2006-10-05 09:28:16 · 15 answers · asked by lady o 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well if you want to get married then you need to leave. Otherwise settle with not being married.
2006-10-05 09:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...you must make a choice. How important is that piece of paper to you? Will it change things between you? (NO, it probably won't--this I know from experience). I would say that you need to decide--can I live with this? If you can, then you're all set. If you really want to be married, maybe it's time to move on. Just remember, although there are tax and insurance benefits, marriage is a committment between two people--and having that piece of paper won't force anyone to be faithful or anything else. I know some "unmarrieds" who are happier and more faithful to one another than some of the "marrieds" I know. My DH lived together for over four years before marrying, and nothing changed after the wedding--except my last name and some legal stuff. Our relationship is the same.
Hope that helps. Good luck to you!!
2006-10-05 16:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by pisceanwillow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends - if you are happy with the relationship (and many people choose not to get married these days - it's just a bit of paper they say) then carry on and do nothing. Some people like to be married though and like the commitment from their partner. It depends on which camp you fall in to. It would be hasty to thow out a good partner due to a lack of enthusiasm for weddings - providing everything else is okay. You may end up single - which must be a step back.
2006-10-05 16:32:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage blows.
My advice is...... don't do it.
But, if you seriously think that you really want to be married then you gotta have the s*** or get off the pot conversation, and if he still says no, dump him, and find someone else who does want to eventually be married.
I dated mine for 10 years. Long relationships are actually bad news for long marriages. For whatever reason, you tend to believe that marriage is supposed to mean something different to your relationship than what you have currently as an unmarried couple. Usually somebody ends up disappointed. Then, because you were together for so long, and everybody expects you to make it work, you hang onto it for too long, when you know it can't be fixed. Now you've wasted how many years, for what? If you guys are happy now, why screw with it?
Good luck
2006-10-05 16:36:53 · answer #4 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you happy not being married? Do you want to be married and they know this? what are they scared of? Do you really want to be married or just like the idea of it? marriage is hard, but 10 years is a long time. I would take a lot of thought on this, you don't want to loss someone I know but do you want to waste 10 more years?
2006-10-05 16:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by kimberle f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you wanna get married, move on. I used to date a guy for six years and he still didn't want to get married, so I broke up and moved on. Less than 6 months later he proposed, but guess what, it was too late for him as I suddenly realized, why did I wait for this guy at all? I just didn't want him anymore. I still loved him the day I broke up with him. Well, so I thought. But then I realized, I was just used to his presence. It wasn't love anymore. It was comfort. Life is strange. Do this, if he really loves you, he will come back to you and propose. And if you still love him then, get married!!
2006-10-05 16:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Sunbeam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well after 10 years it is pretty obvious that he is not going to ever marry you. Move on if you really want to be married. If that is not a big deal and you are happy stay there. Marriage is really not everything.
2006-10-05 16:40:20 · answer #7 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and discuss why the feel this way.
If after you have talked about this and they still dont want to get married and you still do then you need to end the relationship because it will no longer grow.. this issue will fester and destroy everything you once had. it would be better to end it in love than to wait and hate each other later.
2006-10-05 16:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something for yourself...MOVE ON with your life. If this person does not care enough to commit to you for the rest of your life, why waste another second on them? After 10 years and still no commitment, they probably will never ever make one. Life is too short and YOU DESERVE BETTER! YOU are the only one that can make the CHOICE! Make it and don't look back. Pray and commit to the Lord and He will direct your pathway and make it sure. Best to you.
2006-10-05 16:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what are the details but Honestly you just leave them and move on because ten years is a long time. But again depends on circumstances to.
2006-10-05 16:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Alisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋