His age is 55 . He is very religious and has always helped others througout his life and now he has been transferred to a High profile city where people are proffessional and doesnt think about others and lack warmth .He feels outcast and he cannot change himself much as he is used to it througout his life ...He feels down and is depressed and lot is hurt in his heart can sumthing be advised
2006-10-05 09:47:41 · 6 answers · asked by ronell t 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
He will be able to integrate and find a neighborhood, club, group, church or something that will give him a sense of helping others.
He needs to just stand strong and be himself. Is there any family close to him now? Was there before? This would be his greatest "loss" if he is cut off from his loved ones.
I was in another country and away from my family and it depressed me very much. After 2 years, I came back home to family.
2006-10-05 09:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by educated guess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. It happened to me when I moved from Tennessee where I had always lived in the country. I was young then, and still had difficulty adjusting. It would be helpful if he could make a few friends around his age with similar interests. Talk to him and see if he is open to joining a seniors group near him. They can be a lot of fun. Also, since he is religious, there should be some like'minded people attending his church. Or finally, if he just needs someone to chat with sometimes, try me.LOL!!! Good luck.
2006-10-05 17:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not try to change himself as it seems he is a kind and generous person... the world needs more people like him I'd say.
I don't know what you mean by "A grade city," but I do know what you mean about people who live in metropolitan centers being cold and unfriendly. (Even some small places are like that.) Can your father get involved in a group of people with similar interests? A book club? A gardening club? A group that meets at his church/place of worship? I bet he has an incredible amount of wisdom to share with others about his experiences or special talents. It sounds like his heart is big enough to want to teach or help others... maybe he could teach a class at a recreation center or a school. (My mother teaches heirloom sewing now that she is retired and she loves it.) What about taking a class (cooking, woodworking, whatever...) to meet others or volunteering at a local charity? The American Cancer Society has Thrift Shops to help raise funds and they always need volunteers. (Even just one day a week will help him meet new people...)
I feel for him and I hope you find the perfect "niche" for him to connect with people who will value him and make him feel welcome. Good luck!
2006-10-05 17:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by hrh_gracee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you father find a church or charitable organization where he can meet others who are like him. Those who like to help others and who are warm and giving. There are all types of people in cities and I know for a fact there are not only these so called professionals who are cold and materialistic. There are many professional people who are still warm individuals. I think maybe your dad needs to just stop focusing on those he is disappointed in and just disregard them as potential friends. This will free him up to find those who are more like him. He may be lonely for a bit while he looks for friends who are more what he is use to being around, it is an adjustment being in a new place away from all which is familiar.
I am so sorry your dad is down and feeling isolated. There are people who are good where he lives though he just needs to allow himself to get out into his new community and find them. I wish you luck in helping your father, he is lucky to have a child who loves him so deeply.
2006-10-05 16:56:51 · answer #4 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps finding a church that has people that are more like himself would help to lift his spirits. The big city can drain people because there is so much negative energy from the many other depressed people & others who are just plain LOST! Maybe he just needs to come home. I'm 53 & I can relate! If he has family, then he needs them more than his job!
2006-10-05 16:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know his pain. I lived in San Francisco for almost 25 years; then I could not take the concentrated sleaze, poor driving conditions and living among people with a misplaced sense of pride any longer. I moved; I hope your father can too.
2006-10-05 16:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋