Do I marry a man how is being a jerk ?Or do i stay with my family who has been there from the start.?

Question

My boyfriend is being a jerk.H e and my family don't see eye to eye because my boyfriend and are going to have baby here soon.my family wants what is best for me and they don't think he is best for me .For starters he does not have a job .He lies to me and he is demanding to move up there. he fights with my family all the time. he threaten to harm my family. and know i don't know what to do .

Answer 1

i'm so sorry u are pregnant with his child. be thankful you have a good family. kick him to the curb and take care of yourself.
if you stay with him....he has no job how are you planning on paying for rent and food? i guess my taxes will have to pay for your trashy unemployed self. thanks, this is why i work so hard. make sure to send me a xmas card.

Answer 2

LOSE HIM!!! Just because you two are having a baby together does not mean you have to marry him. He sounds lazy, abusive, and he's a liar. You both sound too young to get married. Think how this relationship would affect your child. Would you like to be raised with people who are screaming, fighting and just plain don't get along? I would also call the police and get a restraining order against him. If he's threatening you and your family, it's the only way.

Answer 3

Leave him. He will not be a good father to your child. That child is better served without him. As much as it is good for a child to have a father, if that father doesn't provide for the child, is demanding and threatening, that child will be scarred by that man and not have the kind of life it deserves. Stay with your family. Always stay with your family. The only man you should ever be with is one that your family can get along with as well. It is SO important. If you do stay with your family and away from him, eventually he might change his ways and learn from his mistakes, but even if he doesn't it is better to not be with the man you described above.

Answer 4

Your parents are only interested in what is best for you; I wish I would have listened to my parents a lot more, regarding who they liked and didn't like for me. But I didn't, because I thought my heart would lead me in the best direction, and they just didn't seem to understand that. I was wrong, they were right.

He gets mad at your parents, because he knows they are right, and fears that he will lose you to who he really is. He is not proud of how he is, but not down on himself enough to where he's willing to change. And if he's threatening your parents with bodily harm for being right, what will he eventually do to you, when the two of you disagree.

Personally I would run like hell away from him, and find someone whom you can both love, and be supported by.

Answer 5

HOW CAN YOU MARRY A MAN WHO IS JOBLESS, DEMANDING AND A LIAR. YOU ARE VERY LUCKY TO HAVE A FAMILY WHO IS WILLING TO STAND BY YOU. HOW WILL THIS MAN SUPPORT YOU AND YOUR BABY. IF THIS MAN THREATENS TO HARM YOUR FAMILY, IMAGINE WHAT HE COULD DO TO YOU IF YOU MARRIED HIM. IF THESE THREATS CONTINUE, REPORT IT TO THE POLICE. GET AN ORDER OF PROTECTION. DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. STAY WITH YOUR FAMILY. THERE YOU ARE PROTECTED AND LOVED. I HOPE THIS HELPED YOU. I WISH YOU THE BEST OF LUCK IN THE FUTURE, YOU AND YOUR CHILD.

Answer 6

You've already answered your own question. If your boyfriend has threatened violence that's more than enough reason to ditch him. Call the police if you must, but the safety of yourself and your baby is more important.

Answer 7

Someone who's going to fight with your family and is going to threaten to harm your family is someone YOU DO NOT want to marry! Family comes first, and I personally wouldn't want him as family! YOu never mess with family!

Answer 8

If you are asking this question -- then NO he is not a person you want to marry. You will know in every part of your body who is right for you. A child is NOT a reason to marry a person.

Answer 9

I think this is a pretty easy question. you seem to be in an abusive relationship,even if most of the abuse is directed toward your family.The fact that you even question staying with him is a bad sign. You need to believe in yourself more to have better self esteem. You have to know you deserve way much better than that. I don't care of your age or anything, don't feel like ok I have baby I am obligated to stay with this man. I mean it might even turn out that if he's threatens violence then you could take him to court to sue for full custody for your child( after you give birth) and let them know you fear for your family and babies saftey. you never know when he may jus snap and you don't wanna take that chance. I'm not sure if you've been with this man for many years cuz then it makes it even harder but let me tell you, you just need to get out of this situation fast. You have your family to support you. I know you might feel some guilt because your baby wouldn't have his biological father with him but he'll understand it's for his or her own good when they're older. also I know you're gonna feel vulnerable and lonely without a man all of a sudden but don't go rushing to look for another one. that's distructive.You need to foucs on your now. feeling better about yourself, what you need to do about this situation, your future baby(again I am not sure of your age, it's your choice to keep the baby depending on how far along you are, you said you're having the baby soon so it seems you'll be keeping the baby). Just stay strong,talk to your family and friends alot. they're there to support you and you already know they have your back about leaving him. Your current boyfriend is way too controling and violent, you said he doesn't even have a job which sends me the message to me that he's not even trying to prepare for fatherhood, to at least support the baby financially. You can have the judge force him to get a job to pay for child support. Just imagine you're bring a baby into this world, you want that baby to be around so much hossitity,verbal abuse and violence? The first 5 years of a babies life is what's going to define them for the rest of their life because that's when their brain is forming and they could learn horriable behavor or lash out later on in life, or have all this anger inside and don't know why. It's a big deal and you don't want to put your baby AND your family through any of that. I know I don't know your boyfriend like you do so I'm not trying to assume anything and just going by the facts you presented. I know you might feel defensive now and think he's not a monster, he's sweet and this and that, but it kinda out rules all of that when you're putting a lot of people you love through abuse(fighting) and then subjecting your baby to that, even if he was loving with your baby, the baby seeing the fighting btw him and your family or with you, it'll really upset and mess the baby up psychologically. So you have a lot to make you want to stay away and brea up with him for good. If he doesn't back down and seems to get more controling and violent then you MUST call the police right then and there. don't let things get out of control. I know it'll be scary but the police need to handle that. Don't put harm towards your family, your baby and yourself. I hope you go through with parting from him and trying to get full custodey of your baby. with his violence and not having a job you won't have a problem with getting full custodey right and on top of that make sure you get a restraining order on him for you, your whole family and everyone's work because I'm sure he's gonna have a lot of rage and go wherever he can to tell you guys off. Protect them. I hope everything turns out peaceful, that no one gets hurt and that it's not TOO stressful for you.

Answer 10

DUH-that's reall hard to figure out...