Attraction at first sight: What are the things that a woman like to hear?

Question

What are the words that a woman like the most to hear to get attracted and fascinated, when you talk her for the VERY first time?

You should talk on her or on yourself?

Answer 1

Absolutely talk about her during a first meeting. Every individual, no matter how enlightened or the level of growth attained, has what is called an "ego". Now, some have a very small need to have that ego stroked while another may have a huge need for the ego to be stroked.

At a first meeting it is impossible to determine, in the initial moments which level the woman is at, or what inbetween level she may be at. However, you can be sure she will have some desire to have her ego stroked. It is the same for men. So, you can't go wrong by beginning the descussion with words related to her or her life and experiances. However, you do want to be aa bit sutble about it, not just jump all over her with a gush of statements regarding her, as this can actually create a backfire affect.

Now, as the conversation continues you may notice she is attempting to place the forcus on YOU. As you are attemptng to place the focus on HER. This can create an awkward situation, with each of you attempting to focus conversation on the other.

This signifies she is one who has attained a higher level of emotional stability or emotional IQ, so to speak, which is actually good news for you. It means she is not focused only on herself and is capable of putting attention on the person she is with, rather than needing to be the center of attention. However, don't assume that a woman who does not try to alter the focus onto you is automatically a self-centered or immature person, she may just be a very polite person. It takes much more than one or even two or a half dozen meetings to get to really know another individual.

If you do find yourself in the position of going back and forth on who is up for discussion, allow the woman to set the pace of the conversation. Follow her lead. If she wishes to focus more on you than on her, do so, but also put focus back on her when you can as well, so she does not come from the meeting with the idea YOU are immature and selfish.

It is not very difficult to follow the lead of another in a conversation, just be a very good listener. Women love men who can really listen and hear them. We often get ignored by men who wish to only discuss their own lives, their jobs, their sports, their this and their that. Women really enjoy positive attention, and the most positive attention you can give is to really listen to what she is saying, and respond by repeating what she said, so she knows you are really hearing her.

Two things are accomplished by using active listening skills: The first is allowing the other person to feel validated, and the other is by allowing the other to iinstantly correct you if what you repeat is not what they meant. So, if she says one thing and you repeat it back in your own words, and it is not what she meant, she has the opportunity to immediantly say, no, I meant this, not that. This really open communication between two individuals and allows them to get to know each other. This is a skill which should be worked on consistantly throughout our lives, not just to impress a person when we first meet them.

So, just say something about her that is obviously true, such as commenting on how her eye color is your favorite eye color, or how unusual it is from normal "blue eyes" and how pretty they are. Then you can just ask her what her favorite color is, and so on and so forth as the conversation continues. Now, I used the comment on eye color just as a general outline not as a solid first comment to make. You have to use what feels comfortable to you or it won't come off as sincere or genuine. She must know you find her facinating and wonderful and a good listener. That combination in a first meeting (date) is wonderful for most any woman.

This is all rather general as we are all individuals and as such have different expectations and needs. Just follow her lead and do what is most comfortable for yourself. By all means, be yourself. Don't try to be somebody you are not, as that is the quickest way to look and feel a fool, as well as ruin an opportunity to make a first good impression. That first impression is the most important one. Be a gentleman, but be yourself and be honest.

Good luck on your conversations with women you are attracted to. I wish you the best and a great day.

Answer 2

Ask her questions about herself. Don't make it like the Spanish Inquisition, but it's O.K to show an interest in her. Start the conversation with a small compliment, something that most people wouldn't notice. Then, ask her a couple of questions. You'll be amazed........

Answer 3

That I have that special charm that attracted the man. That I'm beautiful. Quite sexy. Got a nice figure. Compliment me on my intelligence. As much as I like man with a witty sense of humor and a glib tongue. I tend to shun a man who's condescending, quite needy, and has his hands all over me. Or a man expressing his love after first glimpse of my picture . I have had this experience over here..

Answer 4

If you have your life together are comfortable with yourself and exude confidencere and are happy and excited about your life women will be drawn to you no matter what comes out of your mouth.

The simple formula to have the best most beautiful and interesting women in your life is to be the best man you can be and forget about the B.S.

Answer 5

Uh - the truth is nice.
If it's a set up date, talk about life eperiences, travels, etc...be interesting. Yet always listen to HER.
If you are walking up to her to try to talk to her, just give a warm and friendly smile and say hi.
Then say something sweet....dont HIT on her, but be sweet. And creative. :)
Like.... You look like someone that could make me smile, would you like to sit down and chat?
Ok no, thats dorky. :)

I never hit on a gal, and been with my hubby since I was 15. So I am not much help. :)
But honesty is the best, for serious.

Answer 6

One of the most important things is to show interest. Ask her questions, but don't be indecent. If she is interested in you aswell, you will notice soon enough, because she will ask you questions aswell... before you know it, you're engaged in a nice conversation and everything else will happen all by itself.

Answer 7

There are a great many women who are conceited, so just say anything positive about them and they'll believe it.

Some might object if you start to worship them as your god(literally) but not necessarily. The irony is that they accuse us of having large egoes, but at the same time they expect us to perpetually compliment them on every aspect of their being.

Answer 8

tell her she looks pretty, make eye contact always, open doors, just be polite. You CAN NOT over do it though because you'll scare her away. Girls just like to have attention. If you make her feel like you're actually paying attention to her then you're in.

Answer 9

no bullshit!! Other than that it doesn't matter, I hate hearing you have pretty eyes, pretty smile, so on and on... boring!