I was 23 and my ex was 32, thirteen years ago when I left him. I loved him terribly, but was defeated upon trying but failing at having a child with him. I hated myself, so I just ended it. He was just such a great guy, I thought he deserved a better wife and the prospect of having children (he wanted 4)He called me 8 years ago to ask how I was. I told him I was married but still had no kids. I asked about him and he said he was not married and had no kids. I cried like a baby. I apologized about being too immature at the time to have had the sense to stay with him, as we could have worked it out. Today I am still married and have one child thru a surrogate. I feel guilty and want to know that my ex is happy and has kids. He is 46 now. have I ruined his life enough, and should I just let him be?
2006-10-05 06:57:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him alone and work on your own relationship. Which clearly needs help since you keep pining for yor old flame.
2006-10-05 07:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should get in contact with him. He called the last time to check on you! Now it's your turn. A friend is always a friend! Don't make the mistake of doing what you did last call though, don't bring up the old baggage, it's hurtful, to both of you. You care about him and it's perfectly ok in my moral def to contact him and make srue his life is going well. Just leave the kid issue out of it.
2006-10-05 07:30:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a sad story all the way around. I am sorry for you both. I say you should just let him and let "it" be. Why bring up all the old pain, for him and for you.
2006-10-05 07:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by eagfan5 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone. He probably doesn't want to hear from you. If he ever does, he'll call you.
2006-10-05 07:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by tbayxxxv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!
2006-10-05 11:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋