any ideas to help me and my partner have a baby we have been trying for 5 years?

Question

we are relly trying without no susses

Answer 1

The only way for you to know if you are ovulating is to take your basal body temp each morn, same time and before you get up. You should see a pattern in temps that leads up to and after ovulation. You can get the basal thermometer at Wal-Mart for about 8 dollars. I use a wonderful FREE website called Fertilityfriend.com...it graphs your temps for you, keeps track of your fertility signs, tells you when you ovulate and also tells you if there is an implantation dip in your temps. You can also use Ovulation prediction kits, but they only measure your LH surge and give you a ball park time for ovulation...they do not pin point it. Oh, and it is possible to be ovulating while you do not have your period, just like it is possible to have a period and not ovulate.

Answer 2

Hi sometimes you put too much pressure on yourselves to actually get pregnant that the stress hinders you, it may be time to stop trying and go away and have a relaxing holiday and say that youll have a 6 month rest from trying and still dont use any contraception but take that 6 months to enjoy yourselves and get into a more relaxed stress free place, i.e. get tipsy and have fun a few times, enjoy each others company once more and do something you both want to do before children get in the way, and then if after the 6 months you try again for 6 months and still no sucess then go to gp and have tests etc,

also diet can play a part maybe try a gi diet, get checked out for polycystic disease, diabetes etc hope this helps and doesnt sound to contradictory or offensive, but sometimes peple do try to hard and when they take the pressure off and when they are least expecting it the unexpected happens i wish you every success and hopefully be the first to congratulate you

Answer 3

After 5 years you really need to seek some medical advice as it seems highly likely that there are some fertility problems here. DONT leave it any longer... 2 years of trying is long enough to get professional advice.

My sister found out 5 years ago that both she and her husband had fertility problems and were given 123,000 to one shot of ever having a baby... Should have placed a bet cos she just gave birth to her second child.

If you have to go through IVF there are lots of things you can do to assist the process. She found specific diets helped and even had acupuncture which she now swears by.

You have to find out what the situation is first though. Once you know what is going on post another question and I am sure you will get loads of helpful advice.

Good luck and all the best!
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Answer 4

This is my standard answer......... go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler
This book will help you with all of your menstrual and conception questions. It’s for all women - not just women trying to conceive. It covers everything from temperature to mucus checking, etc.. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! It tells you how to figure out your cycle and what to expect. My husband and I tried for a year to conceive and nothing happened. The first month I used the book we conceived right away. Now I am due Feb 2. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!

Answer 5

I read the replies .One person mentioned ivf.FIrst of all if your trying for more than a year it is suggested you see a specialist ! Before they consider ivf .They determine what is the factor of the problem . Is it the male ? or female ? pcos ?? are the tubes blocked . After determining this their is many other source of treatments that one is place on before the expensive step of IVF . Fertility meds etc ...I would suggest you check out many of the forums available .
Infertility defined, is the inability to conceive after 1 year of unprotected intercourse, or, the inability to sustain a pregnancy. It affects as many as 1 in 5 couples at some point in their lives. Whether your journey to parenthood is long or short, the emotional impact of infertility can be devastating.

From finding the perfect doctor, to your diagnosis, onto treatment and options, insurance issues, is all very overwhelming. Having a good support system is critical to your reaching your goal. Knowing that you're not alone and talking to others who are going through the same thing you are is half the battle.

Answer 6

sometimes women are allergic 2 a man's sperm.. maybe one thing your doctor can check 4 you.. also having the women take her temperature each morning before she gets out of bed.. if you two see a slight change in temp. reading, chances are that is the fertile day.. and thats the day you do the wild thang : ) after sex, the women should not get up 2 go 2 the bathroom.. should also put a pillow under her butt 4 about 30 mins or so.. so the sperm will have a chance 2 swim and meet up with the egg.. the man should have a sperm count done 2 see if he can father a child.. we all wish you luck : )

Answer 7

I know this will be really impossible but I have known several people who ended up having babies with assisted pregnancies and IVF only to fall pregnant naturally afterwards. It seems the more you try the less success and the less you try and just have sex because you want to with no thought of anything else, the higher your chances are.

That said it is time to get you both checked (his sperm count, your ovulation etc) so you know exactly where you stand. Good luck to you both.

Answer 8

If you have been trying for that long and have not had any luck I would seek fertility treatments or look at other options. A doctor can run tests and hopefully find a reason why you are not getting pregnant.

Answer 9

Hi, you def need to speak to your doctor about this, sounds like there couldbe an issue with fertility.

Also, did you know that as soon as you start 'trying' for a baby, your body stresses out and it reduces your chances of conception? If you were to just have sex and leave it as that, a fun act, then thatd probably help. Good luck

Answer 10

#1 - stop trying so hard. There's such a thing as trying TOO hard. #2 - you can talk to your doctor about Chlomid. I took it for 3 cycles and have a beautiful baby boy. Try that before going too invasive, should you decide to. GOOD LUCK
Alcohol seems to work too!!! =)