2006-10-05 08:55:29 · 6 answers · asked by Pepito P 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
No idea. But the guy I am dating, I met on the subway. He was just my type physically, and now that we are dating he is my type mentally as well. I guess I just saw him and something clicked inside of me. It was kind of weird.
2006-10-05 08:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Venus M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it exists, and "chemistry" is a great word to use, because what's going on is all about our DNA and our human animal instinctual need for procreation, the survival of the species. What is occurring is we are being drawn to that other person because of the hard wiring in our brains that has evolved over the past several million years, to ensure that human kind keeps on going. The "love at first sight" attraction we feel, that sometimes lasts for months and months, is an instinctual reaction to someone our brain perceives as a strong potential mate for us. It's actually amazing how our DNA can take over. This feeling of infatuation is actually a trick our bodies play on us. Have you ever been so infatuated with someone that, later when the relationship ended, you looked back, got angry with yourself and said something like, "how could I have been so blind". Well the answer is your DNA blinded you. Just like we all instinctually are driven to breathe, eat, and sleep, we are instinctually driven to mate. We have zero control over whether we feel the need to do any of these basic things. Being "in love" can cause a person to do some stupid/crazy things. Just like the stupid things you'd do if all of a sudden you couldn't sleep, eat or breathe. Sometimes people are lucky enough that the "in love" phase lasts long enough for them to learn enough about the other person to develop a love with will last after the DNA trick has ended.
2006-10-05 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The attraction is known in Hindi as Sanskara, or memory of the past. The "chemistry" as you put it, is an emotional attachment that is do to unfinished business from the past. The attachment may be equal, or greater within one or the other.
Many people unable to differentiate emotional attraction from sexual stimulation pursue such an attraction as though it needs to be sexually engaged. This is not at all necessary to satisfy the Karma, unless it is...which is rare. Most often simply acknowledging the attraction is adequate to satisfy the Karmic requirement.
Peace
2006-10-05 16:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes I believe that it does. I have gone out with many guys in my day and never learned to be attracted to someone over time it was always as soon as I saw someone that I was attracted to them. My boyfriend and I met almost 2 years ago and we have spent every single day together since the 1st day we met. There was chemistry from the beginning!
2006-10-05 15:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by Bchlvr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The actual, physical chemistry that is involved is that of pheromones. Everybody sends out his or her own pheromones that contain info about his or her DNA, and at the same time we are on the "lookout" for DNA that matches ours (to make healthy babies, of course). If you meet somebody who's DNA matches yours perfectly, i.e. somebody with whom wou would have very strong and healthy babies, you feel immediately attracted without being cousciously aware of how the hell it happened!
2006-10-05 16:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by lindavankerkhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard our perception of beauty is all based on proportion (Golden Ratio - Fibonacci Sequence). Other than that, I'd say attraction is based on characteristics we associate with people we know or have met. We subconsciously associate images, proportions, colors, etc. with experiences we have had.
2006-10-05 16:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋