Women when u say u love your husband or boyfriend but you not in love with him what do this mean?

Question

because i have an ex girlfriend who said that she loves me but not in love with me and she said that she just want to start over as friends again and rebuilt our relationship now do this sound like a good thing to do because i admit our relationship has been rocky and do people who has been in a relationship with someone just fall back in love with that person because we still hang out, go to the movies and kiss each other good night. Do u think starting over as friends can rebuilt a strong relationship again this question is mainly for the women. I need a woman opionion

Answer 1

love is word which can be used for many people, but you can be "in love" with only one. I think she need help, she's lost and doesn't understand what she is feeling for you at this stage, that's why she still wants to meet you to get her feelings clear. So 50% of what comes out of this idea depands on you because it takes two to make a couple.
So my advice - just hang on, unfortunately we women don't know most of the time what we want until it happens.

Answer 2

I'm going to assume that you are a MALE person, even though your name suggests otherwise.

I would say that some of the best relationships are from a friendship start. You have to be good friends before you can be good lovers. Loving someone and being in love are different levels of love. THe "loving someone" is sort of an open 'love ya as a person' type. The "in love" scenario goes much deeper and is almost a worship of sorts. That's the level that transcends death and remains with the person until they pass away.

A relationship can start as friend, turn to love, and after many years may become an "in love" because of the spending of time with that person, sharing joys and pains, fights and make-ups. So that, after many years, both parties are "in love" which is a much stronger, longer lasting bonding between the persons.

I think it's fine to start over; at least she didn't give up on you or of the possibility that love can grow between you both. Give this relationship another try. Don't you think she's worth it?

My best to you both!

Answer 3

We are not the same people our grandparents were. This happens all the time I have done it myself.New love is an amazing feeling and when it is right it can force a powerful feeling of mutual love and respect that will bind you two for life. That feeling of "oneness" never really goes away. But that excitement of the early period can not stay forever.It is completely natural for the excitement to wear away.When someone says they are in love with you that meaning of love is like a fairy tale, but when they say that they love you but are not in love with you it means: that there feelings have changed they don't look at you they same way but they still care about you ,and i wouldn't want to work some thing out with some one who feels that way about me

Answer 4

sounds to me like she wants to step back and get a good look at you again,maybe things went to fast the first time for her,she still cares for you and doesn't want to let you go,but there is something in the relationship that bothers her,she needs to be sure YOU are the right one for her,if you really care for this girl then wait it out,do as she asks for a while,discover one another in a whole new way,think of interesting things for the two of you to do together to bring out the real you and the real her fun things you have never tried that don't involve intimacey,let her see that there is a careing loving individual in there somewhere and that you are willing to take it slow for a while,just for her,she is loves you but the spark has gone out,you need to rekindle the fire

Answer 5

To truly love someone is to care about them to the very depth of who and what they are, what they believe, what they like, what they dislike, how they respond under pressure. It's so much more than what's their favorite color? Who's their favorite musician? All time favorite movie?

It's knowing that they don't like fruit flavors in their colas, no cherry or lemon cokes. It's knowing just what temperature she likes her bubble bath. It's knowing that he prefers wearing cotton and why. It's knowing the perfect birthday present when they didn't even know what to ask for. It's looking at each other across a room and sharing a private joke without saying a word.

Loving someone is the ability to see past the polite response to "How's it going?" and knowing that they really aren't "Fine, thanks."

Answer 6

I love you but i am not in love with you translates to this: I love you, you are a good person, we have good times together, however, i feel i cant be me with you. you have a preconcieved notion of who and what i am, i cant connect with you emotionally because you have at some point made it apparent that i cant trust you.
Starting over as friends will be just thaqt starting over as friends. Sounds like she just isn't on the same page as you.

Answer 7

WOMAN'S OPINION:

I'M ANGRY WITH MYSELF FOR "FEELING" THAT INFATUATION IS "LOVE"!
WESTERN CULTURE WE ARE TAUGHT ROMAMTIC "LOVE" IS USUALLY ASSOCIATED WITH THAT CHEMICAL HORMONE INFATUATION.
THAT "FEELING" THAT
ADRELINE URGE THAT'S SEXUAL ATTRACTION
THAT USUALLY LASTS TWO YEARS BIOLOGICAL DESIGN TO
INSURE THE FATHER STAYS TO ENSURE CHILDREN
THAT'S THE INITIAL STAGE IN A LOVE RELATIONSHIP

STARTING OVER AS FRIENDS?
YOU WILL ALWAYS BE FAMILY ESPECIALLY WITH CHILDREN THAT'S ETERNAL PROGRESS ISN'T IT?

LOVE IS THE REASON
THE MYSTICAL TRANSFORMATION THAT CREATES HEROES HUSBANDS
FATHERS ITS
TENDERNESS, ENCOURAGMENT, AFFECTION, COMFORT, EASE WE FEEL BEFORE AND AFTER I THINK LOVE IS MANY BENEFICIAL THINGS

TRUE LOVE IS A BOND, COVENANT THAT TRANSENDS THIS, THAT AND THE OTHERS TRUE LOVE IS A BLEND OF EMOTIONAL SPIRITUAL PSYCHOLOGICAL ELEMENTS THAT, TRANSFORMS BOTH CREATES A DYNAMIC COUPLE, A FAMILY, PERSONAL AND MUTUAL HAPPPINESS, CONTENTMENT;

MY FAMILY IS AN INSPIRATION AND TENDER REMINDER TO ME OF GODS GRACE MANIFESTED IN FAITH HOPE, CREATION
I AM A BETTER PERSON BECAUSE I KNOW MY HUSBAND

AT ITS BEST LOVE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPS DO THAT; MAKE US BETTER THAN WE COULD BE ALONE TRASNFORMS US INTO EVERYDAY HEROES
LOVE, FRIENDSHIP, COMPATIBILITY, ENHANCED

"...LOVE, PAIN THE WHOLE DAMN THING..." TRANSFORMS US

MENS FANTASY "LOVE" OBJECTS: HEIDI KLUM, KATE MOSS TALL MODELS

SEX OBJECT OR OBJECT OF YOUR AFFECTION

ARE MEN "IN LOVE" WITH THEIR FANTASY PERFECT MODEL

I DON'T NEED A MAN'S OPINION LOL : )

Answer 8

She loves you and doesn't want anything bad to happen to you, but she isn't head-over-heels in love with you anymore. The spark is gone. If you want to start over with her, you need to change in some way, which sounds mean. But if she fell out-of-love with you once, she'll do it again.

Answer 9

I think this is a bad idea.Stand your ground if you love her tell her so. You can love some one yes and you can be in love with some. But you cant break it down and rebuild it like a building.It doesn't work that way.It sounds like to me she got deeper issues shes not telling you.

Answer 10

She loves you as a deep friend but unfortunately you don't meet all the qualities she looks for in a life partner!