she broke up with me 6 months ago and she started dating this guy right after . . im talking like a week after . . but anyways i tried to get her back the first 2 months then i went NC since the middle of june. . .she has called or texted or left me a voicemail like 10-15 times since then and i havent answered or contacted her back. . .she just recently got into an official relationship with this guys and i noticed she tried to get ahold of me the day they started going out . . . she calls about once every 1,2,3 weeks and she called me drunk last weekend 3 times , 2 texts and 1 voicemail in 1 night and she said she doesnt understand why we cant be friends. . .even though ive told her atleast 20 times that i cant. . . after we broke up she insisted we were going to get back together sometime . . . and she also is the type of person that cant stand to be alone and always has to have somebody. . . if she is completely happy and everything then why does she try to call me
2006-10-05 07:22:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Football (American)
also we were together 2 1/2 years . . . when she started dating him she even admitted it was just because he was there and that she cant stand to be alone . . i just dont understand why is she calling me all of the time like this just to be friends when she knows we cant because ive told her 100 times. . does she want something else? also what i really want to know is its been 4 months since ive talked to her and she keeps calling . . . .if she just wanted to be friends wouldnt she get the clue by now that i cant b/c the way things ended . .and we broke up for no reason at all . . she said she wanted to date around . . . . but she has been with the same person . . .i guess i just want to know what she wants . . i know what i have to do . . .but i really still love her . . . but i want to know what she wants because im not gonna contact her unless i know for sure what she wants so i dont get hurt again
2006-10-05 07:23:26 · update #1
What does your stupidity and this dumb **** have to do with football?
2006-10-05 07:36:46 · answer #1 · answered by stan l 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like she is simply covering her bases in case the current bf doesn't work out. If she got together with this guy cause 'he was there' my question (since it was so quick) would be how long has he been there? Has he been around even while you thought she was sharing her life with you? Yes, I mean was she cheating on you? If so...then that explains why she's calling you..she's an unabashed cheater. You will not be able to move on if you continue to take her 'drunken calls' so she can unload on you. My advice is block her number and let her figure out things on her own without the 'safety net' of you being close by. If the relationship is truly meant to be, then you will both find a way to make it so, but until you have the chance to see what else life has to offer...you are being used. Been there, done that..and survived for a better day.
2006-10-05 07:36:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She basically wants to feel wanted. Odds are if you were to begin dating someone else, she'd be on your doorstep begging to have you back, and then when you give in, she'll loose interest and hook up with another, and then keep doing this until you have her out of your life completely. It is a very selfish and hurtful thing of her to do to you. It's because of her own insecurity and need to feel desired that she keeps calling, it's not really about love. Honestly, I'd go and have a date with someone, even if it's just casual, not really to get involved, just fun. When she calls tell her you have a date, and see what she says!
I have never remained friends with any exes, and honestly even after getting over them when I find out they have a girlfriend or have moved on, there's just that little tinge of jealously in me. It lasts a moment, but it's still there! lol. It's that voice in almost every women's head that says, "NO, he should be miserable and pine away for ME for the rest of his life!!!!"
It would probably be best to tell her you can't remain friends. Not saying there's anything wrong with a letter or email every now and then to say hey I'm doing well, etc. etc. etc. But, calling on a regular basis, and talking about other relationships like it's no big deal is rather awkward.
2006-10-05 07:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by Needstoknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wrong section BUT am gonna reply any ways.
This girl sounds like a bit of a controlling person.....and to be honest you say you want her back.my question is WHY on earth do you ????? She broke up with you.......she just can not let you go period...basically what she is doing is making sure you are NOT able to move on, regardless of the fact that she has........in her mind she is thinking hmmmmmmmmm its been such and such a length of time, he might JUST be putting me to the back of his mind lets open THAT wound again.and again and again....
Its not about her being happy it is making sure YOU are unhappy or at the least suffering....she does not like the fact that she can not see your suffering [you've moved away] so hence why she is calling, IF you was still near by BET she would 'turn' up with new man in tow at your old haunts...........
Change your number and REALLY move on she truly is not worth it....................I know 2 1/2 years is a long time BUT she really has shown you her worth by how she just tossed everything away, she can't stand to be alone......does that include if you was in hospital, away for work, visiting a sick relative.................she is NOT worth your worry or thoughts, you sound like a nice guy that DESERVES so much better than what ever she has to offer.
Take care
2006-10-05 07:33:17 · answer #4 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her be .. dont answer or return the calls , she will get the Point. it may take a bit .. but it will get through her head. Now the drunk call .. lol we all have them .. "Drunk Dials" .. just chalk that up to being slam drunk !!!
2006-10-05 07:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be rude but when it ends the first time just dont go back. if it didnt work out it is best to forget about it and move along.
2006-10-05 07:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man
she has a bf
forget her 4 ever
the equasion is obvious
its a shame on u if u just let her enter ur life again
2006-10-05 07:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by Safe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pu$$y,call dr. phil then watch some football so you can have someting to ask on the football section for yahoo anwsers!
2006-10-05 07:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by The Purple Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would suggest that u move on with ur life. she has done it before and easily she can do it again if u get back together.
Good luck
2006-10-05 07:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by vick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i didnt read all the extra but is this about football
2006-10-05 07:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by jason M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds very insecure. you should go on with your life and leave her out of it.
2006-10-05 07:27:12 · answer #11 · answered by boo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋