I have a friend who caers a lot fo someone who is POsitive. No it's not Jack. Yet his he is afraid to date him for certain easons. If his mom or family found out what would they think? How would other people react towards it? If it didn't work out would others assume he was positive aslo? and last what if he caught it? Can you give him some advise. He'll be monitoring the question. Thanks babes.
2006-10-05 07:20:31 · 22 answers · asked by Karen Walker 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
WOW! That is TOUGH!!! I dont know if I can even fathom it... First of all, if i already had fallen deeply in love with this person, I guess nothing would matter, and I would just realize sex would always be something that would have to be taken in an altogether different way than normal and very carefully, planned way. If I did NOT already have feelings and they told me, I may feel very awkward about it, and I dont know if this is something I would want to take into my life, knowing that in the not-to-near future I will have a VERY ill person in my life that I may be loosing. That is a lot to ask, and a lot to think about. I kow that your friend will be feeling very alone and down right now, so no matter if there is someone intimate in his/her life right no9w or not, what matters is that a lot of people care about him/her and they take care and rally around him/her....
2006-10-05 07:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by cricketwinner@sbcglobal.net 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there and tried that. It takes a special person to put themselves in a relationship where they could become positive just from loving someone. There a re a lot of obsticles as your friend is finding out and very few clear cut answers. I suggest to him he take it a day at a time. It's about all anyone can do in matters of love.
2006-10-05 14:28:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicated situation. I can only answer for me PERSONALLY. I would not simply because I have 2 young children. I have no one else to raise them and would be scared out of my mind that something could go wrong and end up contracting HIV. I would never put my children as risk for an unhappy life above my own desires. I'm a parent first and they are my first priority. My heart truely goes out to those who have contracted HIV. Regardless of how, it's a terrible, terrible thing to have to live with. I feel for your friend and for the individual he cares for.
2006-10-05 16:57:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally would not date a person who is HIV positive because I do not want to risk it. If I was already with the person and I found out that the person had it and I also tested positive then I would stay with that person.
However, if I tested negative I would leave that person.. I know that it sounds bad but my health comes first... I love me too much to risks dieing...
2006-10-05 22:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, lay off the booze and learn about spell check....2nd when I was single, I went with the mind set that anyone I dated could be positive...thus I would not play unless we were safe...leading into my answer...yes I would date someone that was positive. It could be very hard, but I would do it....He is just dating...how will he know if it could be serious or not....?
2006-10-05 14:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a possibility in any new relationship that one or other is gay. You can't determine who to date based on that. However, setting up a home, and entering into a committed relationship with that person is a huge step to take. It needs careful thought and a lot of courage.
2006-10-05 14:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if my partner (I'm single ) found out after we were committed i would stick by them, but i wouldn't knowingly become involved. I've known many people who were positive and i have no problem with a friendship but i would never be physical with someone with HIV and since that's an important part of a relationship i just couldn't do it, or maybe I'm just making excuses and I'm shallow and afraid, it's a very complicated question, but honestly i couldn't (and i know i come off badly with this answer!) that's the truth.........................PS thank you for an intelligent, thought provoking query
2006-10-06 06:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would not bother me in the least. As long as they were a good person. In fact I was totally ga-ga over this one guy years ago who was poz...he was also a player and came very close to breaking my heart, but not quite. I lost contact with him. Every now and then I wonder about him and send good thoughts his way.
2006-10-05 14:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally wouldn't. I would certainly be friends though. I think it is a personal decision that everyone has the right to make on their own. I also feel that it would be rather selfish for a person who KNOWS they have this disease to try and have a sexual relationship with someone who doesn't.
2006-10-05 14:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Absolutely. There is no risk at anything unless things lead to unprotected sex. Dating is a normal activity that all people can do.
2006-10-05 15:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋