i do alot for him , i work full time, but i still feel like he doesn't care
when i come home and cook clean and take care of our baby.
2006-10-05 06:57:17 · 18 answers · asked by rockerad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't help wondering whether you have time for him.
Maybe he should do his fair share of the in-house work, then the two of you can spend some time together, paying attention to each other.
You should tell him that you need him to start pitching in with all the work, so the two of you can be together more.
When you do everything for him, and he doesn't reciprocate or even do his share of communal work, then you're just a live-in maid, cook, nanny. People tend to not value mere servants.
Plus, you're working all the time, which isn't fair to you.
If he won't do his part, try couples-counseling. If he won't do that, get into counseling for yourself.
2006-10-05 09:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you guys need to talk. Be honest with him and let him know you feel. Maybe you guys need a romantic evening alone.. just the two of you. Sometimes we can get so bogged down with our normal day to day routine that things just get kinda boring. Maybe it's not that he doesn't love u anymore, maybe he' just bored.
Another thing... how old is your baby? If your baby is less than a year and a half or so, it could be that what you're feeling is a part of post partum blues.
2006-10-05 07:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
E-i-i-i-iy! You mention a concern of many Dual-income families.
A CORE REASON for his (and are you sure it is not partly your own "creation"?) dissatisfaction is your (including his) misperception of W.I.I.F.M. (What's In It For Me.)
MAKE IT A POINT and stand by this to SCHEDULE A SPECIFIC TIME just for the two of you - together (without "all the obligations") every so often.
It can be as simple as an evening together in the patio for dinner to a more "complicated" trip (for a weekend) to a vacation spot, like a Carribean cruise.
MAKE IT AS STRESS-FREE as possible and I'm sure you will rekindle the light you saw in each other when you first met.
2006-10-05 07:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your first step is to sit him down and talk!! You 2 made vows to one another, remind him of this! Let him know how your feeling. If his reaction is big deal..............I'd say move on! You don't have to spend the only life you have doing all you can for another human being who doesn't deserve you.
I hope the talk works, because divorce isn't a fun chapter in life to experience.
Good Luck
2006-10-05 07:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to clear this up. You can 't go on worrying and blaming. Get the two of you into couple counseling. Get it out and things will improve, even if it seems hard at first. If this marriage is worth saving, it is worth working on. If he won't go, go on your own and make a plan for your future.
2006-10-05 07:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men "just dont get it" Sometimes they do care and we dont think they do, but they arent as touchy feely emotional like we are, so we need to feel that. When they think it they dont always show it. But its there. Just ask him how he feels, Tell him how you feel and hope he is honest with you. Ask him what you have to do to make him fall back in love with you. Love is tough, but just keep the communication open. Goodluck!
2006-10-05 07:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good woman and if you feel or believe this it's problem true! But it's OK you sound like a very independent woman that can be a strong person with or without him!
2006-10-05 07:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by jovi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how long have you been married? It sounds like he's just starting to take you for granted. He doesn't have to "woo" you anymore, he already won you, so now he's not trying. Just talk to him, tell him how you feel, but be careful not to yell or accuse him when you do it. Just say something like "I feel like you don't care for me anymore, or care about the things I do".
2006-10-05 07:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by i rock! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him..let him know how unhappy you are right now and try to find a common ground.
Lack of communication can ruin a marriage.
2006-10-05 07:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by 8s_fun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about it so he will be aware of the way you feel
2006-10-05 08:53:38 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋