everything has ben going wrong lately, mine money is so tight you can hear your ass cheecks squeak when you walk (my hubby's words) my hours have gone down dramitcally my hubby isnt getting hours as much as he should he is cranky all the time cuz EVERYDAY he has to work he never gets a day to himself we fight more than we used to im so upset nothing is going right...
all i need is some words of wisdom or some kind of comforting...
2006-10-05 07:07:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ General Health Care ➔ Other - General Health Care
were lucky we can pay rent and car insurance we cant even afford groceries... we fight way to mch that before.
2006-10-05 07:12:31 · update #1
btw Flo-nitty im not from usa im from canada
2006-10-05 07:32:16 · update #2
Calm down.. talk to your husband about you're problems.. Let him know everything is going to be okay... Take a couple deep breaths and Stay strong... Good Luck..
2006-10-05 07:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Nevaeh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but all i could understand was that u r going through some financial trouble becoz of which u and ur husband seem to be frustrated. if this is the problem then all i can say is that remember the good times u had, well if that time did'nt stay then neither will this. What really matters in life is being with ur family and not money. I myself went through a very very bad phase which lasted for about 7 yrs. but things r beginning to look up now. It all depends on how u want to view life as. Ur husband is working round the clock for whom?? U , so don't criticize him when he comes home. Make do with whatever time u have. And don't miss out on the fun as u r young and time will not come back. Also having money does not guarantee fun, u can have without money too. both of u seem quite tense about ur future which shows that both of u want to spend a comfortable life , together, ahead. The keyword here is TOGETHER. If u really love each other u'll find a way
2006-10-05 14:20:06 · answer #2 · answered by macy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you...believe me, been there and done that in some way or form.
We all have our bad days, but know these things:
1-No matter what, you have your family and friends that love you no matter what.
2-You have your health
3-(Knock on wood) It would be worse, i know its hard to see that right now, but it could be.
4-There is a plan, there is a reason for everything. Again, this may be hard to hear, but perhaps you and your husband are going through this to learn a lesson or to be able to look at what you do have instead of what you don't (each other).
Just keep working hard, believe in karma-or at least the meaning that what goes around comes around. If you guys keep working hard and trying, sooner or later, you will be rewarded.
Keep your head up!
2006-10-05 14:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anne Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been thru the exact same thing. You both are under tremendous stress. You two have to talk about your personal situation. Not how it is effecting you financially but emotionally. You obviously understand the cause and that is the best step in the right direction. Before you guys start arguing over something petty, just stop, take a breath and think before you speak. I wish you all the luck in the world. And remember that when one door closes another one opens.
2006-10-05 14:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does seem that way, when its bad its bad. Anything that can go wrong does go wrong. Just be patient, everything works out the way it should. Focus on the good and stay positive. When you are positive things seem to get better faster, or maybe it is because you are more productive in coming up with ideas about how to fix things...I don't really know why it works but it does. Being negative only creates more problems to deal with. Keep your chin up, and I hope that no one here says anything discouraging.
2006-10-05 14:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words of encouragement and words of wisdom?
How about some words of EMPOWERMENT!!!
My words of enouragement and words of wisdom are going to be one and the same.
STOP thinking about the situation as it is and start thinking about the situation as you would like it to be. Do not keep looking at where you are but VISUALIZE where you would like to be.
START turning problems into goals. That is once you have in your mind an image of what you'd like your life to be like, then start making plans (set goals). Begin with the most pressing issues first (prioritize). Getting food is an immediate priority. Do you have food banks in your area? Churches that may help? Make sure that you reach out for help NOW. It is not embarassing to ask for help, it is stupid to starve. Then, address issues like cutting expenses or increasing income.
As for your relationship, it is totally understandable that you and your partner are not at peace right now. Who could be...but leave concerns about the relationship aside and deal with the real issues that face you...real meaning life sustaining (food first) and life enriching (better financial circumstances next).
I am sure that your relationship problems will resolve themselves if the two of you start working on solving the real problems through goal setting and working at achieving your goals. Most relationships that go through these circumstances and work them through even become stronger.
I want to say that it was brave of you to post your circumstances. I am confident that because you were courageous enough to share with us all where you are at that you will be able to change your life for the better.
YOU CAN DO IT!!!
2006-10-05 14:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by pre-pastor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the face of adversity hold on to your husband and have him hold on to you. Life is hard at times....together is the best way to overcome. Talk to your guy and instead of spending time fighting, spend time looking for a solution. I wish you and your husband the best. One last thing my mom always told me that God gives and God takes...to be patient He wants me to learn a lesson from the hard times, in the end he will reward me with double which i lost. Whether this is true to you or not, it always gave me a different perspective of my present situation.
2006-10-05 14:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by WarWolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say that when things go wrg, it's an opportunity for things to get better... Sometimes, when you get soo broke that you're struggling, it could be a sign of money coming your way. One of you might get a promotion or get a better job. When things go bad, there's always a turn for the best.. Good Luck!
2006-10-05 14:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to USA, where the rich get richer and poor stays poor. Everyone struggles, You have to suck it up. There are always going to be good times and bad, now you are going through some bad times. Sometimes we need a challenge in life and bad times are a good example of overcoming obstacles to get to where you need to get to.
2006-10-05 14:17:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to feel like the world is crashing down on you but it will pick up
2006-10-05 14:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by cremcharl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋