Am I wrong to feel this way?

Question

I am going for a job interview in about an hour. My husband called and told me to go dazzle them with my beauty. I am more than qualified for the position, so does he think that the only reason I will get it is because of my looks?

Answer 1

This is a touchy subject, because you are very beautiful. As a guy, I would suggest that your husband was trying to pay you a compliment, and it just happened to be in the wrong context.

If I were your husband I would compliment you daily, so if he does the same thing then it was probably harmless.

But it does raise a touchy subject. How much do looks affect job interviews and career? Unfortunately very much. The glass ceiling while fading is still there, and women still get paid less then men for comparable positions. So it is impossible to know how much your good looks have helped or hindered you in positions unfortunately.

So I wouldn't take it personally. Just let your husband know that while you appreciate his compliments, you would prefer that he doesn't mention them in relation to your career. let him know that it is more then your good looks that has gotten you where you are today, and you are very clear on that. Then let him know how much you love him, and thank him telling you how beautiful you are.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Questions like that are the reason us women are the center of a lot of jokes... because we want compliments then turn them around. Poor guy can't he say anything right? Sounds like you have a nice guy that compliments you and cares a lot to even remember you have an interview let alone call to tell you to "dazzle them with your beauty" Good luck and lighten up!

Answer 3

Just like any man, my husband included they can get a bad case of foot in mouth disease. They mean well, but the words come out all wrong. I wouldnt worry about it, go to the job interview and dazzle them with your talent and brains.

Answer 4

I doubt he thinks that, but your beauty is a part of your charm, I'm sure. If you are the most qualified, I would hope the employer would give you the job based on that alone. HOWEVER, the world isn't a perfect place, and some employers are not fair, and beauty plays a part. Not right, but it's the way life is.... Good luck with the job!!

Answer 5

Awww, 'gimme a break! Of course he doesn't think you are only going to get the job because of your beauty. Your husband was giving you both a compliment and (hopefully) a boost of self-confidence. I'm sure he thought it was humorous, as did I. Don't read so much into it or you'll drive yourself (and him) crazy.

Also, as one who is on the other side of the table/desk giving interviews, beauty certainly does not hurt! Physical attractiveness coupled with self-confidence is an automatic attention-getter. Use it to your advantage without being obvious about it. It's the first two things about you that the interviewer is likely to notice after he notices the way you are dressed. To me, BOTH of those traits make my interviewees more memorable with all other things being equal.

Good luck!

Answer 6

No, I am sure he didn't in any way shape or form mean it that way. He was just trying to pump you up and that's what popped out. At least he cared enough to call and check up on you. Don't freak out because what will happen is that is all you will think about during the interview and you will blow it!
Talk to him about later, tonight, in a calm manner. Bring it up randomly like, "hey honey, I had that interview but I am worried about it, do you think I am qualified? In what ways?" If he still answers with beauty...then bring up that you have so much more to offer and does he see it?
Best of luck to you in your interview! I know you'll do great! Wow them with your EVERYTHING!!!

Answer 7

It's not why he thinks you'll get the job. But, you're beauty is definitely an edge. Even if the interviewer is a woman, the person who looks the best makes a better impression. Also, trust me on this, no matter how straght laced the man is who is interviewing you, he's going to hire someone who is good looking. He can't help it. It's testosterone. Your husband made the right call. Good luck.

Answer 8

I've checked your profile out before. Yes you come to the interview with education and experience. Unfortunately it is not just those qualities which are considered. Use all the tools at your disposal. If you get the job the less sightly applicants will blame your looks anyway. Dress to look your best in the clothing which is appropriate for the position.
You only get the one chance to make the first impression.

Friendly, educated, experienced and not hard to look at, sounds like you'd have to make a big social mistake to miss.

Answer 9

I don't know- maybe he thinks you are overly concerned with your looks and mentioning your looks is something you can relate to. I can't imagine what another person is thinking, much less your hsuband. Are you going for a modeling job?
If it were me, I'd assume he meant that because I'll be competing with many qualified candidates, my smile and looks might help me to make a positive impression.
Nice photo, by the way.

Answer 10

OK look, im trying to be objective...
You are very attractive, lets face the facts.
But, going in and "dazzling" them only because of your looks and not your resume is kind of shallow.
Im part of the hiring process at my job, and looks are the last thing to come into play. If youre gorgeous but an idiot, i aint hiring you!