Im 23yrs old Im married and have 2 kids. I just found out that my husband cheated on me. what makes me so mad is that I told him that I needed money to buy the kids food he told me that he didnt have money. I got his passcode for his phone and I checked it today it said hi thank you for taking me to dinner last night I had fun! I just started to cry because his kids need food and he's buying dinner for a girl that knows he's married and has children! I kicked him out but now Im so depressed I need someone to lift me up! I prayed to god to give me the strength and to be strong for my children but I cant stop thinking about it!
2006-10-05 08:55:39 · 42 answers · asked by PRI 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am very sorry, I can't imagine what you are going through. There are no answers for tough questions like this, but I will be praying for you as well and I know how powerful God is. I truly hope that you know God as your personal Savior. God sent his one and only Son to die on the cross for our sins. All we have to do is believe that God did this and ask him to come into our lives and heart and he will be with you forever. If you truly and genuinly do this you will become a Christian and it is just the begining of many great adventures. Through God you will eventually be able to forgive your husband (not necessarilly be his wife again), but forgive him. God will be with you through every step of the way and times will be tough, but He will always be by your side. I really hope that this helps you. And remember, I will continue to pray for you each day in my daily devotions. I do not know your name, but God does and he will know who I am praying for. God Bless you!
2006-10-05 09:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen, God hears your cry's and See's your pain. This will not just go away over night. Get your cry out and suite up for the war of life. Sweetheart things like this take a tremendous amount of healing time. I have been through it and many others have been through it as well. Find a local Red Cross or Shelter and they can provide some kind of food for you and your kids. Now, about your husband if he is more interested in spending money that is supposed to feed his children on other women that enough right there should tell you just where his priority's lay. Do not let this man into your life again. Now you see how dependable he is not just for you but for his own children. If you need to talk my door is always open..
God Bless,
Take care
2006-10-05 09:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. He'll try to come back - don't let him. If you think your marriage still has a chance, ask him to not see this girl again and go to counseling with you. If he really wants you back, he'll do it.
You won't stop thinking about it for a long time; don't get caught up in all the crazy details. Keep praying to God and focus on being a good mom (first tip - don't mention any of this in front of your kids). Take it one day at a time.
You will need 2 good friends - one male and one female. Use the guy to make your hubby jealous if you want. :) Send the kids to a sitter and go out with your girlfriend - it will boost your confidence. Just don't jump into any new relationship too quickly...some guys know when you're vulnerable.
2006-10-05 09:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get food for the children. Second of all good for you for kicking him out do not let him back in. Just keep praying and look to your children and know that no matter what men come and go children are there always. You love them and they love you it is hard time will heal and try to talk to family or a friend because it sounds like you could use a shoulder to cry on.
2006-10-05 09:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by just divorced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you did the absolute right thing. What a loser! Its very hard not to dwell and wonder what u did wrong. But trust me...he didnt need reasons...he was just wrong no matter what his excuse is. He has a responsibility and he neglected it. He should be ashamed of himself. One day your children will grow up knowing the difference and he will have to answer for what hes done. For now....you be a strong , awesome mom like you already are for taking the step that you have. Please do not give in to him without him agreeing to counseling of some sort. He owes you and the kids that much. You will be fine. Go get all the help the state can offer you......LET THEM CHASE HIS *** FOR REPAYMENT OF BENEFITS. See how well his dinner date likes him then!!!!!
2006-10-05 09:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by jslorri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, Sweetie. Gosh I am so sorry you're going through this. What an absolute bastard. Geez. I don't really know what you should do. If you're close with your family then go stay with them and bring the kids. Let them help you so that you can have time to grieve. As for him, I'm sorry but just get out. File the papers and move on as best as you can. You're still young which is good and you've got a lot of time to still bounce back and maybe meet a man who wouldn't do this to you. Call anyone and everyone you know that you can talk to and vent to and who can watch your babies if you need to go cry or be alone.
I am so sorry. I hate hearing stories like this. It just breaks my heart.
2006-10-05 09:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hold those precious babies tight. They are really going to need there Mommy now! Do things to keep ur mind off of everything. Take those kids to the park or something. I would get in touch with a good friend or a family member to rely on and help you get some cash to get the items ur kids need. Just take things day by day! Sorry this happened to you...nobody ever deserve this! I will pray for you!
2006-10-05 09:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's an idiot. Hire an attorney, get a divorce, then ding your husband for child support. He won't have a choice in paying for his children then. We'll see how many women he can take out on the town when he's losing half his paycheck every week!
Keep your chin up and don't fold. It sounds like you need to go get food stamps to feed the kids until this all works itself out. Don't be ashamed and know that there have been a thousand women in your shoes before you. Stay strong.
2006-10-05 09:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by noir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find someone that you can talk to a minister priest or couselor then get a lawyer get everything you deserve.But dont take him back anyone that can go to dinner with another woman and leave you home alone with your kids and no food should not have kids nevrmind a wife. I am telling you now if you stay it will only get worse get out so you can take care of your kids properly p.s I hope it works out for you and you kids. I was with a selfish partner and even know i am alone i am happier for my 2 kids
2006-10-05 18:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing to do is to forget and you probably never will. It's just something that we as women do to protect ourselves from men like that. Move on with your life, live for your kids. Go out there and find your local family support services and see if they can assist you with some financial assistance, housing and food stamps. Advise them that your husband has left and that you are doing without. They should be able to direct you to a shelter that will feed you and the children and send you to do the proper paper work to enroll you into the system for assistance. Get yourself on your feet and stop feeling in the dumps, as a mother we do not have the luxury to stay in a "low" state of mind. Your kids are depending on you to make everything okay, since dad is too busy enjoying life and forgetting his responsibilities its up to you now to make everything fall into place for them. Pick yourself up, move on to the angry stage and use it to your advantage to succeed in life and to move on. The best of luck to you and your family, you are young enough and strong enough to make it through. Stay strong and always remember that you and your children deserve better and deserve respect. Never settle for anything less. take care, and god bless you and the family.
2006-10-05 09:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋