My fionce and me constantly fight and argue.I'm 7 months pregnant with his baby boy.He used to hit me alot and I thought he was getting better because we'd just argue and it wouldn't get physical but last night at church we got into a arguement and he pushed me and the side of my face hit the wall.I love him very much but I don't know what to do about this.I want to stay but everybody is telling me I need to go.What should I do??????????????????????????????????????????
2006-10-05 07:53:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Respect yourself enough to know that no one, NO ONE has the right to hit you. Plus given the fact you are preggers is even more reason not to even get you upset!!! You have enough stress. Be happy with who you are & dump this loser. It doesn't get any better. If he begs & tries to keep you, tell him you will date him (but not exclusively) for one year, and if he is a gentleman for that entire year without losing the temper, you will CONSIDER taking him back. But I sure wouldn't count on it. He will be the same. Move ahead without him & good luck, honey.
2006-10-05 07:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask? get the hell away from him NOW. i'm not kidding, first it is the pushing and shoving, then hitting and after that maybe death. I know it is hard , especially since your prenant, but the baby will suffer too if you stay. even newborns feel and sense violence in the home. and if your fiance will hit you, then he will hit the baby too. I know first hand. Please, if not for yourself, do it for your son. He needs his mommy to be around for him, not visiting your grave. The situation will not get any better, no matter what your man may say or do, it just won't.
There are plenty of men out there that would love to treat you like a princess and not degrade you or try to control you. Do the right thing and leave asap. if not yesterday. good luck and congratulations on your new precious bundle of joy.
2006-10-05 08:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hits you, YOU SHOULD GET AS FAR AWAY FROM HIM AS POSSIBLE! Abuse only gets worse!!! What if you would have fallen and went into early labor? Since ya'll argue often then I suppose that you two are not always happy with each other! I would get out. I'm not saying never talk to him again because you two are gonna have a baby soon, but if I were you I wouldn't be in a relationship based on fighting and arguing. It's not worth it!
2006-10-05 08:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kalyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to love your self and your unborn child more than you love your fionce. Eventually he will end up hurting you. I'm sure that after he hits you he tells you that he is sorry and that it will never happen again. I use to be in the same situation. I use to blame myself every time he hit me. But I had to love him enough to let him go. By him hitting you can cause harm to your baby. I know that you don't want that. Only you know what's best for you and your child.
2006-10-05 08:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by mocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he is going to put his hands on you while you are pregnant with his child, he is always going to put his hands on you. You have to stop and ask yourself if this is the kind of environment that you want your baby to grow up in. You have to also ask yourself, is he going to hit your baby, too? You are not in a safe situation. I know that you love this guy, but you have to think about yourself and your baby. I also know that it is hard to leave this kind of situation, but for your sake, you need to. I don't suppose that you want to be around when your son graduates from highschool or gets married, do you? If you do, give you and your unborn child a chance now and leave, leave, leave. There are women's shelters and hopefully family members that will help and protect you. YOU CAN LIVE WITHOUT HIM!!! Save yourself while you still can.
2006-10-05 08:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to say it once. You should with out a doubt go. A man like this does not change. You have a child to think about first and foremost Any person that abuses you is not someone you want in your life. It gets so bad, by the time he is done with you, you will not have any self worth left. Marriage is a bond of love, trust, support and something that should be treasured. Please think seriously about this, it won't change it will just get worse. Be with someone that really loves you and most of all loves himself. A person that abuses someone has no love for themselves, how could they possibly love you or your child.
2006-10-05 08:10:29 · answer #6 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider this:You are probably staying in part for this baby,but how will you feel when your son sees this example of his momma being hit/verbally abused?That will break your heart more than leaving.Rally your family and the church as your support system,formulate a plan and leave.You then have a much better chance on a stable interaction with him on your terms-safety,respect etc.I wish you all the best
2006-10-05 08:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by maykithapin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY, YOU NEED TO GO!
The man that loves you would never get physical. Especially while you're pregnant! You need to tell him you can't take the ABUSE anymore. Pregnant or not. Also, don't you want what is best for your child? If he is physical with you, who says he wouldn't hit your child? Plus as your son would get older, I don't think the best situation for him is to see daddy hit mommy all the time and think it's ok. MOVE ON DARLING!
2006-10-05 08:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by . . * h o n e y * . . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go and talk to someone in the church and find a place to go. Or kick him out and get a restraining order. Let him know that he needs to go to anger management classes before he ever gets to see you or the baby when it's born. It will only get worse when the baby is born and that's a terrible thing for a baby to have to live with.
2006-10-05 07:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should leave if you love that baby and you dont want him to do that baby that way when it grows upif he hits you he will it the baby when it gets bigger trust me i know i was in the same situation you have got to think about what sbest for your baby know plus you dont need to be with somebody that hits you if he really loved you he wouldnt hit you he would take care of you and if he hits you while your pregnant he could hurt the baby before its ever born you could even miscarry good luck and i hope it gets better
2006-10-05 08:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋