Sex too young?

Question

Why do you think kids now a days are having sex at such a young age. Even myself, now 21, I had started when I was 13. (I'm still with the same guy!) But seriously I don't get why young kids that age feel it's so necessary to do that. Do they not understand that love and sex really don't have much in common, unless you're an adult in a serious commitment. I think that's why I did it, so I would feel loved by boys, but with growth I've learned way better than that. Now a days with all the news, tv shows, and even cartoons (watch cartoon network after 11pm!) nowadays, they just don't understand the true meaning, and feeling behind sex, to enjoy it at such a young age. I know I didn't. Do you think if we had even more strict parental guidelines, and took some of the crap on cable off the air, it might possibly help. What's your thought on the whole situation?

Answer 1

There is a girl in my 7th grade class that says shes pregnant. of course we dont believe her (when she says, "Oh Im pregnant. I'm 3 weeks along, I can feel the baby kicking; i think its a girl!" you wouldnt either). but ya. its happening all the time. You cant control your life and the person who said that the only thing you can control in your life is your virginity is right. girls are doing now for the attention, the feeling they are grown up, that they can control this stuff. I'm 12 and i havent ever been kissed(i count it after 4th grade, i think you dont really understand until then)!! The television is getting worse and worse (like adult swim--cartoon network after 11pm). It encourages this kind of stuff. Sex drugs stealing lying etc.... Even though i dont think everyone should wait until marriage i still think you have to be ready, mentally and physically. Society is going down the drain i tell ya.

Answer 2

I don't think it's the television shows or even celebrities that are pushing kids to want and start having sex at a really early age these days. It's the lack of education that's getting to them. TV shows and celebrities aren't your child's baby-sitters! Parents shouldn't be trying to hide things from their children ... instead they should be giving them some proper education about sex and whatnot. If their children have a question they should be answering it straight up, stop beating around the bush. They should be teaching their kids about what they could get if they had sex like, getting pregnant or even an STD and teaching them why they shouldn't have sex until they're married or even unprotected sex ... maybe then these kids will understand why they shouldn't be having sex at an early age.

Answer 3

I think this question comes up in every generation. There was a time long ago when a girl who turned 13 was married off. She was considered a woman. I think that once our bodies become ready to make babies, it triggers our minds about sex. Doesn't mean we should do it though. Education goes a long way to making an informed decision about when to have sex. It's really important to make that mental connection that sex makes babies. Sounds obvious, sure but in the heat of the moment, that fact may seem rather distant. Kids need to think about the decision to have sex and be prepared for how to react once they get into a situation where it may occur.

Answer 4

I have a son and he is now almost 20 months old. I plan on having the sex talk with him really early simply because of the fact that yes kids are having sex at much younger ages now a days. I feel that we can try all we can to talk to our children and explain to them what sex is really suppose to meen and when is the best time for it. Every parent would like for thier child to wait but now kids are doing basically what they feel. We cant stop them from doing what they want we can only try to influence them in another direction if possible.

Answer 5

I think it has to do with the fact that kids are being exposed to more and more adult situations/subjects at younger ages, and parents who do not have the time to spend with their kids. When I was a child, stay-at-home moms were the norm. Nowadays it's so hard to make a living that most families are two-income familes, and the kids are missing out on that extra care and teaching from ther parent who is home when the kids get home from school.

Answer 6

i think your right about the age being very young i consider that i was very young at 15 but apparently thats late nowadays. i dont think that tv helps but its not the cause i only had sex at 15 because my friends alll said they had i felt left out so i slept with my boyf who was a year older then me it was crap sorry to say that i felt completely un ready and felt as though i had made a big mistake straight away to make matters worst years later i found out they had all lied so i had put my self through hell to be the same as them but in fact i was the first out of all my friends to lose my virginity sad but usually this is the reason most kids go ahead against there better judgement and have sex way to early

Answer 7

I have answered several questions very similiar to this.I believe that children that young simply are uneducated.The lack of education about their bodies and sexual intercourse.Parents are so embarassed to speak to their children about sex.They are so afraid of giving their children the idea of sexual intercourse but seem to overlook the influence that the media have on teenagers.I do not blame it solely on the media.In everyday life,teens are pressured to do things,and do them because they are curious and want to fit in and feel as if they belong.Parents also,do not speak to them about the risks involved with sex,not just the physical such as std's and pregnancy even tho,they are very important and should be thought about but about the emotion risks.Parents have no idea where to begin when speaking to their younger teen about sex.They are so afraid to say the wrong things.It should not sugarcoated nor should it be made as something that is horrible.That only makes children more curious about it.They need the truth about intercourse.Yes,it is a beautiful thing,when you are an adult and ready.It comes with its risks,even as an adult and a teenager.Teach them about ways to protect themselves.If parents try to shelter their teens it is only going to make them rebel and do it elsewhere and make that curiousity even stronger.If they were spoken to about sexual intercourse,ways to protect themselves,the risks involved with it,and given firm discipline i think it would eliminate some of it.Also,parents shouldnt react badly when a child of that age asks questions.They are at that stage where they are going to ask questions because they are curious.So my question to parents is,Would you rather your child find out from peers inaccurately and possibly find out by engaging in an act of that nature,or would you rather they come to you,get accurate information,and make wise choices?I myself as well as i believe many parents would choose that latter,so simply educate them.Sex is everywhere,not just television but in schools,teens speak of it and engage in it,but educate them so they make wise decisions.Have a nice day.

Answer 8

TELEVISION NOW IS JUST A BIG SEX OBJECT. IT IS NOT SAFE FOR OUR CHILDREN TO WATCH ANYMORE. I DID NOT ENJOY SEX WHEN I WAS YOUNG. I JUST DID IT BECAUSE I HAD A BOYFRIEND. I KNOW THAT I HAD STRICT PARENTAL GUIDELINES AND WAS BROUGHT UP IN CHURCH. A LOT OF PARENTS OF TODAY ARE SO STRUNG OUT ON DRUGS AND THE KIDS ARE SEEKING ATTENTION IN OTHER WAYS. THATS WHY ITS SO EASY FOR A GUY TO ENTICE A GIRL AT A VERY YOUNG AGE.

Answer 9

sex is everywhere! in movies theyw atch, television, commercials! some people think tat its the cool th ing to do!. . its just depressing on here to see poeple saying things liek "im planning to loose my virginity this week and im 14." you dont PLAN to loose it, it just happens when the time feels right! and i do not think people should have sex unless they are in a long term relationship. not just to loose it cause its the "cool thing to do" along with drugs and alcohol. many teens out there do have thier morals though. and! i hate it when 14,15,16 year olds come on hre and say they dont practice safe sex and asking if they could get pregnant. its liek HELLO! where is your sex ed at your school? and what abotu stds? its upsetting to see poepl liek that sometimes, but they're only doing it to themselves. there making the choices and unfortunately its the wrong ones =(

Answer 10

At the age of 12 the sex drive starts for every1 mainly guys.Girls have the power to say no.