My name is Jessy and all I want is a child my parents (im 16) said it was my decision if we should adopt.?

Answer 1

First off, you cant adopt, your parents can.. but not you. Second, are you sure you want a baby yet... they arent easy... they take:

1.) Responsibility. All of life's prior responsibilities pale in comparison. If you decide to have a child, that new person must absolutely be your top priority.

2.) Diapers. Disposable diapers these days absorb lots of liquid, and they don't leak. But you still have to change hundreds of them. Often they contain more than liquid. As the child gets older, diapers become smellier and bigger tasks. Then there is toilet training, with its inevitable setbacks and accidents.

3.) 3am wakeups. Caring for a child takes a lot of physical and emotional energy, made all the harder by babies that only sleep for ninety minutes at a time. Many parents of much older children seem to forget how hard the first few months were as they look at the past with rose colored glasses. Don't believe them. Parents need sleep to work well, and they often can't get it.

4.) Free time. You will have none. Most time not spent with your child will be spent catching up on work you need to get done.

5.) Worry. Parents always worry about their children, monitoring how fast they reach each milestone and how well they grow, eat, sleep, crawl, walk, read, make friends, and so on. And yet there is little a parent can do beyond allow a child to proceed at his or her own pace. It can be frustrating and scary when your child isn't eating well, or cannot read at his or her grade level, or is socially inept.

6.) Money. Children are expensive in several ways. One parent loses wages while caring for a child. Children need to eat and be clothed. They need toys with which to explore the world. They need health care, they need education, they need activities and hobbies. They will need car insurance. The proper raising of a child is not cheap.

7.) Laundry. Children do not contribute to household chores until they are older, and even then they generate more work than labor. Having a child means that your living space will need more cleaning than before, not only as your child makes a mess of it but also because you cannot let your child crawl around in dust and dirt. Your child will find all sorts of vile things to put in his or her mouth in the cleanest of homes. Your laundry and dishes will double, and you will do all the picking up after your child for many years.

8.) Tantrums. Many times you will tell your child that they cannot have what they want, and they will scream to get you to change your mind. You will need to avoid saying "no" as much as possible, but then stick to your decision when you do. Otherwise you will encourage tantrums. However, younger children cry because that is the only way they have to express themselves, and you need to be attentive. It becomes difficult judging when a child is having a serious problem and when he or she is having a tantrum. Tantrums are not just for two-year-old children, they will continue for years in many different forms as your child will attempt to change your mind. At some point children figure out how to get what they want despite you, and that opens another can of worms.

9.) Rebellion. Children need to assert their independence and individuality. All will feel stifled in some way by their parents or other authority figures, and they will attempt to subvert the dominant hegemony. Didn't you? It usually isn't pretty.

10.) Dissonance. Lots of adults do not get along with their parents. Perhaps they forget all the work that their parents put into raising them, or perhaps they resent that the work that their parents did was not enough. At some point your child will probably be very angry with you, and may even hate you for years. This is not uncommon, and you know it because you can name a dozen people who don't get along with their own parents.

11.) Pain. Your child will cry and you won't know why or how to fix it. You will mess up and let your child get hurt. You won't be there and your child will get hurt. Your child will get really sick. Your child will fail at something and feel humiliated and worthless. Guaranteed. The world is a hard place on everyone, especially small, naive, fragile people.

12.) Failed expectations. You may expect your child to be interested in things that fascinate you, and then be disappointed. You may be brilliant and your child may be dull. You may be athletic, unhappy to discover that your child has trouble walking a straight line. Your child may abandon your religion or main beliefs. Your child may grow up to be someone you have very little in common with. In fact, your child will definitely not be a little version of you. Any thoughts about what kind of person you want your child to be are wasted thoughts, and probably detrimental.

13.) Lost freedom. People without children can easily pack up and move. They can be without work or change careers. They can break up with their partners and find new ones. Children, while often flexible, must be accounted for in all major life changes. In fact, they demand that the world not change around them so fast while their own understanding of the world grows and changes at the same time. Stability and routine allows a child to explore life from a vantage of safety and consistency. You must be willing to give your child such stability at the cost of your own freedom.

14.) Hard work. Raising a child takes more than love and time. You must concentrate on all methods of communication that your child attempts so that you may properly understand his or her needs and wants. You must introduce your child to new stimulation and situations regularly. You have to figure out best ways to teach your child at each age, what to teach them, and when to teach. You must be available and responsive to your child even when you are tired or sad or very busy.

15.) The unthinkable. The death of a child, while unlikely, is devastating. It often destroys marriages, as both spouses need comfort that the other cannot provide. Frequently one parent will blame the other. So much emotion, time, and energy gets poured into a child that to lose it all at once is crippling. Many well meaning people say hurtful and stupid things in a misguided attempt to help. This is one case where it is better to not have loved at all than to have loved and lost.

Answer 2

"We Should Adopt"-does that mean your parents are too old to have another child so you want a baby bro or sis? or do you want to have a baby?!?! B/c that sounds INSANE! You should go buy one of those life like babies at Toys 'R Us and see what it's like. You have no idea what life is like with a baby at 16. You're still in school! Do you have an extra $400 a month to put this baby in child care while your at school?? You would never afford it and if your parents are going to let u have or adopt a baby i think they should be commited for lack of responsability.

Answer 3

Im 23 I have a 2 year old and Im pregnant with my second. Sometimes I am so happy that I had my daughter at a young age, but then there are times that I wish I had just waited a bit more so when My friends get to go out and party things like that, but still Im over 20 and I have experienced alot of young teen things that Im satisfied I got to do : dont cut those things out of your life with a baby wait till your atleast in your 20s. Trust me and other when we say your too young and you might not totally regret it but there will be times when you will wish you had just waited a few more years. Good luck on life!
God bless

Answer 4

You have some really f*cked up parents. They think its ok for you as a 16 year old KID to have a baby. Whether you adopt or not, you are too young and immature to have a kid. I mean, come on, you have to ASK your parents?!!?!??! And, I dont think the courts will even give you a child at your age.

Answer 5

Why would your parents leave that decision up to you? Who is going to raise this child. Ultimately I believe it would be your parents. At 16, trust me, you have no idea what you want. If you want a child, get a babysitting job!

Answer 6

I'm 21 and just had my first child. Lemme tell you nothing and i mean NOTHING can prepare you for mother hood. I've spent most my life working in daycares and with younger siblings and I still find things that my son does i've never had to deal with. Anyone who tells you to babysit has the right idea. Just remember when you babysit you can always give the baby back to it's parents. When it's your's it's all up to you. Think about it and live alittle first.

Answer 7

Your 16 and you want a child??? Your still a child. You need to enjoy being young and having no responsibilities before you dream of having children.

Answer 8

you have plenty of time to have a child. enjoy being one while you still can. when you are a parent, you forfeit your ability to do what you want, when you want. and whether or not you want to admit it, you are still at an age that you are very self centered. if you have the choice to have a child now, DON"T DO IT! enjoy your teen years, and a few of your 20s and then become a mommy. it is hard work. one day when you are really ready, you will know.

Answer 9

Your parents are leaving it up to you on whether you should have a child or not?

Fer cryin' out loud. Where are the responsible adults in your family?

Answer 10

you cant adopt at 16. wait ten years.