hot blue (pick his favorite color) corsette with white lace hose and garters.
Get out the Kamasutra lotions Sounds like you'll have to do the work, once you get him to a certain plateau take it to the next.
2006-10-05 17:10:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tie him to the bed. Climb on top and ride like crazy until you have satisfied yourself, then climb off and go clean yourself up. Don't forget to say I love you when you turn out the lights. Oh yeah, and you may want to untie him when you are done.
Good luck!
2006-10-05 16:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I had 'em, I'd share!! I am in the boat with you...only we've been married 7 years. A little tequila in me and I get more brazen in being the aggressor.....
2006-10-05 16:53:49 · answer #8 · answered by kellettgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK.. try going out and getting any "props" you may need to get things a little rougher...
hand cufs?
blind folds?
paddels?
leather?
then get a few videos that show pretty much the stuff you want to try. then... watch them together and re-inact them!
that way he has somethning to base it on and you get what you want too!
2006-10-05 16:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, and i have started to be a little more aggresive myself towards him in the bedroom. he's picked up on it.
2006-10-05 16:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋