I am married ('happily' is up for debate) but I have had this attraction on a new friend of my wife and I. He is about 9 years younger and going through a divorce so we have been trying to help out. I guess I am bi for even getting these feelings but everytime we are together I get excited. Should I act on it or not?
2006-10-05 07:27:49 · 34 answers · asked by Joesmoe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Come on now man, don't be a chicken ****, If you don't like your current relationship then get out! Then it would be ok. For now though MOVE OUT AND LIVE A BI LIFE. Give your wife the opportunity to love someone whose worth her time.
2006-10-05 07:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not. First, you are married (regardless of happily or not) and second, he is going through a divorce--the worst time to hit on someone.
If you are bi and are thinking seriously of extramarital affairs--and you can't ground yourself in the responsibility and love for your wife, then own up to your wife and set her free. Its only fair to her.
2006-10-05 07:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, NO, you should not act on it !!!!
Your married and you made a promise to be faithful to your wife. Maybe your trying to give yourself an excuse to have an affair with this man by saying that your not happy in your marriage. If your not happy either get counseling & work on it or get a divorce. Having an affair is wrong, having an affair with a man would crush her.
2006-10-05 07:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Littles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have a talk with your wife about it. If you act on it without talking with her first you would be cheating. Some marriages are willing to be open and allow the other person to explore their feelings, though that can be scary with the thought of losing you and what you have together. Maybe you need to talk with a professional about this to really find who you are.
2006-10-05 07:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you want to keep your current marriage. What are the chances he returns the feelings or that things would work out ? Probably not likely. If you are unhappy in the marriage, get a divorce, THEN explore other relationships. Good Luck! :)
2006-10-05 07:30:17 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing stupid thing wont improve your marriage or make you happy. Work on marriage first or if you are gay get divorce. Remember you will be hurting your wife more the longer you hide your sexual orientation i think that she deserves better then that for 9 years with you.
2006-10-05 07:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no cheating is cheating even with the same sex. it doesn't matter whether your happily married or not. for better or worse right?? and if you have feelings for men you shouldn't be married to a woman. is this friend gay?? if he is not then you run the risk of being punched out AND losing your wife. is it worth it??
2006-10-05 07:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you decide that you really would like to go for it with this guy then you should tell him your feelings, don't scare him away or anything try to just ease the idea on to him. If the feeling is mutual then, before you do anything with him, you should talk to your wife about her feelings on the matter. If either one of them disagrees then you should hold back. Otherwise I'm all for it.
2006-10-05 07:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Emily B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're married, so no. If you ever have the urge it's probably time to rethink your relationship and end it. It's not a nice feeling to be cheated on, even if your relationship isn't the best. And when someone cheats it always comes out.... sooner or later.
2006-10-05 07:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by PrettyProblem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you're married. Regardless if it's an unhappy marriage, don't cheat. It's a selfish thing to do. Go to conselling with your wife and if that doesn't work, seperate for a while so you can "sow your wild oats"
2006-10-05 07:29:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jane D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋