I got a gf tats much...much older than me n we been 5yrs. Everything goes smooth but as time goes by...i just find tat i cant be wth her cos she deserve much...much better man that can ensure her future n happiness. On duration of our relation, i gt to noe a gerl that likely same age as mine, a gerl tat so...angel n care much about me just like my gf did. I felt towards her n started in love wth her... we even planning to get married, she din even noes that am wth sumone tat much olader than me. But my gf... honestly she deserve other man coz partly our age much different n she's too gentle...her love,cares,kindness that sometimes i wish i cld turn bck time fr me not b wth her. I just pity her but i guess we're nt main to be together... only god noes my feeling now.
2006-10-05 08:34:13 · 12 answers · asked by Zac 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No offense, you seems like a nice guy (you feeling that you aren't good enough for your girlfriend), but everything that you wrote in that question simply shouts out that you're justifying yourself.
And it's sad. Because if you truly love your girlfriend, you should keep trying to be deserving for her, because despite her being older than you, she doesn't mind you at all! For a female to fall and get attached to a younger guy is quite a big feat for her. :/ And here you are regreting it. :( And you shouldn't pity her, because the last thing she want from you is sympathy, my friend. Because you're the one confused, thus leading to your betrayal towards her.
BUT, if you truly love her, the age thing should never obstruct the both of you.
And you even planned to marry another girl? :/ I wish you know how lucky you are and you don't exactly deserve it as much as you care for their feelings and all.
I felt sorry for you, because i think you're a nice guy & didn't mean to hurt anyone. But not when it comes to relationships. You're just justifying yourself to make yourself feel better. :/
It's a good thing you feel confused, because you really need some reflection... Are you sure you will love that girl forever? Or does the girl stands out from your girlfriend due to the AGE factor? If you've betrayed your girlfriend, how sure are you that you'll always stay in love with the girl that you love now?
Good luck and i really hope you could wake up and find the solution... Because the problem lies with you and no one but you, can fix it. God bless.
2006-10-06 07:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by ravynmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you text messaging? Because if not, add some letters to make it at least appear that you have some brains.
As for the question, I have no idea what you are even asking.
5 years isn't t(h)at different really, unless you are 5 and she is 10.
If you're (not ur) happy with eachother and plan on getting married, then it shouldn't be a real issue.
If she teaches English, I say marry her quick to learn something.
2006-10-05 08:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by artisticallyderanged 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already been with her for 5yrs and now you are choosing someone younger over her. You can't really say that she deserves someone better than you.
Are you sure you are not giving yourself excuses as not to feel bad to leave her for the younger girl?
No one is able to tell you who you should be together with. You entered into another relationship while you are still in one. Naturally one of the girls involved will get hurt in the end. Instead of saying that the girl deserves someone better, you should take measures to minimise such disappointment from the girl who will be to leave you. Please think and be fair to your partner.
Good Luck.
2006-10-05 20:59:58 · answer #3 · answered by axix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it doesn't sound complicated to me, confusing yes - but that's just due to the way you typed this out. It sounds like you met another girl that you feel strongly for and you want to end your current relationship with your current girlfriend. My opinion? I think you should break up with your girlfriend asap - be honest with her though. She's bound to know you're seeing someone else and I'm sure she'd rather hear it from you than someone else. Just don't stay with her out of pity.
2006-10-05 08:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Camrnhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are basically using the age difference as an excuse for you being unfaithful. Stop using the fact that she is 'too good' for you and thats why you found someone else. Have a spine and admit you are a jackass.
2006-10-05 08:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number, but if you deep down inside, don't love her anymore... than you need to be a man and be honest with her... no need to play games, it seems like your girlfriend now, is not into playing games anymore... just be honest... that's the best thing to do... no need to hide behind the bush
2006-10-05 08:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by precious1982 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right. Your girlfriend does deserve a better man. You need to tell her that you are cheating on her and let her go and get on with her life & find someone who will love & respect her.
2006-10-05 08:38:22 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you're able to give up stressful approximately it. cost your self a sprint greater and basically enable her come to a decision. if she somewhat cared for you she wouldnt be perplexed to start with. theres alot greater fish in the sea and you dont could placed your self down like that. i will see which you particularly care yet like i suggested cost your self and comprehend that no rely who she chooses theres greater accessible!!
2016-10-18 21:16:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what language "r u" typing in? Is this like cell phone text shorthand or something? It is too difficult to read!
2006-10-05 08:37:47 · answer #9 · answered by Leroy 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should finish elementary before you settle down with a gf ok?
2006-10-05 08:38:49 · answer #10 · answered by T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋