who were your enemies in your past life? how did they make your life so miserable?

Question

what nasty and horrible things did they say and do to you? did you get your own back, if so how? have you seen them since? if you had to say something to their face what would that be? i'd have plenty to get off my chest. like, for instance the school bullies who made life difficult for me as they have done by picking on me and calling me all sorts of despicable names, the college student who treated me like dirt and the person i am most deeply ashamed of: one of my ex-college tutors, who last year was rude to my face and who told me to go away in a nasty and hateful tone. i even offered to buy her a cup of coffee but she wasn't having any of it and alas, as i walked off i had tears running down my face. i never felt so embarassed and appalled as i was then. stupid woman i'd say. as one of her previous students, i would say that she is one of the most spiteful, two-faced, hypocritical people i've met. a good tutor she was too- shame the same can't be said about her as a human being

just for the record, as much as i feel angry about it, i have since moved on with my life; alas, they are a distant memory and so i couldn't care less really what happens to them

Answer 1

Yeah, I would have to say the bullies at school too, they really brought me down, even being turned away for the Royal Navy knocked me back. It's also one of my teachers, I'll refrain from saying who, as she may be related to someone on here, but she hated me and brought me down for anything, I wound up in front of her for wearing deoderant once, which was unfair. But ultimately, I'd have to say the bullies at school, they made my life a misery, but still I gt my own back on one of them, one year it had snowed really heavily, and (although we were in school that day) we all had a snowball fight, I saw one of the bullies I despised, so picked up a rock, covered it in snow, and threw it at him at the back of his head,nit hit him and he left me alone after that. I also told the headteacher that he was smoking, (which he wasn't that day, but his clothes always smelt of cigs) and our headteacher found him and came down on him like the proverbal hammer!

Answer 2

I think the question is about things that have happened to you in the past (rather than in a past life!).

Sometimes, no matter how much you wish to take your revenge, the opportunity does not arise.

I lost my house, my treasured personal possessions, everything of value that I had, and ended up with debt that I did not incur, and my three grown-up children refuse all contact with me.

If I had been a bad husband or father, maybe I should have deserved the prolonged, acrimonious, hate-filled divorce that I had to endure, and all that without any family or friends to support me. But I was a good man who went out of his way to help, support and defend his family.

The irrational nature of it all sent me headfirst into a deep reactive depression. I was signed off work for 4½ months, and when I returned to work, I was far from well. I came close to committing suicide three times, and, if I had had the personal strength and valour, I would have done so, but I chickened out!

It is now 8 years since "she" announced out of the blue that she was divorcing me, after more than 20 years. The relationship had been in difficulties for three years, but I had been doing my utmost to hold us all together, and reacting (firefighting style) to the problems that were being caused (by her). I was unable to take a step back and see the full picture, so was totally unprepared for her announcement.

The decree absolute was granted in early 2000. Since then I have made loads of bad decisions because of my poor state of mental health - decisions about work and other relationships.

It is only now in late 2006 that I feel well and strong enough (well maybe 95%) to finally address all the many problems and issues that I left unresolved during those bleak years.

During that time I thought that when I recovered my health I would see things in a better light, but no, I still think that what happened to me was an unbelieveably cruel act by a woman who was supposed to love me. But I decided to forgive.

Forgiveness does not mean putting everything back as it was - that would be to ignore the lesson, which is that the woman is basically a bad person with no sense of morality or compassion. What forgiveness does mean is to release all those negative sentiments (anger, sadness, vengefulness etc.) and accept the real current situation and move on.

I never had the opportunity to get revenge, because of (1) my poor health, and (2) her aggressive lawyers. However I am reconciled to all that has happened. I know that I was a good and decent person. She might live with a guilty conscience for the rest of her life. Soon I will marry a woman that far exceeds my wildest dreams. However my ex-wife will never marry again, because she knows that she will not be able to find a man that will love and protect her as much as I did. Maybe she won financially, but I'm standing firmly and squarely on the moral ground. There's a broad smile across my face.

Answer 3

yeah, ian calderwood, who attended binley park school in coventry was a mean nasty vindictive obnoxious fat school bully..

he terrorised me... and terrified me. , i saw the sad fat stumbling drunkard lying in a gutter, almost unconscious from too much drink, and i stuck my fingers down my throat, and vomited the vindaloo and 8 pints all over his head... never did a meal taste so good but now im 50, and fat sad old balding drunkards dont scare me anymore.. and i like my curry... i wish i could have seen him explain it to his wife...

Answer 4

ive only ever hated one person in my life, that was some guy who hit my mum, apart from that ive never had the ability to hate someone for bullying me etc.

Answer 5

you realy have to stop reading those new age books lol