I come home to my husband jacking to porn...he wacthes mtv but hates music..so he is watching it for the women..but..he never touches,makes love or is any way touchy with his own wife...what should i think about my husband and our marriage??please help..he says its just a guy thing and all he wants is me.is that true or a cover up??/
2006-10-05 09:07:20 · 17 answers · asked by Liz M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He simply is not attracted to you. The problem is not him, it's you. Ask him if he throws up a little in his mouth when he's near you.
2006-10-05 09:10:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Ditto what Sara said.
My suggestion is to simply ask him if he no longer finds you attractive? You'll also want to know what has changed in him, you or the relationship for him to no longer be attracted to you. Allow him to be honest without judging him or showing anger. Remember, it's his feelings he'll be talking about and getting angry at him for the way he feels will only make matters worse. Control the things you can control to make things better and learn to live will or deal with all else.
It's not just a "guy thing" to enjoy porn more than a live woman. For whatever reason, you just don't do it for him anymore and he does not want to hurt your feelings. You want that to change before his porn habit becomes an addiction.
If you ever want to talk in more detail, feel free to e-mail me.
Good luck to you both. I can relate...
2006-10-05 09:25:43 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn, can institute a bunch of sexual problems when the fantasy is not excused mental therefore after. Meaning, if your husband is caught up in watching adult flix and does not include you in your bonding, there could be a great risk of you not being attractive to him any longer. The actor and actresses in porn are all hand picked every mans' and woman's' idea of what a sex symbol should be. It sounds like he has watched so much of it that he is consumed by it. I think you should talk to a professional and address your concerns to him.
2006-10-05 09:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by skawp 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What this means is that while he no longer desires you sexually he still loves you.
So.. he is doing the next best thing he can. taking matters into his own hands and taking care of business so he will not go out and sleep with some other person.
What can you do about it?
sit down and talk with him and find out what he really likes sexually - watch some of the porn with him to find out what he likes now. Then.. tell him you will try what he wants... it may work.. or it may be that things have gone on so long that the desire for you just isn't there... in that case just leave him to his porn.
sorry...
2006-10-05 09:11:08 · answer #4 · answered by .... 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is true that all guys jerk off (deny it all you want to, men. we know the truth) but it just doesn't make any sense that he doesn't want to have sex with you. It is also true that he is probably looking at women but ,of course, all men do that too. So it may be that he is just bored (not necessarily with you). You definitely need to talk to him about why he is jerking off and not having sex with you. The only answer I have for that is that he may not be as interested in you as he once was and this is not your fault it happens everyday all over the world.
2006-10-05 09:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is a guy thing, but never touching your wife or being affectionate with her in any way is a loser thing. Why even stay married.
2006-10-05 09:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats not just a guy thing maybe your guys thing,me personaly I wouldn't have a guy that didn't want to touch and love me . I always thought a guy thing was hunting, fishing , watching the ball game or the race that my husbands thing.
2006-10-05 09:21:01 · answer #7 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him about the lack of sex between the 2 of you... then see if it increases.... men jack off often that really is not a big deal... however if you are not being satisfied then I would talk to him.
2006-10-05 09:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want you. He wants no one else to have you even if he can't or won't make any attempt to satisfy you. He may not know himself. You might suggest that he put away the porn and start letting you do the satisfying. But do it mainly in ways that satisfy you too!
2006-10-05 09:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If it was something you just caught him doing i would say no big deal, it really is not. however you went on to say that he does not take care of you, that is a problem. if you want him ask to joing in, "give him a hand". Do you ever try to get it started yourself?
2006-10-08 05:05:49 · answer #10 · answered by b72440 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋