I am gay, and not a lover of women. I can't come out, yet, but this is my first g.f., and i like this guy who is gay. HYe is not out, but he said something... incriminating. I could NOT BE MORE SURE. how do i break up with her???
2006-10-05 09:27:00 · 19 answers · asked by Jake K 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
please do not say being gay is a choice, plz.
2006-10-05 09:32:17 · update #1
There is no reason you have to come out to break up with her. Straight people break up all the time. It is almost stupid for her
Nobody should be in a serious or long term relationship before the age of 21
Just tell her that you feel you are too young to be in a serious relationship. It is the truth. You don't have to "come out" for this to be true.
Remember this when you enter into the what ever it will be with the boy you like. If you expect that this will be a "forever" thing, you will end up very disappointed. Even if it lasts a while, by the time you go away to college you will be such a different person you and he will not have the same needs, likes, and dislikes.
Many relationships fall apart simply because of unrealistic expectations. Many end badly because of people insisting that the other person live up to those unrealistic expectations.
I do believe in love. I have been in a gay relationship for over 16 years. I just think people should wait before attempting to try the "long term" thing.
Have fun, enjoy life. Share the joy with whoever you choose to share it with, but don't DEMAND exclusivity before you and your chosen one is capable of understanding that kind of comittment.
2006-10-06 04:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that things are not working out between you two and you would like to end the relationship. She doesn't need to know that you are gay.
2006-10-05 16:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Yikes! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easier way to break up with a girl than to say...........I'm gay! Since you are not ready to come out yet.....if she tells anyone say you were joking. How did you end up with a girlfriend anyways?????
2006-10-05 20:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONESTY, HONESTY, HONESTY!!! Just tell her the truth even if the guy isnt out that shouldnt keep you from making a mess of your life and your current girlfriend, if you like her even as a friend you owe it to her. She may have really strong feelings for you and you shouldnt lead her on.
2006-10-05 16:31:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave subtle hints, like start looking at MEN when you're out with her while ignoring all the other women, Invite your boyfriend among on a date and pay more attention to him instead of her.
Stuff like this.
2006-10-05 16:38:40 · answer #5 · answered by grumpyfiend 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whatever you do, don't tell her it's because you're gay, just tell her you don't want to go out with her anymore. By the way, being gay is a choice...just because you don't like girls doesn't mean you're gay. Someday maybe you'll like them. You don't have to become gay...maybe you should talk to your mom or dad about this decision so that they can help you.
2006-10-05 16:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Catch a Falling Star 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not be more sure of what? That he is gay? Tell the girl you don't want to be with her, give her the "I want to be friends story...."
2006-10-05 16:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lie through your teeth, Just tell her you want to be friends ant that you just don't want to be in a relationship right now..... Let her go gently and lovingly... Don't tell her your gay.... .Could be damaging to either you or her....
2006-10-05 17:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by mylife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to have more than one woman before you decide to be gay ,my son just came out this year saying he is gay ,and his life has been living a living hell .so look if you are you are !!!but you need to be out with it .Give reg .relationship a chance first .
2006-10-05 16:34:04 · answer #9 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just tell her that you're not ready for a commitment yet. She'll might be upset but she'll get over it and move on.
2006-10-05 16:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by IM THE GAY GOD ALL FEAR ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋