He says he is my soulmate and I his, That his previous relationship made him weak, not the man he is or should be, and he was pressured into a marriage proposal whereas with me, he just feels it is right. He has a great family and in all other areas is trustworthy. Should I believe in fate and give him my heart or should I run for the hills?
2006-10-05 09:03:09 · 28 answers · asked by BlondeBarbie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, he did not cheat physically with me. Infact, when we met we were merely friends discussing life and love. I in no way am a home wrecker here. He says what I said made him realize that he was making a very bad decision and he ended it completely with her before we began a physical relationship. He never even mentioned it to me until after he ended things with her, which I felt was brave on his part being he didnt know if I would even want to be his friend after the fact. he took a chance. He bought me a beautiful diamond ring and is very much the one planning the wedding and is very excited about it, not a typical male trait.
2006-10-05 09:27:19 · update #1
Relax. He may be the right man for you.
2006-10-05 09:04:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This happens more than you think. My cousin was a month away from being married, when he realized that he liked and felt more comfortable with a woman he worked with. He broke off the engagement, and began dating the other woman. They have been married over 20 yrs now.
If the 2 of you were cheating while he was engaged to someone else, that changes things. Once a cheat, usually always a cheat. I'd have a hard time trusting him myself. if he has never done anything to make you suspicious, it just may be kismet.
2006-10-05 09:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be wary of a guy who jumps ship like that. He should've had enough strength on his own to leave the first woman if things were that bad. I dont like a guy who blames it all on the other person, for example it's her fault he was "pressured into a proposal"
I wouldn't run for the hills, but I'd take things SLOW. When the novelty wears off from this relationship his eyes might start wandering again.
2006-10-05 09:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by Funchy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not believe in fate, but believe in yourself. Remember - one can never fully know what goes on it another person's head. Many times we just have to "trust" ourselves and others when making the most important decisions of our lives. Do you trust yourself? Does this choice "feel" right to you? I think, your concerns are valid; I wouldn't necessarily be questioning the fact that he left his former fiancé - relationships work in mysterious ways, and love is sometimes an overpowering force, which is not necessarily bad. But the fact that he remained in what he deemed a dysfunctional relationship for 4 years, and only broke it off when you came along, would certainly make me think twice.
2006-10-05 09:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is a lot of question that you need to answer. Why are in engaged if you are having these thoughts? You should had resolved these problem before the engagement. Secondly, Are you actually and truly happy with this guy? What is the real reason that he left his ex-finacee for you? Thats not common maybe in the movies. you need to have a serious sit down and question this guy; something smells funny.
*** try to get in contact with his ex financee she might have some good information for you about him.
2006-10-05 09:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by rich 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember...if he cheats with you ( since he was already engaged) HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU! I learned that the hard way. same story...different page. Mine said all the things I had longed to hear(soulmates, waiting whole life for you..mr prince charming) Trust is something thats builds the foundation of marriage and cheaters are hard to trust. so your foundation just might be made of sand...
2006-10-05 09:26:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a person are you? You already broke up his engagment with someone else, and now you are worried about whether or not some girl like you will come along and catch his eye and he'll leave you for her?
Why are you asking this question now? If you were so concerned, you would not have agreed to marry him knowing some other girl was in that position before and is not now, thanks to you.
2006-10-05 09:07:24 · answer #7 · answered by jeshzisd 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I met my now husband the same way friends first. Good Luck. The second time was the charm. Be happy and don't get hung up on the past
2006-10-05 09:47:00 · answer #8 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who openly uses the word soulmate scares me. He must be emotionally stunted or something.
Yes, you are the answer to all of his problems. I'm sure he never thought that about the other girl. (sarcasm) Then when this fling runs its course, his next girlfriend will be his "soulmate."
2006-10-05 09:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by Earth Queen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you asking this question? did he cheat on his ex to be with you? does he give you reason to believe that he would cheat on you? If not, go for it. once a cheater, always a cheater, isn't always true. and relationships do end, but it is shady when they overlap. Good luck and follow your heart.
2006-10-05 09:10:29 · answer #10 · answered by black mamba 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did that to his former fiance then why do you think he wouldn't do that to you. Ofcourse he will say he likes you but if he gets a better proposal then he will leave and what if he does that after marriage, you will be in disaster
2006-10-05 09:07:47 · answer #11 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋