any advice?

Question

im having my first child im 19 years old and im scared does anyone have some advice for me...im 3 months right now..

Answer 1

I was young when I had my first baby. I read every book I could get my hands on. What scares you the most?? Becoming a mom or the labor and delivery??

Answer 2

Well, I remember... No, I wont bore you with that. My first advice is to find a midwife. You may also want to have a doctor, but a midwife is so much more in tune with what it's like to actually be pregnant. If you can't find one, find a group of women who have had children for a support group. Not just on the Internet!!! You need physical support. There are so many women's groups now, that it shouldn't be too hard, even in a small town.

Make sure you learn all you can about nutrition from midwives or nutritionists. Don't let doctors fool you, they know nothing about nutrition, and I'm living proof. In general stay away from refined junk food or anything processed. Keep it natural, fruits and veggies. Small, but potent animal protein like eggs. Supplements are a must, no name brand multi-vitamins, get good natural ones from a health food store. Read labels! This will be important when you baby arrives as well since many large producers add all sorts of nasties into their products -like anti-freeze (polypropylene glycol) in baby wipes (it still makes me cringe!!!).

I had my first at 19 and I did it all the wrong way. Went to the doctor, got a huge bill every other week and bought the outrageously expensive prescription vitamins. Still ended up with mild toxemia. Learned my lesson and went with midwives, never had a trace of elevated blood pressure, let alone water build up.

Don't try to go it alone. Don't be afraid to be afraid and don't stop asking questions. It's not easy, it's not painless, but it is the most joyous experience when done with the help of wise women :-)

Answer 3

First and formost Congrats. Secondly, i know what ur going through im a 20 year old with a 7 month old. You should try to get most of your friends to understand where your coming from. They and your b.f/husband will be the greatest support. As soon as the baby comes you won't have much time for your friends. It will be really tough. But god wouldn't have put us on this earth if we couldn't make do it. Just trust your own instincts. Your mom and aunts will try to help with how your going to feel but thats something that might not help. Try to do what you have to. take it easy. and stay calm.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

CALM DOWN AND LET IT COME NATURALLY
RELAX BECAUSE STRESS IS NEVER GOOD NOR HEALTHY IF THE FATHER'S NOT THERE
THERE IS AN EVEN GREATER FATHER ION HEAVEN THAT WILL NEVER LEAVE U
NOR WILL HE HAVE U STRUGGLE WITHOUT A BLESSING IN STORE AND NO MATTER HOW HARD A ROAD GETS U CAN T GIVE UP BECAUSE IF U DO YOU'LL NEVER GET TO THE REWARD.
GOD IS THERE IN THE MIST OF ALL YOUR FEARS BUT ANOTHER FEAR IS NOT OF HIM ITS OF THE DEVIL AND HE WANTS U TO SET IN BE MISERABLE SCARED HURT YOURSELF OR EVEN HAVE A MISSHAP BUT GOD IS STANDING THERE AROUND WITH A DIFFERENT PLAN FOR U AND THAT BABY
SO LETS RELAX BREATH AND AWAIT THE BIRTH OF THIS BUEATIFUL CHILD THAT WILL ASK NOTHING FROM U BUT LOVE AND EVERYTHING AFTER THAT COMES NATURAL

AND NO MATTER HOW SCARED U ARE THAT BABY IS GOING TO BRING SO MUCH JOY INTO YOUR LIFE U WILL NOT REMMEMER ALL THIS WORRY AND FEAR U HAVE ITS REALLY JUST THAT BUEATIFUL BUT
YOU'LL BE FINE JUST UNDERSTAND THAT IT WILL BE ALOT DIFFERENT AFTER BABY IS HERE BECAUSE IT WONT BE JUST U TO FEED ANYMORE
NOR GETTING UP GOING WHEN AND WHERE U WANNA
BECAUSE U HAVE TO USE BOTH SIDE OS YOUR BRAIN THAT OF A NEWBORN KEEP IN MIND OUR FIRST CHILD IN THAT OF THE PARENT WHO WANTS NOTHING BUT THE BEST FOR HER CHILD
BUT THE ONLY WAY U CAN GET IT IS TO STAND ON JESUS AND ASK FOR GUIDENCE
SO UNTIL THEN; EAT RIGHT REST NO STRESS NO WORRY BECAUSE AT ANY POINT U CAN HAVE A MISSCARRIAGE SO BECAREFUL

NOTHING TO BE AFRAID OF BUT CHANGE COMES FOR THE BETTER ALWAYS.

GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS
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Answer 5

That would depend on what you are scared about.

Assuming you are scared of the actual "having something growing inside of you thing" (freaks the hell out of me, I'll tell you...if I want kids I'll adopt. I'm probably not helping, am I?)

Focus on the baby, getting your world ready for it. Decorate a room, or simply think about all the fun and stuff you will do together! That's all the advice I can think about. Also, (I lied, I have more) spend time with SUPPORTIVE friends. They will help you feel better and it is hard to be scared when you are with people you love and that love you!

Answer 6

I'm 18 and 81/2 months pregnant. I'm not scared because i know my situation could be worse. I have a loving husband and i just enrolled in an online college (to better our lives). I used to be scared but you just have to "let go and let god". You are bringing a BEAUTIFUL innocent child into the world and that is your job for the next 6 months. That baby is counting on you mommy. I know its tough but be strong and talk with a close friend (boyfriend) or family member. Just know that it could be worse and that women are put on this earth to birth babies. That's just what you are doing!! much love and congrats

+Jen+

Answer 7

CONGRATULATIONS!!! being scared is totally normal, but just think you will have a little Miracle in 6 months! A wonderful book to buy that will answer all of your questions and make you feel less scared is "What to expect when you are expecting". I loved this book! Also, just get as much rest and sleep as you can, eat healthy, take your prenatal vitamins and lightly exercise...you will be great!

Answer 8

Try to enjoy this time as much as you possible can. Your life is going to change dramatically. I'm not trying to scare you but you really need to think about how you are going to raise this child. Meanwhile have fun shopping and decorating for your new baby. Being a mother really is one of the biggest blessings you will ever have. Enjoy every minute of it.

Answer 9

Oh sweetie, there is so much to give!! I wish you the best of luck! I started a mommies group that may be of some help to you, we swap ideas and share information and advice if asked for, lol. We are mommies, and enjoy the toughest job in the world. We are here to share ideas and stories in a family like atmosphere. Some of us have a few kids, and some have many, and they range in all ages. Most of us have very young ones at home. We are here to offer support to eachother and hopefully along the way build strong friendships to strengthen ones abilities as a mother, and a woman, WELCOME! you can click here to join: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mommies_rus/

Answer 10

Dear Precious
Mention how you're feeling to your DR.
Get hooked up with a good health worker/community nurse/midwife
Also mother to be groups(in your local area) or on the Net.
Feeling scared is normal,follow your instincts, get some people on-side and whatever advice you get it's up to you to "do what works for you"
Best wishes
M